Update 2: Ha, she called me this morning wondering if she made the right decision to break it off. So I told her that no way in hell would I want to get back with someone who cheated on me and lied about it for months. That kinda shook her and she was trying to explain how she didn't mean to do it and it just happened (yea fucking right).
I told her to stop contacting me and let me get on with my life.
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Hi 5 Avicus! Now you know the power a pimp feels when one of his hoes "steps outta line".
Protip: Don't go looking for a new relationship. Do you first( love yourself, concentrate on yourself 1st.)..the rest will follow when you are'nt looking.
And get with some of your people and chug down some brews.
One of my best friends said something to me when my last relationship went up in flames (in a startlingly similar fashion to the OP's), based on her own past relationship troubles, and I have always thought it was sound advice: "I decided that the best revenge against my ex was for me to live well."
Take care of yourself, let yourself be angry, but use this opportunity to pamper and spoil yourself. Don't be afraid to do things alone, but don't sequester yourself away from your friends either. Have fun. Take pictures of yourself having fun. Basically, date yourself for a while - you're hot, you're into you, you're a hoot to be around!
No, using your ex's passwords to log into their accounts to check on them and what they're doing is creepy.
if Dan Savage doesn't condemn it then neither do I
This is totally different. Dan Savage would never condone this sort of post-relationship snooping. Shit is over dude, man the fuck up. Stop scrotum-snooping around (using Dan's new phrase) and either call up your ex and rage at her, or be a man and move on.
No, using your ex's passwords to log into their accounts to check on them and what they're doing is creepy.
if Dan Savage doesn't condemn it then neither do I
This is totally different. Dan Savage would never condone this sort of post-relationship snooping. Shit is over dude, man the fuck up. Stop scrotum-snooping around (using Dan's new phrase) and either call up your ex and rage at her, or be a man and move on.
Your choice.
Seriously, logging into your ex's journal to check her posts is fucked up.
Update 2: Ha, she called me this morning wondering if she made the right decision to break it off. So I told her that no way in hell would I want to get back with someone who cheated on me and lied about it for months. That kinda shook her and she was trying to explain how she didn't mean to do it and it just happened (yea fucking right).
I told her to stop contacting me and let me get on with my life.
Not being sarcastic:
NICE.
Pick up a new hobby and get good at it. Drawing, guitar, panflute, etc.
No, using your ex's passwords to log into their accounts to check on them and what they're doing is creepy.
if Dan Savage doesn't condemn it then neither do I
This is totally different. Dan Savage would never condone this sort of post-relationship snooping. Shit is over dude, man the fuck up. Stop scrotum-snooping around (using Dan's new phrase) and either call up your ex and rage at her, or be a man and move on.
Your choice.
And it's cases like this that set a bad precedent. If he hadn't checked, he'd have never found out what she was really like and might have gotten back together with her.
It may have been wrong but he should still be glad he did it.
No, using your ex's passwords to log into their accounts to check on them and what they're doing is creepy.
if Dan Savage doesn't condemn it then neither do I
This is totally different. Dan Savage would never condone this sort of post-relationship snooping. Shit is over dude, man the fuck up. Stop scrotum-snooping around (using Dan's new phrase) and either call up your ex and rage at her, or be a man and move on.
Your choice.
Seriously, logging into your ex's journal to check her posts is fucked up.
Fucked. Up.
To be honest, if one of my ex's had a livejournal, I would be curious to see if she mentioned me less and less after a certain point, or she had interests in other guys, or if I had hurt her. She was a big part of his life for a long time, it's only human to be curious and it's quite natural to want to learn something from that text. OP wasn't in the right to use his ex's password to read that information (even if it was accidental), but considering how it happened it's not really that creepy.
You guys act so crazy about things sometimes, you can say "hey, that's wrong" without making someone feel like they're completely insane. Vinegar and honey, and all that.
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Great, you gonna drive by her house later too to see if she's home? Maybe hack into her email and see who she's talking to? Let it go. She dumped you, she wanted to dump you awhile ago but didn't, probably because she wanted to avoid the stalker/creepo/clingy crap we're seeing now. But it's over and now you're being the weirdo by hacking into her livejournal to check in on her. That's creepy and you need to cut it out.
Did you not read about the whole 'cheating on him with about fifteen different guys and bragging about that shit on the internet' thing?
Yes, what Avicus did is wrong; I'm not defending that. But how about you place the blame directly where it should be and recognize that his now ex-gf is a pretty despicable human being instead of calling
someone a stalker for checking someone's livejournal?
For god's sake you reacted like he was standing over her whilst she slept. Jesus Christ. It's the fucking internet
No, using your ex's passwords to log into their accounts to check on them and what they're doing is creepy.
Cheating on someone multiple times and bragging about it on the internet is objectively worse, and you're a bad person for defending someone with that level of moral decay
Update 2: Ha, she called me this morning wondering if she made the right decision to break it off. So I told her that no way in hell would I want to get back with someone who cheated on me and lied about it for months. That kinda shook her and she was trying to explain how she didn't mean to do it and it just happened (yea fucking right).
I told her to stop contacting me and let me get on with my life.
A+ man.
Good work and all that, lesser men would've crumbled under the opportunity.
Update 2: Ha, she called me this morning wondering if she made the right decision to break it off. So I told her that no way in hell would I want to get back with someone who cheated on me and lied about it for months. That kinda shook her and she was trying to explain how she didn't mean to do it and it just happened (yea fucking right).
I told her to stop contacting me and let me get on with my life.
Well done, broseph. It will take some time to put all of this behind you, but you can at least take solace in the fact that you stood up for yourself.
I'd just like to add that while I still don't condone snooping it seems to have had a positive effect here. Had you not snooped you might've actually taken her back.
No, using your ex's passwords to log into their accounts to check on them and what they're doing is creepy.
if Dan Savage doesn't condemn it then neither do I
And Abby, Margo & Prudence would find it bizarre. Apparently he thinks it's normal to snoop through even your current SO's emails, texts, etc no matter what and it's totally ok/expected to do so and that's just odd, obsessive and paranoid.
jesus you're pretentious. maybe you should follow vivixenne's lead.
So it's over, you got the closure you needed, and her actions should make it easier in the long run.
In the future, though, what you did was wrong. Don't use the fact that she was unfaithful be validation for invading her privacy, because it's not. In the end, both of you proved that you are not really trustworthy, though her to a much larger degree. Next time take the high road. Future You is bound to thank you for it.
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I told her to stop contacting me and let me get on with my life.
Protip: Don't go looking for a new relationship. Do you first( love yourself, concentrate on yourself 1st.)..the rest will follow when you are'nt looking.
And get with some of your people and chug down some brews.
Take care of yourself, let yourself be angry, but use this opportunity to pamper and spoil yourself. Don't be afraid to do things alone, but don't sequester yourself away from your friends either. Have fun. Take pictures of yourself having fun. Basically, date yourself for a while - you're hot, you're into you, you're a hoot to be around!
This is totally different. Dan Savage would never condone this sort of post-relationship snooping. Shit is over dude, man the fuck up. Stop scrotum-snooping around (using Dan's new phrase) and either call up your ex and rage at her, or be a man and move on.
Your choice.
Seriously, logging into your ex's journal to check her posts is fucked up.
Fucked. Up.
Not being sarcastic:
NICE.
Pick up a new hobby and get good at it. Drawing, guitar, panflute, etc.
Lay that proverbial smackdown, OP.
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And it's cases like this that set a bad precedent. If he hadn't checked, he'd have never found out what she was really like and might have gotten back together with her.
It may have been wrong but he should still be glad he did it.
To be honest, if one of my ex's had a livejournal, I would be curious to see if she mentioned me less and less after a certain point, or she had interests in other guys, or if I had hurt her. She was a big part of his life for a long time, it's only human to be curious and it's quite natural to want to learn something from that text. OP wasn't in the right to use his ex's password to read that information (even if it was accidental), but considering how it happened it's not really that creepy.
You guys act so crazy about things sometimes, you can say "hey, that's wrong" without making someone feel like they're completely insane. Vinegar and honey, and all that.
Did you not read about the whole 'cheating on him with about fifteen different guys and bragging about that shit on the internet' thing?
Yes, what Avicus did is wrong; I'm not defending that. But how about you place the blame directly where it should be and recognize that his now ex-gf is a pretty despicable human being instead of calling
someone a stalker for checking someone's livejournal?
For god's sake you reacted like he was standing over her whilst she slept. Jesus Christ. It's the fucking internet
Cheating on someone multiple times and bragging about it on the internet is objectively worse, and you're a bad person for defending someone with that level of moral decay
A+ man.
Good work and all that, lesser men would've crumbled under the opportunity.
Well done, broseph. It will take some time to put all of this behind you, but you can at least take solace in the fact that you stood up for yourself.
jesus you're pretentious. maybe you should follow vivixenne's lead.
In the future, though, what you did was wrong. Don't use the fact that she was unfaithful be validation for invading her privacy, because it's not. In the end, both of you proved that you are not really trustworthy, though her to a much larger degree. Next time take the high road. Future You is bound to thank you for it.
Nice work on figuring out her lies, as well as telling her you won't be getting back together.