In all honesty, the only reason my brain activity spikes when a height discussion starts is because this terrible girl that I was in love with my entire college career ruined me.
We were inseparable, the best of friends, and even flirted with the idea of dating once or twice. Went out on dates and stuff. Essentially I was her boyfriend with no perks of being someone's boyfriend. I finally confronted her one day, and was like, what gives, we obviously work super well together.
She told me I was too short and that she didn't like my hair.
I mean of course I realized she was a super terrible person but I still get flashes of insecurity from that some 3-4 years later.
My ex was really only attracted to taller people; it was one of my major attractions for her.
I'm also seeing her tomorrow, and I think we might hook up. I might be a fucking drunken wreck next week.
Also I don't think its a necessity to share bisexuality with an exclusive partner but I'd imagine your sexuality is something that is important to you.
It seems counterintuitive to not bring it up.
When I RA'd in college I was always asked the question in training sessions "Does a roommate have the right to know if his or her roommate is gay"
And everyone would say no and then I'd say yes and everyone would glare at me and I'd be like "listen, I'm not saying they need to come out to their roommate day one but if you're living with someone for a year it seems fair that you two would discuss that."
I agree, if only so you can find out if you have a homophobic roommate and get swapped for one who wouldn't be offended by potential partners you bring by.
This was exactly the point I'd close on when other students would challenge me on it.
I'd be like "Both parties have a right to be comfortable in their own living space. If living with a gay person makes somebody uncomfortable, regardless of if they are a homophobic shitbird or not, they should have the right to walking away from the situation. And it will save everyone a lot of problems in the future"
I can understand your point, but there are times that someone may remained closeted for what they feel are good reasons. And some of this is generational but when I was becoming an active member of the LGBT community, you didn't out someone. It was considered a terrible thing to do because of the potential safety risk.
I tried to get into LGBT activism at my university during my first year and I got rejected pretty hard. It was mortifying and soured me on the entire thing. I recognize that York University students have a reputation for being extreme and kind of dickheads about activism and those problems probably don't extend to the entire base of activists, but I just felt so extremely unwelcome that I wouldn't want to replicate that experience.
In all honesty, the only reason my brain activity spikes when a height discussion starts is because this terrible girl that I was in love with my entire college career ruined me.
We were inseparable, the best of friends, and even flirted with the idea of dating once or twice. Went out on dates and stuff. Essentially I was her boyfriend with no perks of being someone's boyfriend. I finally confronted her one day, and was like, what gives, we obviously work super well together.
She told me I was too short and that she didn't like my hair.
I mean of course I realized she was a super terrible person but I still get flashes of insecurity from that some 3-4 years later.
My ex was really only attracted to taller people; it was one of my major attractions for her.
I'm also seeing her tomorrow, and I think we might hook up. I might be a fucking drunken wreck next week.
Look out!
Podly, I don't doubt that out in the wide world, there are some straight/bi women who really have a thing for short guys but I'm guessing they are a minority.
Also I don't think its a necessity to share bisexuality with an exclusive partner but I'd imagine your sexuality is something that is important to you.
It seems counterintuitive to not bring it up.
When I RA'd in college I was always asked the question in training sessions "Does a roommate have the right to know if his or her roommate is gay"
And everyone would say no and then I'd say yes and everyone would glare at me and I'd be like "listen, I'm not saying they need to come out to their roommate day one but if you're living with someone for a year it seems fair that you two would discuss that."
I agree, if only so you can find out if you have a homophobic roommate and get swapped for one who wouldn't be offended by potential partners you bring by.
This was exactly the point I'd close on when other students would challenge me on it.
I'd be like "Both parties have a right to be comfortable in their own living space. If living with a gay person makes somebody uncomfortable, regardless of if they are a homophobic shitbird or not, they should have the right to walking away from the situation. And it will save everyone a lot of problems in the future"
I can understand your point, but there are times that someone may remained closeted for what they feel are good reasons. And some of this is generational but when I was becoming an active member of the LGBT community, you didn't out someone. It was considered a terrible thing to do because of the potential safety risk.
Oh absolutely of course, Thom. I should've clarified. I was talking about someone who was openly LGBT. Obviously if someone was not ready to come out yet he or she has neither has an obligation nor should be pressured to come out to a complete stranger.
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I'm watching this documentary on Scott Walker, and I'm being reminded why I hate singer-songwriters and baby boomer vocalists.
I tried to get into LGBT activism at my university during my first year and I got rejected pretty hard. It was mortifying and soured me on the entire thing. I recognize that York University students have a reputation for being extreme and kind of dickheads about activism and those problems probably don't extend to the entire base of activists, but I just felt so extremely unwelcome that I wouldn't want to replicate that experience.
That can happen sometimes. I assume you were joining as part of the Bs?
Yeah, I don't think there are many girls who are like "yeah throw some shawtys at me". Essentially we're going to have a case where taller people are going to mate with taller people and shorter with shorter. This will cause a great rift, and only the strong will survive.
I think that people should keep their sexual proclivities in the bedroom and only discuss such things with their sexual partners.
I'm not sure how they're going to find sexual partners since they can't discuss their sexual proclivities with anybody they're not yet having sex with, but that's not really my problem.
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every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.
So they wouldn't have you for insufficient sexual experience? Then I suppose their outreach efforts don't extend to gay kids in high school who have yet to sleep with a dude.
Defining sexuality by sexual history is dumb.
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I tried to get into LGBT activism at my university during my first year and I got rejected pretty hard.
Insufficient levels of L, G, B and/or T?
They were not impressed with a girl who's experience with bisexuality was having a poly relationship in high school. The term 'barsexual' was used.
Oh, nothing like good old bisexual erasure. Yeah, I used to run into that a lot when I was more politically active. Got tired of fighting it, so now I just donate money.
I think that people should keep their sexual proclivities in the bedroom and only discuss such things with their sexual partners.
I'm not sure how they're going to find sexual partners since they can't discuss their sexual proclivities with anybody they're not yet having sex with, but that's not really my problem.
Yeah, I don't think there are many girls who are like "yeah throw some shawtys at me". Essentially we're going to have a case where taller people are going to mate with taller people and shorter with shorter. This will cause a great rift, and only the strong will survive.
Its why any child of mine I'm training to live off the land and be able to do the take down from empire strikes back.
WOLVERINES!
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I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
My college was pretty unanimously ranked as one of the most LGBT friendly campuses in the country. Most people were pretty cool with whatever, so it never really became a problem.
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Yeah, I don't think there are many girls who are like "yeah throw some shawtys at me". Essentially we're going to have a case where taller people are going to mate with taller people and shorter with shorter. This will cause a great rift, and only the strong will survive.
Nope, because short women love tall guys too. Leigh loves the fact that she can wear crazy heels around me and still be shorter then me.
Yeah, I don't think there are many girls who are like "yeah throw some shawtys at me". Essentially we're going to have a case where taller people are going to mate with taller people and shorter with shorter. This will cause a great rift, and only the strong will survive.
Its why any child of mine I'm training to live off the land and be able to do the take down from empire strikes back.
In all honesty, the only reason my brain activity spikes when a height discussion starts is because this terrible girl that I was in love with my entire college career ruined me.
We were inseparable, the best of friends, and even flirted with the idea of dating once or twice. Went out on dates and stuff. Essentially I was her boyfriend with no perks of being someone's boyfriend. I finally confronted her one day, and was like, what gives, we obviously work super well together.
She told me I was too short and that she didn't like my hair.
I mean of course I realized she was a super terrible person but I still get flashes of insecurity from that some 3-4 years later.
My ex was really only attracted to taller people; it was one of my major attractions for her.
I'm also seeing her tomorrow, and I think we might hook up. I might be a fucking drunken wreck next week.
Look out!
Nice -- looking forward to your neo-Cure / Depeche Mode-esque weepy music the week after that.
Yeah, I don't think there are many girls who are like "yeah throw some shawtys at me". Essentially we're going to have a case where taller people are going to mate with taller people and shorter with shorter. This will cause a great rift, and only the strong will survive.
Nope, because short women love tall guys too. Leigh loves the fact that she can wear crazy heels around me and still be shorter then me.
So what you're telling me, Thom...is that I'm going to die alone.
The only people from this board that will ever know a kid of mine is AH, Nocturne (well if he was still alive god rest him), and maybe Jacob if I haven't killed him by then.
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I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
I tried to get into LGBT activism at my university during my first year and I got rejected pretty hard.
Insufficient levels of L, G, B and/or T?
They were not impressed with a girl who's experience with bisexuality was having a poly relationship in high school. The term 'barsexual' was used.
Oh, nothing like good old bisexual erasure. Yeah, I used to run into that a lot when I was more politically active. Got tired of fighting it, so now I just donate money.
When I go to class I wear huge baggy sweaters or nerd t-shirts and sweat pants and flip flops because if I'm going to be sitting in a shitty plastic chair for six hours a day I'm going to be comfortable otherwise. It is a dress style that has been described as 'kind of dykey'. When you combine this with the fact that I am loud as fuck in tutorials for dem participation marks, and bringing up feminism/politics all the time, a LOT of girls thought I was gay. And a LOT of girls hit on me. I was like Baby's First Lesbian. It was terrifying.
In retrospect, considering this, I should have told the LGBT activists that I was doing more for converting girls to lesbianism than they could ever dreamed of, but it is too late now
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I guess it would be weird if displaced self-hatred weren't behind a popular chat topic.
My ex was really only attracted to taller people; it was one of my major attractions for her.
I'm also seeing her tomorrow, and I think we might hook up. I might be a fucking drunken wreck next week.
Look out!
I can understand your point, but there are times that someone may remained closeted for what they feel are good reasons. And some of this is generational but when I was becoming an active member of the LGBT community, you didn't out someone. It was considered a terrible thing to do because of the potential safety risk.
i'm six inches short of two feet
i wear it like a belt
MY NAME IS KUNTA KINTE!
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It is ugly, its etymology is dumb and I hate everything about it.
Hallux valgus isn't a lot better but at least it is descriptive.
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Welcome to bunion country.
Insufficient levels of L, G, B and/or T?
Podly, I don't doubt that out in the wide world, there are some straight/bi women who really have a thing for short guys but I'm guessing they are a minority.
Oh absolutely of course, Thom. I should've clarified. I was talking about someone who was openly LGBT. Obviously if someone was not ready to come out yet he or she has neither has an obligation nor should be pressured to come out to a complete stranger.
They were not impressed with a girl who's experience with bisexuality was having a poly relationship in high school. The term 'barsexual' was used.
The wisconsin governor? What's the documentary how he forged the one ring and the free peoples rose up against him?
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That can happen sometimes. I assume you were joining as part of the Bs?
Today I learned a term called "bisexual erasure."
I'm not sure how they're going to find sexual partners since they can't discuss their sexual proclivities with anybody they're not yet having sex with, but that's not really my problem.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
probably because i'm racist
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Defining sexuality by sexual history is dumb.
Oh, nothing like good old bisexual erasure. Yeah, I used to run into that a lot when I was more politically active. Got tired of fighting it, so now I just donate money.
That's totally what bunion doesn't mean.
edit: which just proves how terrible a word it is. Fuckers don't know what it means.
I'm not sufficiently queer enough to penetrate (lol) a lot of queer-positive & sex-positive communities in San Francisco, either. So high-five.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Onion bun?
Union bum?
Sadly neither were true. Reality disappoints yet again.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scott_Walker_(singer)
"Hi I'm gay, now bite the pillow".
Its why any child of mine I'm training to live off the land and be able to do the take down from empire strikes back.
WOLVERINES!
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Nope, because short women love tall guys too. Leigh loves the fact that she can wear crazy heels around me and still be shorter then me.
let me be the eccentric uncle, preach
we'll raise a true man
Is it Scott Walker: 30 Century Man? Because I've always kind of wanted to watch it and just never have.
Nice -- looking forward to your neo-Cure / Depeche Mode-esque weepy music the week after that.
and guys generally like both petite and model-tall women
the really disadvantaged people are tall women who don't like shorter guys and short guys, poor bastards. i guess they live longer though.
So what you're telling me, Thom...is that I'm going to die alone.
The only people from this board that will ever know a kid of mine is AH, Nocturne (well if he was still alive god rest him), and maybe Jacob if I haven't killed him by then.
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if you can call that living
Yup. I'm ambivalent about everything in it, but that's the theoretical personae in me really getting bitten by it
When I go to class I wear huge baggy sweaters or nerd t-shirts and sweat pants and flip flops because if I'm going to be sitting in a shitty plastic chair for six hours a day I'm going to be comfortable otherwise. It is a dress style that has been described as 'kind of dykey'. When you combine this with the fact that I am loud as fuck in tutorials for dem participation marks, and bringing up feminism/politics all the time, a LOT of girls thought I was gay. And a LOT of girls hit on me. I was like Baby's First Lesbian. It was terrifying.
In retrospect, considering this, I should have told the LGBT activists that I was doing more for converting girls to lesbianism than they could ever dreamed of, but it is too late now
Plus I think one of them might have hit me