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Is your locale under a rock? Or have you never faced being patronized for clearly stating that you never want to have children and start a family. Seriously, it pisses me off that someone who claims to have insight into discrimination could so blithely dismiss discrimination when it's a first hand source. And then the audacity of claiming ignorance because you live in an area supposedly populated by nothing but philandering high status dickfaces is beyond the pale.
Again, why are they inaccurate? There's very little about what he's been saying that doesn't portray him as a massive goose.
The head is obviously you're an asset to the company? How? Well, family men are seen as having restrictons on them, like "I got to take Sally to practice today so I can't work till 5" while Bachelors are seen as having no restrictons. More likely, Family men are targeted for being overused and under paid at the workplace because, hey you've gotta family to feed so work or else. Bachelors in the workplace can get a lot more money and have a lot more freedom of finding that perfect job because of no restrictions on himself/herself.
On the flip side, a bachelor is seen as aloof and not really CEO material or managerial material exactly because he/she can't settle down, therefore they have no sense of commitment and thus no promotion since they can't be trusted. Apart of the social outings that they are also excluded from no one takes them seriously as a married person.
Of course both of these are not valid if the bachelor has their own business then its no issues all benefits I would think.
As far as not getting promotions because of not being married? It really depends on the office. Some have a better mix of married and non-married people, and tend to not make a big deal about it. I've also noticed that people who are married but do not have kids tend to get treated more as single people than family people.
well to be fair you have been super vague about it
and I've never seen any studies or anything of the like on the subject, so even if you did elaborate it'd still be pretty anecdotal
I don't see what you're saying as any sort of common consensus, but you're stating it like I should take it on faith or I should already believe it because it's common knowledge.
How many politicians are unmarried? How many of these people are without children? How many advertisements feature the politician surrounded by their family and espouse how they're a family man? Even within this smallish sample size you can clearly see the dynamics of bachelor discrimination at play.
There haven't been any studies on it so it must not exist...
And of course you don't see common consensus on it because everything that's been discussed in this thread is a hypothetical pro and con list instead of data and aggregated anecdotes.
The worst is the patronizing nature married people with children have towards you if you state you aren't going to have children. My fiancee get's it worse because she's female and there's the automatic supposition that women just want to have babies and if they don't right now, they'll eventually come around to the idea and that, in fact, they had reservations about children also. Fuck you bitch, my fiancee doesn't want a rotten crotch fruit running around pretending they're the most angelic beings on earth.
I get it from my boss and a coworker sometimes and it's in no small part to them having 9 children between the two of them. Marriage isn't a means to an end for children, it's more than that and when you don't fit the mold of getting married, having a child, buying a house, etc etc you do face social consequences that aren't fair.
Actually, short of Presidency, not having children or a spouse isn't really a huge deal. It's not that common, true, but that's because being a childless bachelor at 40 is just less common in general. I actually think we could see a childless or divorced/current bachelor president in the near future. People really overestimate how much that sort of thing matters. I mean, we have an African American president, for chrissake. I think it's a bit less of a stretch for most of the country to have a dude who isn't married.
Not what I said. my point was that whereas with, say, female pay discrimination, or whatever, people are often fairly familiar with statistics and studies (on both sides of the issue) regarding the topic. So, you know, it's not a big deal if you don't cite anything because you can reasonably expect people to be familiar with data on the topic (and people will generally give you the same benefit of the doubt). That's just simply not true in this instance. Bemoan it all you want, but heterodox positions necessarily require more evidence. Welcome to argument?
I meant more broadly than this thread. See my above graf.
Your implicit assumption is that absence of evidence is evidence of absence.
http://www.amazon.com/Singled-Out-Singles-Stereotyped-Stigmatized/dp/0312340826/ref=ed_oe_p/102-4637341-6604139
There is some material I haven't read about the subject of "singlism" but now might pick up because of this discussion.
No. Stop reading things into my posts that aren't there. My sole point was that you can't assume audience familiarity with your positions if they are relatively heterodox, or under-studied/under-publicized.
Reason 5: You get less money when working, because you won't spend it on Bieber concerts and plastic shit
Reason 4: You work more, because the normies get sympathy from bosses
Reason 3: The government hates you, and denies you plenty tax breaks
Reason 2: People start thinking you are a pariah
Reason 1: You die sooner and have a worse immune system