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[Internet Dating] 'It built character.' - But only after you get them dates!!
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It was the first time we met in person, yup. Sounds like I wasted a golden opportunity then, damn. I just tend to be a bit cautious when it comes to making the very first move. (I also didn't want any sort of first kiss to be made by a half-asleep me either
2b) ...none of whom live near you!"
3) and none that have been online in a while.
Why were you just doing her a weird favor? Go on a real date. Both of these things show a lack of confidence.
What on earth is this? I didn't see the previous message that you refer to. You arranged a "date" where you did IT work for her? What...I mean...I have no idea what the circumstances are here. Please provide more information.
This reminds me of a barber I had who used to sometimes brush her breasts against me as she was cutting. Maybe I should have made a move.
Probably ought to explain the whole story from the beginning then. There was this girl and despite being very far away (well, not in my opinion but she's in LA and I'm in the northmost part of San Diego county) for some reason after going over her OKC profile she jumped out at me and I felt like I had to try pursuing her. Tried to arrange some kind of a date/meetup but she said she wasn't interested because of the distance.
I spent the next 1-2 months finding ways to keep talking to her online a bit here and there and thought she had ended up with a boyfriend. (which I later found out was not the case) I still continued talking to her off/on, and then recently she mentioned having some really bad problems with her computer and nobody she knew seemed to be able to help her so I took that as an opportunity to finally meet her in person since my previous attempt had been shot down a few months back.
It wasn't just me fixing her computer, we also got a little dinner, and later donuts during the whole thing (I was there for a little while.) Normally I wouldn't think very much of it but because of how I regard touch (I avoid touching anyone for any reason unless I am sure they want me specifically touching them) it made me wonder if that meant anything or if I was just tired and reading too much into it.
The magnums i've picked up feel much, much better.
:lol: Hey, if you can't brag to random strangers on a gamer forum, who can you brag to?
I'm a master of karate and I date supermodels.
Don't tell anyone! It's so embarrassing!
m i doin it rite?
On an on-topic note, if a girl starts messaging me is the onus on her to ask for a meetup or is it expected of me as the entesticled one to do it? Obviously if I'm interested I should just go for it, but I'm wondering what's normal.
there we go
I've had to tell two guys to do this
they both expressed the same "I just thought that condoms were terrible" sentiment and were quite happy to find it didn't have to be that way
stealth "I bone dudes with huge dicks" post?
Stealth "I have an STD" post?
I personally would say yes, it's on you. But not in a "you're a dude" sense so much as the order of messaging indicated. Her messaging you first (how I'm reading this, anyway) means she's interested in you, but she might not be sure if you're interested back or just replying to be polite, etc.
the way you explained it here sounds like you don't know what "not interested" means and she really needed her computer fixed.
Actually stealth "I got baby mamas in multiple ZIP codes" post
unwrapping
application of lubricant
possibly losing the boner
oh shit you put it on backwards
ohgodohgod what if it breaks
don't get me wrong condoms are the most amazing invention in the world but damn if they're unsexy
You know what's super unsexy? Babies and or STIs
WRAP IT UP
If faith is just a silent tribute, mine is just a desperate act.
False dichotomy: just get texted.
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I had women who initiated the conversation ask me out first, it sort of goes 50/50. But really, there is no "onus" I think, rules and expectations are silly, if one person wants to ask the other one to meet, they need to just do it.
You can acknowledge that condoms are important and necessary while still also being honest about how fucking bad they suck
because they suck real bad
Although I will say that those Trojan Ecstasy condoms are actually pretty good. Closest thing I've ever experienced to not noticing I was wearing a condom.
no its not a stealth post.
You must let her see the fire in your eyes. Words come later, it is the scent that first speaks of love. Women roar, then they hurl heavy objects and claw at you. You read poetry, and duck a lot.
I feel like that's not much of an excuse.
"Oh my family is just super racist and I let their bigotry determine my actions."
Like, it's a couple steps up from horrible to awful.
Look, people break up/don't get together for different reasons. Sometimes it's an actual matter of, "I don't like you" or whatever. Other times, though, it's simply a matter of, "A relationship with you would be too difficult for me at this time, so no."
For a less controversial example, consider long-distance relationships. Can they work? Yeah, sure. Do some people avoid them because of the difficulty? Absolutely. Does that make them terrible people? Not in the slightest.
I'm not defending racism or racists. I am, however, defending the people who have to deal with them on an everyday basis.
It's like saying "I don't date fat people" in your profile (only, obviously, worse). It's shallow and unnecessary. You can still choose to only date people of a certain height/weight, but being explicit about it just tells people "I'm a shallow person so even if you fit my criteria you should be aware that I'm shallow." I agree with Argive that even if I fit any of these "criteria" I wouldn't be interested in messaging the person.
And, of course, that's different from statements that are clearly just preferences, rather than absolutisms.
I've also occasionally seen black women say that they're looking for black men. And very rarely I have seen Asian women saying that they're looking for Asian men. I don't know exactly why but these things don't bother me. In fact, I find it refreshing.
White women looking for white men and actually stating it in their profile is redneck idiocy. But black and Asian women saying that they're looking for respectively black and Asian men...it doesn't strike me as a problem. Indeed, it's nice to see. Perhaps logically, there's a conflict here but I suppose one factor is that it seems fairly rare to see black or Asian women expressly stating their preference for men of their own race.
And it is a time saver. Why message somebody who absolutely will not be interested? You see this with Muslim women virtually all the time. They'll put in their profile, "Only Muslim men". Personally, I appreciate the warning. Why waste my A-material on somebody with religious preferences? And I'm not interested in religious folk anyway.
You also see "Christians only" once in a great while. And for these people, even though I'm not religious, I'd be okay with sending them a message. I was raised Catholic so should qualify. And I don't think (at least in Europe) that they're looking for somebody to go to church with and discuss religious issues. I think it's generally just code for "No Muslims". But that doesn't offend me like the "I only date white guys" does.
So maybe I'm all turned around about stating race and religion preferences on your profile. Logically, it should either be good or not. I can't see why it should vary depending on the race/religion of the writer and whether they're looking to date people from their own or a different race/religion.
As far as religion is concerned, I understand why you want to date someone of the same believes as you, depending on how strong your believes are, but I've dated a Catholic, Atheist, and Wiccan and I things went pretty good even after we broke up. Except for the Catholic. But those uniforms...
That sounds terrible, but it reminds me of when dumb girls apply to my guild and say something about how they're a cute gamer grrl in the "Anything else we should know?" section. Your gender/level of flirtiness/e-whore status do not belong on an app for a raiding guild, but the fact that you think that's something appropriate/useful to mention does indeed tell me something I need to know.