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I haven't been around in a while, but H/A is where I always used to go to get some level-headed opinions on heavy problems, and I'm hoping the resource is still wide open.
A little backstory: I'm 23, and an only child from a single parent. Some of you might remember my thread last April about moving back home to help my mom out of a financial mess. I'd promised myself from the day I moved out at 18 that I'd never move back, so I was pretty apprehensive, but I figured family is important so I went through with it.
Frankly, it's been hell. Since moving here my social life has fallen to shit and my financial situation hasn't done much better. I'm working full-time as a web developer at the local paper, and pay all of the bills except the mortgage and car. I also put $600 into savings every month in anticipation of a move to Seattle.
The major problem is that my mom has a gambling addiction. I just gave her $300 from my savings to cover the mortgage becuase she went to Laughlin for the weekend. Something similar has happened every month since I moved here - the denominations vary, but it's rather telling that my savings account has not once seen over $700 in the 6 months that I've been keeping it.
I've done what I can think of to curb her habit: I hold on to her debit card so that she has to get cash from the bank when she wants to spend; I took over the bills so that she could focus on getting out of debt; I buy half the food and gas becuase it's only fair. I brought these things to her attention today before I gave her the check becuase I need to know that she understands that every time I give her money I get that much further from Seattle. Her response was to give me a guilt trip about how I don't trust her, and how I should be there for her becuase she helped me out in college. It was pretty disheartening...
I cannot keep supporting her, but without the money for a move I'm at a loss as to what to do. She's not willing to change - she's made that pretty damn clear - and unfortunately my circle of reliable friends isn't exactly... there. Honestly I've never felt more trapped. I flat-out refuse to give her anymore money, but when the car's back up for reposession, or the house... shit... I don't see where I really have a choice.
Sorry if I went off on a tangent - I'm sure you can imagine how this is weighing on me. Any advice, similar stories, etc... are incredibly appreciated. More than anything I just want to get out and get back on with my LIFE.