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Problem with Masturbating too much.

Evil WeevilEvil Weevil Registered User
edited August 2010 in Help / Advice Forum
Hi all.

As you can guess by the title of my thread, I believe I have a problem with masturbating too much.

I have been masturbating every day for the past six years, and the effects have worn on me.

I can't concentrate, I have memory loss, things aren't as enjoyable to me... I feel lazy, depressed, stupid even though I am highly intelligent..

I am moody, I feel fatigued nearly all the time and find it hard to sleep sometimes. I have physical problems as well, such as not orgasming correctly, having infections in my well, penis causing my urine to have trouble coming all the way out, and I am CONSTANTLY constipated. Along with muscles aching all the time.

It's had an absurd effect on my life, and up until some recent research, I had no clue it was linked to my masturbation. Hell, masturbation doesn't even feel great anymore, well as great as it did once upon a time since I started. It's effected my school, social and family life, and I want it to stop.

So, I'm considering just cold turkeying on it. Not masturbating AT all until it gets helped. I will see a doctor eventually, but my question is, my good fellow PA'ers, is that... well, am I going mad and is this is what's going on? I've been depressed, but everyone has thought it's been the sole cause. However, I'd liek to point out my life was great up until I became consistantly masturbating.

From research, it says that masturbation for men can be beneficial for your prostate, over doing it can have bad effects. Not like, losing your hair or going blind, ahaha, but literally, sapping the energy from your body, which is what it feels like to me, and all the symptoms I described.

So, I think I've pinned the problem down... is there anything else you guys can recommend?

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  • DemerdarDemerdar Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Um,

    I'm sorry? I've been getting off nearly every day for.. shit, since I was 14? I don't have any of the problems you just described. I don't think masturbating causes depression. It's good that you are going to a doctor though. I'm not sure if abstaining from masturbating is going to solve your problems, but you might as well try it out. I'll tell you what, give it 4 days and you'll be as good as new in terms of the boredom-of-getting-off thing.

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  • BloodySlothBloodySloth Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Yeah to be frank it sounds like those may be symptoms of plain old depression and not necessarily something brought on by test firing your personal side arm on a regular basis. I mean yeah, these things happened while you've been masturbating daily, but then again you've been masturbating daily for six years. Everything that has happened in those six years is under the same context. It could be anything.

    Like previously said, though, quitting for a while couldn't make things any worse, certainly. Try it out.

  • EshEsh Tending bar. FFXIV. Spending too much money eating out. That's about it. Portland, ORRegistered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Your symptoms aren't from jerking off too much. You've got other issues. How's your diet? Getting out enough? Exercising?

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  • ThanatosThanatos Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Out of curiosity, is this "research" you've found coming out of the American Family Institute?

  • EshEsh Tending bar. FFXIV. Spending too much money eating out. That's about it. Portland, ORRegistered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Thanatos wrote: »
    Out of curiosity, is this "research" you've found coming out of the American Family Institute?

    Links please!

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  • soxboxsoxbox Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Esh wrote: »
    How's your diet? Getting out enough? Exercising?

    Hey! He masturbates every day. That's exercise right?

    Daily masturbation is nothing unusual and I would doubt any source that said it was likely to be the cause of much of anything. The penis related issues may to due to incorrect masturbation (most likely: not cleaning yourself well, using a death grip).

    The fact that you masturbate regularly even though you don't seem to enjoy it much any more is a symptom of depression, not a cause.

  • Aoi TsukiAoi Tsuki Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Go to a doctor and tell him or her everything you've told us. You will not be told that your loss of essence is causing any of your problems (except perhaps some penile ouchies from rough handling), but that you are clinically depressed and using masturbation as a coping mechanism, and probably need to watch your diet. This bears repeating: your dependence on whacking off is an effect of your mental state, not the cause. Any "research" telling you otherwise is silly.

    Some people already have said stupid things, but I'm ignoring them because I just found a potato in my fridge that looks like it's smiling.
  • thlipsisthlipsis Registered User new member
    edited August 2010
    Pretty much what everone here said. I've been doing it for the last 10 years and I have never had the problems you have. As far as the sores you might want to give it a break while those heal. Once they have you should pick up some lube, that will help. But yeah I would say your problem isn't directly masterbation but always talk to your doctor sooner rather than later. Masterbation is suppose to be fun :) get checked out by the doctor and I'm sure you'll be having a good time in no time.

  • admanbadmanb the bored genie Seattle, WARegistered User regular
    edited August 2010
    From research, it says that masturbation for men can be beneficial for your prostate, over doing it can have bad effects. Not like, losing your hair or going blind, ahaha, but literally, sapping the energy from your body, which is what it feels like to me, and all the symptoms I described.

    You have happened upon a load of bullshit, and you have swallowed it. It happens to all of us, every so often.

    However, it doesn't change the fact that it's bullshit.

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  • kaliyamakaliyama Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    I certainly get sleepy afterwards, and would exercise before doing it on a day-to-day basis, but like everyone else has said, this isn't your problem. If it was, something like 90% of men would be helplessly paralyzed.

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  • bwaniebwanie Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    ahahaha your dick will be swollen and irritated way before you've tired your body out by a simple one hand move with a 20 cm radius.

    don't ask me how i know that.

  • RUNN1NGMANRUNN1NGMAN Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    The depression you say you have could be causing all that, and while masturbating every day is not harmful, if you're depressed it could in certain circumstances not be great for you either (like you're using it to self-medicate or it's a compulsion rather than something you do for pleasure). But even in that case, it's STILL the depression, not the masturbation, that's causing your issues.

  • WildEEPWildEEP Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Uhh, if you find any medical paper that says its "Sapping energy from the body" you should be very skeptical. Your problems do not sound like they come from masterbating, and once a day is not considered a "Chronic" problem even by 1950's standards.

    You do sound like you have other health issues and general depression. In addition, since you seem to grasp to the shame factor of masturbation as causing your ills, you may have emotional issues as well.

    I'd recommend you go to at least two doctors of each type:
    Two seperate, unrelated, doctors that are in internal medicine.
    Two seperate, unrelated, doctors that are in psycological services - ie Pyschologist, Psychiatrist, Or Counseling.

    The internal medicine folks are going to help you diagnose the urination, infection, and orgasm problem - they are probably inter-related.

    The psyc folks are going to help you feel better generally - will help you pay attention, sleep properly, lose that general tired feeling, and make waking up an actual 'good' sensation.

  • RUNN1NGMANRUNN1NGMAN Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    I suspect the urination probem is the normal spraying everywhere that all us guys experience when things down there get glued together with dried semen.

    The "not orgasming correctly" is, I suspect, a belief that you should be blasting cum all over the place. If you're masturbating every day you're not going to have huge volumes of semen.

  • noir_bloodnoir_blood Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    You could just consume the umm "sapped energy" right after the deed. It's the circle of life!

    And while yeah, everyone has pretty much covered that chocking the chicken isn't what's causing you to feel this way, you might still want to tone it down a bit as some people can have a harder time getting off with a real person if they're used to their hand.

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  • FellhandFellhand Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    I'd go see a doctor for the symptoms you've described.
    I find it incredibly unlikely that spanking it once a day is what's causing these issues and from all the studies I've read it's actually quite healthy to masturbate. It tends to elevate the immune system, reduces depression, and in males is healthy for your prostate. The list for health benefits is actually longer, but those three are what come to mind right now without me looking it up.

  • Dr. FrenchensteinDr. Frenchenstein Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    I would think the only bad symptoms of jerking it too much would be reduced sensitivity, and an overmuscled dominant forearm. I certainly wouldn't say beating off once a day is "too much" either, i think the majority of single dudes do it that often, or more.

    Your research sounds a bit suspect, I'd check your sources. sounds like something else is going on there that may need the attention of a doctor. Especially if you are getting infections in your dong.

  • SentrySentry Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    OP, perhaps limit your medical research to things published after 1830.

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  • PerpetualPerpetual Registered User
    edited August 2010
    Masturbating once a day is not "too much".

  • Mr_GrinchMr_Grinch Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    It might be worth getting your thyroid checked out. What you're suffering from sounds exactly like how I felt a few years ago, went to the docs and it turns out I have hypo-thryoidism (underactive thyroid). Now I have a tablet a day and generally feel fine.

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  • NODeNODe Registered User
    edited August 2010
    Unless your masturbatory routine has evolved to include ramming a dirty pipe cleaner up your urethra, then I don't think any of the physical symptoms you're describing are related to masturbation.

    Do you masturbate so much that you don't shower or eat? Then you might have a problem. Otherwise I'd relate everything you've described to diet/exercise/hygiene and maybe existing emotional issues that need to be treated with greater care than spurious "masturbation research".

  • CognisseurCognisseur Registered User
    edited August 2010
    Sentry wrote: »
    OP, perhaps limit your medical research to things published after 1830.

    I LOL'ed. This has been by far the most rewarding thread I've seen all day.

    To the OP, you should also figure out whether you have any sort of problems with your own sexuality. You seemed a little quick and eager to pin 9000 things that have nothing to do with masturbation to masturbation.

    I could be totally off, but it doesn't seem like a totally innocent mistake of believing some errant information... this sort of thing looks like it takes some active mental effort to swallow all that BS so eagerly.

    Were your parents religious fanatics who were anti-sex or something? I mean, masturbation is pretty cool dude, nothing to be ashamed of. And once a day is definitely not some crazy high frequency.

  • VistiVisti Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Not only do none of the problems you describe have anything to do with masturbation, but I'm pretty sure that that doesn't even qualify as masturbating a lot.

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  • NylonathetepNylonathetep Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Don't laugh at that poor guy... you people are just being a bunch of silly geese.

    No I don't think masturbation is the cause of your problem... Btw Masturbation isn't an exercise either. You do lose some water and bodily fluids... maybe not drinking enought water is the cause of all those muscle aches?

    Male ejucation does cause sleepilness afterwards... it's nothing to do with fatique but after sex your brain releases endorphins which makes you sleepy... it's evolution's way of dealing with the after sex pillow talk.

    I'm seeing a lot of symptome of depression in your post OP... I think the problem is just not exercising regularly, not going out and doing other things then surfing porn all day and a general lack of self-esteem.

    Go out and meet people more often. No guarantees if you are ever going to meet the right one... but it beats spanking the monkey all day.

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  • HorseshoeHorseshoe Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    I agree... it's not funny. This dude sounds like he's suffering and trying to find a way to explain it.

    But Doctors are a great resource, guy! It's their job to help you with these problems.

    I don't think you have the problem pinned down at all. You have some symptoms that sound pretty bad though:
    I can't concentrate, I have memory loss, things aren't as enjoyable to me... I feel lazy, depressed, stupid even though I am highly intelligent..

    I am moody, I feel fatigued nearly all the time and find it hard to sleep sometimes. I have physical problems as well, such as not orgasming correctly, having infections in my well, penis causing my urine to have trouble coming all the way out, and I am CONSTANTLY constipated. Along with muscles aching all the time.

    I would reccomend seeing a medical doctor, telling him that these are your symptoms and asking him what you can do about it!

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  • darqnessdarqness Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    and I am CONSTANTLY constipated.

    Whenever my midsection is full of digested goodness, it puts pressure on my prostate and I get the urge to make a deposit in the spank bank. After doing said deed, I find that I don't have to drop the Cosby kids off at the pool anymore.

    Maybe your constipation is related to this?

  • SentrySentry Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    It's not funny... well, it's kind of funny, but just from a WTF perspective. It's just a drastic conclusion to jump to. I think vitamin deficiency might be a more reasonable explanation then too much wanking. It's certainly a less... drastic... conclusion.

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  • HorseshoeHorseshoe Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Sentry wrote: »
    It's not funny... well, it's kind of funny, but just from a WTF perspective.

    okay yeah, i'll admit it's kinda funny

    well, until i actually clicked on the thread and was like oh shit man this dude has some bad physical problems

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  • Dr. FrenchensteinDr. Frenchenstein Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Also, don't be surprised if going cold turkey doesn't solve any of the problems you mention. And you might start getting irritable too!

  • RUNN1NGMANRUNN1NGMAN Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Also, don't be surprised if going cold turkey doesn't solve any of the problems you mention. And you might start getting irritable too!

    You will also likely have some really crazy dreams :)

  • chrishallett83chrishallett83 Hi! Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    A persistant infection will make you tired, and combined with constipation, will make you feel just plain awful. Your body constantly fighting off those two things will alter your moods and affect your sleep.

    Wanking once a day never did anyone any harm - I'd go so far as to say it's probably better for you to wank than not. Resist yanking your crank until you get that infection taken care of however...

    tl:dr - Spanking the monkey is very unlikely to be causing your problems. See a doc, see a doc, see a motherfuckin' doc!

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  • GungHoGungHo Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    If your dick is actually infected, get off the internet and see a doctor.

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  • DeusfauxDeusfaux Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    no one's willing to run with his ideas hey?

    jerking off in the middle of the day and having it sap your energy and change your mood is not unreasonable. it's less reasonable to suggest it ruins the entire day BUT

    try doing it at night, last thing before bed. then you're not taking a bit energy dive in the middle of the day. i'm surprised nobody has asked or suggested "when" could make a big difference

  • DangerousDangerous Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Woah woah, once a day is too much?? Ah christ I need to get to the hospital RIGHT NOW! My dick is probably about to go off like a firecracker.

    Anyway, I would say that it's a symptom not a cause of your depression. You're bored and depressed with nothing to do so you whack off a lot. Makes sense to me. If you want to do something that solves both problems, maybe try it as a reward? Make it your goal every day to go out and try something new. If you succeed, then go home and beat your dick like it owes you money. If not, then better luck next time!*


    *Disclaimer: This might actually be horrible advice so feel free to disregard it.

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  • Evil WeevilEvil Weevil Registered User
    edited August 2010
    Okay thanks everyone, I will still see that doctor, but it's probably better to not rely on some bad looking web-sites.

    And despite it being a hell of a problem for me, I thank you for making me actually laugh a bit, with all the wonderful ways you have named doing the thing.

  • mcdermottmcdermott Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    Deusfaux wrote: »
    no one's willing to run with his ideas hey?

    jerking off in the middle of the day and having it sap your energy and change your mood is not unreasonable. it's less reasonable to suggest it ruins the entire day BUT

    try doing it at night, last thing before bed. then you're not taking a bit energy dive in the middle of the day. i'm surprised nobody has asked or suggested "when" could make a big difference

    Yup, this. Sometimes I feel a little drained after doing it in the middle of the day, for some reason. But the wake-up-whack or good-night-tug are always fine for me.

    I clicked this thread thinking to myself, "I can guarantee this guy jerks off less than I do." Sure enough, I was right. Definitely see somebody about the issues you are having, but rest assured that punchin' the munchkin probably isn't causing them.

  • dispatch.odispatch.o Registered User regular
    edited August 2010
    If you're treating it as an emotional outlet I could see it not doing any good for your depression, especially if you think there's something wrong with doing it. Man, I've had some marathons and the only thing it makes me want to do is shower, sleep and maybe make some breakfast.

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