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Fuck being in the frienuds zone
Tommatt
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So I'm just gonna type my typos, as I don't feel like correcting them, and there are many of you in the same situation I am. Women love me, all my friends wives love me, in fact, ask any woman who is taken, I'm a 10/10. I'm funny, attractive, and smart. I'm sweet, thoutfull, and sexy. Yet, I always end up in the friends zone.
Ladies, what takes it from datable to just a friend?
Guys, what do you do to keep it sexual, and not just casual/friendshipul(is that a word?)
To be honest, I havn't had a date date in 5 years. With friends, girls I'm not trying anything with, any sitution i think has no future, I'm money. Maybe I'm doing something wrong, I do know I always end up in the friends zone. Every body's GF Lovees me, everybodys wife loves me, but I just seem not to be able to get into a situation where a woman gives a shit about me for me.
Ladies, what takes it from datable to just a friend?
Guys, what do you do to keep it sexual, and not just casual/friendshipul(is that a word?)
To be honest, I havn't had a date date in 5 years. With friends, girls I'm not trying anything with, any sitution i think has no future, I'm money. Maybe I'm doing something wrong, I do know I always end up in the friends zone. Every body's GF Lovees me, everybodys wife loves me, but I just seem not to be able to get into a situation where a woman gives a shit about me for me.
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Not only a myth, but potential grounds for infraction.
What you need to do is meeting girls who are not interested in frying. Maybe go to places that specifically advertise their disdain for frying and pretzels.
It also helps if you don't act like a frustrated little twat bemoaning his lack of getting any. If there's one thing that makes a dude unlovable it's him being a whiny wanker.
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Friend zone kinda sucks though, but there's an easy way out of it.
Do the online dating thing, ask women out that you meet in whatever social setting you regularly find yourself in. Also stop telling yourself you're a 10/10.
my unofficial autobio will be accompanied with tips on how to smile
cause I've found that when they don't see you frown, they never know that you're a threat
and they don't sweat you when you came around
This probably isn't the same problem you have though.
It's like the Negative Zone, only populated by friends instead of antimatter.
The friendzone is a myth perpetrated on emotionally vulnerable adolescent males that once you hit a particular duration of relationship with a female without trying to engage with her sexually that she stops viewing you as having a penis at all.
They may very well enjoy your personality, and your company. However the truth is they have no desire to get anything more from you than they are currently getting now. Someone once said that women know pretty quick after meeting you if they are willing to sleep with you. That can change over time in some cases but I would not count on it. Of course your friends think your a 10, or a great guy. They are your friends, they like you otherwise they would not be (unless you are useful), second stop letting women put you in the friend zone. If a woman says lets just be friends it is perfectly acceptable to say no, the fact that I am interested in you pretty much precludes us being friends and I do not need the hassle. Don't be someones emergency dick in a jar that they keep on display.
Ever heard the job interview metaphor? Imagine if you submitted your resume to a company, they pulled you in for an interview and tell you that you are absolutely 100% what they are looking for however they are not going to hire you. What they are going to do is keep your resume on file and compare all future applicants to it. Moreover even if they do not measure up we are still going to hire them. Then we are going to call you at 3am to tell you just how badly they are not measuring up.
There's a reason that the ladder theory is grounds for immediate punishment in H&A.
Granted, I'm not all about this ladder theory thing, but the friend zone is like goddamn evolution. We can debate how it works and the exact mechanisms of it, but the evidence that it's happening is overwhelming.
edit: Accepting the offer of friendship? Who the fuck even thinks like that?
You meet someone, enjoy being around them, at some point you develop feelings for them and it turns out they don't feel the same way. You continue to be friends because you don't just stop being friends with people over something like that.
The friend zone is a useful little conceit for explaining the concept that being a girl's "friend" with the ultimate goal of getting in her pants is fruitless. Trying to make it into anything more than that is dumb.
my unofficial autobio will be accompanied with tips on how to smile
cause I've found that when they don't see you frown, they never know that you're a threat
and they don't sweat you when you came around
Do people actually do this? I think we're talking about two different things here. I'm talking about when you're into a girl who you're already friends with, and she's not into you (often because, in her words, she doesn't want to risk the friendship, or something similar). I don't think I've ever met a single guy who has sought or continues to seek friendship with a woman solely because someday he might get to nail her.
edit: Because the girls know damn well they can get around that friend zone with a minimal amount of effort.
granted they're not the brightest women, but hey neither is OP a shining example of his gender
my unofficial autobio will be accompanied with tips on how to smile
cause I've found that when they don't see you frown, they never know that you're a threat
and they don't sweat you when you came around
A unique microcosm of swivel-chair pedants.
We can certainly agree on that. Maybe he's really young? But I'm guessing not with the mention of his friends having wives.
Ohh but it does remind me of a funny story. I used to work on her back, neck, and various other body parts quite a bit because of various medical issues. Now mind you I have never touched anything that would be covered by a bikini. However one time her first husband decided to make a snide comment to the effect of even if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't know what to do with her. My response was "X I've touched more parts of your wife's body than you have."
Oooh ooh - this doesn't get said enough.
I think what you are trying to say is that you are good friends with someone. "Friend zone" is a term thought up by creepy men who believe in ladder theory and implicates that men only talk to women to fuck with them. They consider 'friend zone' a place you should never want to be in.
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Not to mention that this whole "being her friend by lying to her to try to take advantage of her" is self-contradictory.
It's an excuse that spineless people use to give themselves an excuse to not even try. That's the sum and total of it.
Wow, WTF. Seriously? Sounds like they pretty much consider women nothing but whores.
Well, I think Aroduc is more correct about the origins, but this is the reason mentioning Ladder Theory and related concepts results in you getting punched in the face if you bring it up in Help/Advice.
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my unofficial autobio will be accompanied with tips on how to smile
cause I've found that when they don't see you frown, they never know that you're a threat
and they don't sweat you when you came around
the male friend zone is for chicks we just don't want to fuck
do you really think women are out on the prowl for tail like men are
i mean honestly, the idea that men and women's brains work exactly the same because oh my god sexism is just asinine
A thousand times this
What? Really?
Are you fucking kidding me
you two haven't spent all that much time at bars have you
my unofficial autobio will be accompanied with tips on how to smile
cause I've found that when they don't see you frown, they never know that you're a threat
and they don't sweat you when you came around
most of the time it's men coming on to women, and that is at a place that women go to to get laid
Or other areas where women exists.
The friend zone is not that, it's the idea that given a period of time your friendship has strengthed to the point that you couldn't forsee yourself dating them in any way (it'd be too weird, it'd risk the friendship, etc etc)
And I've placed females firmly into friend zone territory, it's not a male-exclusive zone, however it's bitched about mostly by males