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Bridesmaid dresses, store lies for months, now out business, wedding in 3 weeks [SOLVED]

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  • FiggyFiggy Registered User regular
    badpoet wrote:
    Figgy wrote:
    Just a word of advice for you guys/girls if you're ever asked to be in a wedding party: if you even have the slightest concern over the financial responsibility of being part of a wedding, politely decline. It's far better than accepting and then complaining every chance you get about having to spend money. A wedding party should be there to relieve stress and be supportive, not add to it every step of the way.

    I understand that, but on the other hand, it's very costly to be a member of a wedding party, and sometimes the bridal couple doesn't consider that as much as they should. While $18 is a small amount given what they're probably already spending, you're asking them to spend $18 more on a dress that they probably will never use again (because, let's face it, even good looking bridesmaid gowns -- if they actually exist because the taste of the bride is rarely the fashion the bridesmaid wears -- always look like bridesmaid gowns).

    Glad to hear you got it figured out though.

    And once again, if that's a concern you have, politely decline. It's $18. The members of your wedding party are chosen on the criteria that they are the nearest and dearest people to you, so if you're going to make a capital case out of twenty bucks, just don't bother.

    Edit: And it's not like I'm charging anyone $18 extra. It took me dozens of phone calls to get to this point. I've spent the better part of my day for the last week dealing with this issue, when I'm sure it's not usually the groom who is sorting out dress problems. I won't go into detail about problems we've had with some members of the party over the past couple months, but if they come back right now and tell me they have a problem with $18 or that they're going to cancel their hair appointment, I'm going to tell them to not bother coming at all.

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    Alright, looks like I'm giving up golden showers for Lent.
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  • lonelyahavalonelyahava One day, I will be able to say to myself "I am beautiful and I am perfect just the way I am"Registered User regular
    Figgy, I've been following this thread with growing amounts of indignation, fear, and positive dread for you. And your bride.

    I want to say, first of all, congratulations on getting married! It's a happy time for you and your soon-t-be-wife and you should do your best to not let all of this make you miserable.

    Second, Good on you for doing all of this and not just losing your mind, giving up, and smacking people. You have the (apparent) patience of a saint.

    Third, if those girls can't appreciate all that you've done for them, and their friend the bride, in the manner of trying to get this and everything else all sorted, then you have every right to be upset with them.

    Seriously dude, congrats and good on ya.

    Good luck! Remember to breathe, and remember to enjoy it.

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  • FiggyFiggy Registered User regular
    Thanks for the kind words.

    I spoke with the bridesmaids that were threatening to cancel their hair appointments because of the dress price increase. They're going to stick with their appointments now. I just asked them to do this if only to avoid adding another source of stress to the bride. They agreed.

    My math was actually off too. It's only 13 and change more for the dress than their original price. I'm not entirely sure, but I think it has something to do with the wholesaler charging more to the store to get the dresses out. If they're going to be annoyed with that then whatever. The dresses should be ready tomorrow, and I have arranged for someone to pick the entire order up and bring it to a more central location (the bridal shop was 20 min away from everyone).

    This should be all over tomorrow. Fingers crossed!

    daniant wrote:
    Alright, looks like I'm giving up golden showers for Lent.
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  • bowenbowen Registered User regular
    Annnnd the squeaky wheel got greased once again.

  • MichaelLCMichaelLC In what furnace was thy brain? ChicagoRegistered User regular
    Figgy wrote:
    Weddings. Christ.

    This should be the entirety of the Accumulated Forum Knowledge.
    Glad it worked out for you, at least the best of the available options.

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  • admanbadmanb the bored genie Seattle, WARegistered User regular
    This thread has pretty much given me the impression that Figgy is a problem solving machine. I think the soon-to-be Mrs. Figgy should count herself quite lucky.

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  • Skoal CatSkoal Cat Registered User
    Between this and his washer escapades? Yea, Figgy don't quit.

    ceres wrote: »
    Skoal Cat is correct.
  • FiggyFiggy Registered User regular
    Hah, thanks guys! I guess threads don't get locked on the new forums, but this one is definitely solved!

    I called the manager this afternoon and she was just leaving Toronto with the dresses--I guess she ended up picking them up herself. Oddly enough, that is what I suggested to her the first time we ever spoke and she said it wasn't an option. Oh well, the bride-to-be went down tonight and picked up the dresses from the manager's home, went to her mom's house, and the girls came by and paid and picked up their dresses.

    daniant wrote:
    Alright, looks like I'm giving up golden showers for Lent.
    XBL : Figment3 · SteamID : Figment · Website : www.nathanswyers.com
  • Aurora BorealisAurora Borealis Registered User regular
    Yayyy! Congratulations, Figgy! I hope your wedding day is Wonderful.

  • DisrupterDisrupter Registered User regular
    I literally got a little spark of joy at reading that the girls all got their dresses. Awesome job man! Reading that you had gotten things together for them TO be picked up still left me uneasy that things werent going to go south, so knowing the dresses are in the proper hands now is awesome!

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