Our new Indie Games subforum is now open for business in G&T. Go and check it out, you might land a code for a free game. If you're developing an indie game and want to post about it, follow these directions. If you don't, he'll break your legs! Hahaha! Seriously though.
Our rules have been updated and given their own forum. Go and look at them! They are nice, and there may be new ones that you didn't know about! Hooray for rules! Hooray for The System! Hooray for Conforming!
Transgender, Gender Identity in general (topic shift)
Yesterday, I was lurking at Feministing when I found this thread. It's called "Transphobia in Seventeen."
Short version: A girl starts dating a guy. He tells her he's wearing chest bandages for a sports injury, and won't let her see/touch him below the belt. She eventually finds out he was actually a biological female, presenting as a man, and eventually wanted to get gender reassignment.
An argument erupted in the comments over whether or not a transgendered (in this case, pre-op) person needed to tell their boyfriend/girlfriend about their "situation." It broke down into two camps:
A) If you're going to be in an intimate relationship with someone, there needs to be honesty. The girl in the story was heterosexual and thought she was in a relationship with a biological male. It was wrong of her partner to deceive her.
Transgendered people are under no obligation to "out" themselves to anyone, even a partner. The partner has no right to know anything about their biological equipment. In the story, the "boyfriend" was presenting as male, and that's all that matters.
Now, I can see that a post-op transgendered person wouldn't necessarily "need" to reveal their "state," since they physically match the gender they are presenting as. But pre-op is a little different. I mean, what happens when you have sex? Isn't that kind of a bad time to "reveal" things?