Our new Indie Games subforum is now open for business in G&T. Go and check it out, you might land a code for a free game. If you're developing an indie game and want to post about it, follow these directions. If you don't, he'll break your legs! Hahaha! Seriously though.
Our rules have been updated and given their own forum. Go and look at them! They are nice, and there may be new ones that you didn't know about! Hooray for rules! Hooray for The System! Hooray for Conforming!
I made a post a little while ago about getting back into a relationship with an ex.. well we've been at it for a while now and for the most part, things are fairly good but I am starting to have one concern I was hoping I could get some input on.
For whatever reason, the girl I am dating thinks I am just an absolute ass-magnet and that any girl I interact with wants to sleep with me within seconds. This is, of course, not at all the truth, but in her mind it is. Because of this, she doesn't like me making friends that are girls or talking to other females in general. I have several female friends that I have known much longer then her who have always been nothing more then friends, and she gets a little upset any time they contact me and I respond.. she has said on a number of occasions that she doesn't understand why I am holding on to these people from my past, etc, all the reasons I shouldn't talk to girls.
Now her not wanting me to talk to other girls is not a big problem for me. I love her, and we've come to an understanding that my friends are my friends, but I have no problem not going out and meeting new friends that are female. Not a big deal. My problem comes in the double standard that is becoming more and more evident in that requirement. She is a beautiful girl, and thus gets a ton of male attention, especially considering she works at a restaraunt where all the guys just want to get drunk and bang. The other day she called and said the bartender at the place asked her to hang out sometime and I was really surprised. How could she think it would be ok to go hang out 1 on 1 with a guy she knows is interested in her, when she doesn't even want me to TALK to another girl? If I proposed that situation to her but the other way around, she would have gone balistic.
The trouble is two fold - one, I trust her. Completely. I know no matter how hard a guy tries, she would never do anything with anyone else. She genuinely just wants to make friends and be social, she is innocent and often times doe-eyed in that she doesn't recognize that a lot of guys are just trying to get in her pants. So every time I bring something like this up, I feel stupid because I know she can just hang out and set boundries. However, part 2, is that she has different expectations for me and thats what really bothers me. That whole do as I say, not as I do thing is very frustrating. However, I am the one who asked to get back together - is it my responsibility to bite the bullet here to show her I care?
I know its a power game to a certain extent. She never felt in control in our relationship before and she sees the opportunity to do so now because I am trying so hard.
Anyone care to share in experiences with jealous girlfriends? Do they get over as they gain confidence in the relationship or is it a path doomed for failure because she will never trust me?