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Overall that sounded good to me. I mean, straightforward with some details that give a good idea of you, I think. One thing I noticed is I don't think you said what you actually do for work, just what your degree is in, is that intentionally not mentioned because it's something you're not happy with? (Apologies if I skimmed over it.)
What stood out the most to me, though, is you don't use contractions ever. This isn't True Grit here. Try to write a little more like how you'd talk. It comes off very stiff and not conversational. Unless you actually don't use contractions when you talk. In which case that's very interesting but a littttle weird.
Just made a profile, figure I'd give the forever alone act a rest and get out into the world! Thoughts or comments?
It boggles the mind. It's like saying if you like reading/watching tv/random hobby don't contact me.
Or an opening to say in your first message "Does Angry Birds count?"
I think almost every woman who has actually met people on an online dating site has a "horror story," which typically is simply awkward or weird but usually involves some level of social ineptitude on the part of the guy. And I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of the guys who fall into that category also play video games and make a point of saying so, simply because it's a significant hobby for them.
That's simply correlation, and you know that and I know that. But I'm not surprised to hear that some women see the correlation as something they're not interested in.
That being said, there's no reason you can't still message the person, and if they respond back and it comes up, you can say "Oh, I figured you meant, like, guys who play video games non-stop and live in their parents basement."
A dating site for all the Randites.
The Atlasphere
At least they're all contained.
I'm just as likely to say that if women don't play video games, they shouldn't bother to contact me either. But that's because I uphold a certain amount of "be my friend" in relationships, which is easily achieved if she plays video games. Because I play them. Like a lot. And it's more common ground, and in the specific case of video games gives something to be competitive about.
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I'll admit, I signed up for the Atlasphere years ago, when it first started out. I was a geeky 15 year old, I had just read Atlas Shrugged and it seemed like the greatest thing ever. As far as I know it's not a dating site (it's more like an Objectivist facebook), but it might've changed since 2005.
Damn blood
If you're forever alone, we are all thoroughly fucked!
Lettuce be cereal - put yourself out there man. You'll be fighting girls off.
Thoughts/comments: You're cute, and your profile is a good read. That's all I have to contribute to this. You should do well.
Wow, thanks for the positive input.
I think most of my problem here is that I just need to actually...start messaging people (crazy huh?).
Flippy, you've always been my vampire-Jesus. <3
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Your self-summary feels long. I think it mainly has to do with how it's written, more than the actual amount of content. I would hone it down a little and make it a bit more casual. Right now, it sounds a bit like a CV rather than a dating profile. Something about your "What I'm doing with my life" sounds self-important to me, but that could just be me reading it at the end of a long day. haha. It's something about this sentence: "Given my skillset, I feel I'd be best suited working towards political solutions to the problems of Pakistan and the developing world at large. " Perhaps more of "...I feel I could do some good working...." On the other hand, it could just be me, and you could totally disregard that. Everything else looks pretty good to me.
Oh, the flip-flop picture or the picture just above it would make a better profile photo, imho. I think you can nix the spit bubble picture. You have enough, and your others are better.
Also, I got a laugh out of the purple-scarf-fan pictures. They're fun.
Art is not an abstracted ideal, and does not exist for its own sake in its own world.
It don't understand the "romance is transactional" part, and the last part kind of sounds like you're accusing people of racism. Recommendation: delete it.
Can you give this a more positive spin? Like "I'm good at conversation, especially with people just as enthusiastic as I am." Everyone blanks out in a conversation once in a while, you don't want girls thinking, "Uh oh, do I do that? Am I one of those blank starers he talks about? No point in even talking to him, then."
at least, thats how I'm hearing it
e: fixed(?)
Art is not an abstracted ideal, and does not exist for its own sake in its own world.
Are you looking for a partner to have children with?
I answered NO! She answered Yes with the comment about not wanting to get involved and fall in love with someone only to find out they don't want kids.
It's on my profile that I don't want them. Every kid related question I answer with the most DO NOT WANT answer possible.
Fudge.
Art is not an abstracted ideal, and does not exist for its own sake in its own world.
www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets
Well. Not to defend Jesus-freaks or anything, but could that person possibly be a tame Jesus-freak?
If faith is just a silent tribute, mine is just a desperate act.
one of my good friends, though i love her dearly, canNOT take a good photo of me. like, EVER. it's almost comical.
Well it does not help I am usually awake at night so most of my pics are of the usual bathroom mirror
When I look at myself in the mirror, I usually think I look pretty good but no one seems to be able to take a decent looking picture of me ever.'
Anyways, new OKTrends - 10 Charts about Sex. Definitely some interesting information in there.
Feel free to add me on whatever network, it's always more fun to play with people than alone
Not likely. Based on the answers to her questions and how many of them were highlighted in pink as being very mismatched.
Your current first photo (the one with the sushi) is, IMO, your least flattering one. Have you tried the MyBestFace thingy? I've run all my pictures through it a couple of times and found it pretty useful.
Typo: There's no space in "can finally" in your third paragraph.
It seems pretty good overall!
ed: maybe the suit+cameraphone one, although cameraphones aren't ideal
my unofficial autobio will be accompanied with tips on how to smile
cause I've found that when they don't see you frown, they never know that you're a threat
and they don't sweat you when you came around
I sent out a flyer.
It had all the reasons why someone should date you
:3
If faith is just a silent tribute, mine is just a desperate act.
A lot of your pictures are almost exactly the same - you, smiling, wearing the same grey outfit. They're not bad pictures, and sure, sometimes the background is different, but as someone pointed out to me when I asked for profile tips a while ago, you really only need one or maaaybe two of those pictures since they're so similar. I'd recommend the using the MyBestFace thing (everyone should!).
The rest below
Wow, um, this is way too long and there's way too much detail about things that either shouldn't be in here or should be moved to another part of the profile. Remember, you're trying to sell yourself to people clicking through a large number of profiles, and talking about how you hate small talk, would rather be discussing economic theory (saying that you're not trying to show off will only convince people that you are), and all of this
is saying I'M SUPER SERIOUS AND YOU SHOULD BE TOO.
Who do you think that is going to attract? I've seen you post in the big-man thread, you're a fit and obviously active guy, but reading that makes me think the opposite.
Honestly there's more I'd say about the rest of it but it's all just TOO LONG and TOO DETAILED. It's clear you're a smart, cultured guy looking for a similar girl, but this is just way too specific, too early. A lot of this information would be better said on a first or even second date, not on your profile.
A little mystery is a good thing! I'm intentionally vague in a few places on my profile, so the people who view it will have something to ask me. Yes, it works.
WHAT I'M DOING WITH MY LIFE
Not terrible, but does this mean you'll be moving to Pakistan long-term after your Masters? And while it's great to aim for an Ivy, it does come off as a little arrogant to say so, especially for someone working at Walgreens. I'm not saying you're not smart enough to go to one, but imagine how it'll read to someone who doesn't know you at all.
I'M REALLY GOOD AT
This isn't bad, but there's not much here or in other sections that tells someone "This guy would be a really fun date".
FAVORITE STUFF
First two are reinforcing an idea from your self-summary: that if I'm not studying something heavy/serious/world-changing in university, I shouldn't bother sending you a message.
I SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT
See above.
FRIDAY NIGHT
Again, you're selling yourself. Not sure this is accomplishing that goal. Because my own Friday nights are sometimes equally unexciting, I just left this blank on my own profile.
LOOKING FOR
Are you really only looking for friends? If so, ignore everything I said above. However, If you ARE looking for dates, you should actually list that here.
Honest question - what would you consider to be a really fun date? Your profile gives a really good idea of what you consider interesting, but I'm not sure at all what you might consider fun.
this happens to most people
almost no-one is perfectly symmetrical, so when you fix you appearance in the mirror, and then look at a photo taken the same day, to you something will look "off" and your appearance is now stuck in the uncanny valley in regards to your self-image