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Sorry for the wall o' text, but it's par for the course here.
So I'm an introvert. I don't really have any friends and I'm OK with that. Socializing online and with my wife and sometimes with my family is basically enough for me. My wife is a total extrovert. There have been periods when she's been OK with not socializing too much, but these days, she goes out with her friends almost every night. It's really somewhat rare that we spend a night together just the two of us, and when we do, I feel like I have to be trying super hard to entertain her so that she doesn't decide to do something with her friends instead.
I can't say for sure whether it's because she simply isn't interested in me, or she honestly thinks a married woman should be spending most of her time without her husband. Yes, I've talked about this with her, and she insists I'm the abnormal one for not having any friends, and she's the normal one. Now, I know it's not "normal" to not have any friends, but I don't think it's nearly as rare as she thinks it is. Judging by these forums, you can't go a page without seeing another "I have no friends" thread, and in each of those threads, like 10 more people chime in to say they're the same way, so I know I'm not alone in that regard. That said, I know having friends is much more common than not having them. However, my feeling is that a married couple should spend time apart with their respective friends about an evening a week, maybe two evenings. Not like 5 evenings. I think married couples should have mutual friends they mostly hang out with together, and that it should be OK to spend many if not most nights at home with just the two of us.
You may be wondering whether she's cheating on me. I don't think so, but anything is possible. She generally answers the phone when I call her when she's out, she's never out all night, etc. As I said, anything is possible, but my feeling is that she's just out with her friends like she says she is. Her friends are all female and mostly single with no or next to no love lives, so all they have is each other. If that's the life she wants to lead, maybe she should be single with no or next to no love life too. She doesn't seem to accept that there are responsibilities and compromises attached to being married. She's pretty much a spoiled rich girl. She doesn't cook, barely cleans, doesn't contribute financially, and expects to be entertained every minute of her free time. I have to ask myself what I'm getting out of the relationship. If it were emotionally easy, I'd ditch her in a second, but we're stuck on each other and whenever we split up we always wind up back together anyway.