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My first time venturing into H/A, mostly because, for once, my therapist has no answer to a problem I can't solve on my own. So thanks ahead of time ;-)
I dated a wonderful woman for nearly 5 years. The relationship ended last July without acrimony; we still talk on the phone occasionally, most to check up on family (her uncle recently died and my Dad is quite sick). She is hurt that I am in a new (and great) relationship but we'll move past that eventually.
The bad part is that I moved to my current location when we were still together. All of my friends (well, sort of ex-friends now) were her friends first. After the break-up, they quietly chose to be friends with her and shut me out of social functions. It sucks but I understand; after all, many of them are her classmates and/or professional peers.
I used to spend time with my girlfriend but she is working until May in another state several hundred miles away. So, I spend nearly all of my free time by myself, although not out of choice.
My work schedule makes it extremely hard to meet anyone in my age group (I'm 26) since I teach classes 5-7 nights a week, including weekends, with sporadic daytime hours. So my free time is usually during the day when most of my peers are working. I have tried spending time at coffeehouses in the morning and afternoon, but people tend to be either too old (retired) or too young (still college kids). I have nothing against them; it's just nice to be with people your own age occasionally.
My therapist isn't really sure how to solve this since I am actively going out and searching for friends without success. Making friends has never been an issue before; not having anyone available to befriend is definitely a new problem. On the few occasions that I did meet people on my free nights, the friendships fizzled because our schedules line up so rarely.
It's going to be majorly depressing sitting by myself at a bar tomorrow to watch the Super Bowl.
Any ideas? At this point, anything would be welcome.
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