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Making it clear to a roommate that I'm not interested
So about two months ago I decided I really needed to move and an opportunity presented itself to live with an old acquaintance. He's always been a decent guy, we get along, my brother knows him better than I do and assures me that he'd be a solid roommate. I moved in at the beginning of this month and things have been great, we're pretty compatible for living together, no stress, it's nice. Then, things changed.
About a week ago our internet went out so we got bored and decided to drink and play video games. Then he mentioned that he wanted to finally see what this whole Lost thing was about so we started watching that (I've got the first few seasons on dvd so that was a convenient thing to do). We continue to drink and fun is had. I get kind of drunk and sleepy and end up moving to get comfortable and my head winds up on his shoulder. Nothing more that night. The next day he tells me that we're roommates, we shouldn't get involved. I succeed in not laughing at him and tell him not to worry, I just got out of a relationship, I'm not looking for more complications in my life.
Shortly after there is more Lost, more alcohol. Possibly too much on both our parts. I tell him I'm tired, he says one more episode. No big deal, I've seen them all before, and I almost fall asleep. I don't know when I turned around, I must have actually fallen asleep for a while because I woke up to him stroking my head which was now on his lap. Shit. Then he kissed me. Woah. I got up and reminded him of what he had said before, told him that I had no intention of pursuing anything with him, and went to bed.
Tonight there was more Lost but I didn't drink. (Unfortunately a lack of cable is preventing me from watching the finale until Tues, but that's neither here nor there. Just no spoilers please!) I've already decided that until this is sorted out, no more drinking with him. He, however, was drinking and through the evening kind of crowding me on the couch, always having a leg in contact with mine, often letting a hand "casually" drop onto my leg. I think my body language was pretty clear that I wasn't interested - arms and legs both crossed, looking straight ahead pretty much without moving, possibly kind of terse answers - but he didn't seem to get it.
Should I just hope he gets over this or start a conversation? I don't want to make things awkward but they kind of are for me already anyway. I feel like I've been clear. Do I need to do more? Should I stop watching tv/gaming with him? Because I would like to be able to do stuff, just as an ambiguity-free friend.
tl;dr - Roommate seems to be into me. I'm not into him in the least. How can I make this not-awkward?