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[Internet Dating] "Who is your favorite duck?" and other dating questions
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The summary seems a bit off-putting. For instance, your first sentence is a jumbled mess that just means "I'm a student". Just look at all the prepositions, man!
"I'm a graphic design student at [place name] who likes to X, X, and X in my free time " is basically your first three paragraphs, but you take three paragraphs to write it. Reduce!
Your music part has a typo. I've put my suggestion in the brackets below.
I didn't have any luck with match at all. It was worthless to me and they didn't cancel my account when I went through their website. So I got charged an extra $60 or something ridiculous. Pissed me off. 90% of the girls you will message, are on free accounts only and won't be able to message you back. There's no way to really tell at a glance who is paid and who is free... so your already slim odds are even slimmer.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/yassen9
Tear it apart!
Hi 5 OKC!
Oooh... that sounds like something the world isn't ready for.
"I wasn't stalking you, I have an app for that!"
NotAMurderer has sent you an invite to "Dark Alley Between 5th and Main" for "Yahtzee." Do you accept?
Sounds legit.
In other news, I've been watching this thread for a while, because the online dating thing is pretty important in my background. I'm actually getting married in less than two weeks to a girl I met on OkCupid three and a half years ago.
So, I just thought some of you guys having some trouble with finding the right person would like to know that it definitely can work out. I'd been on that site for probably at least a year or so (and gone on several dates with others I met on there) before I found her, and now we're getting ready to spend the rest of our lives together.
And it all started with her messaging me to say "Hi."
Seriously. That was her whole first message, lol.
Awww, sounds so sweet.
Gives me some hope =)
I think the paid sites encourage the carpet-bomb method and due to the money involved, people are more likely to act in a short period of time since they can get "cut off" from contacting someone if they dally too long. But yes, that also tends to mean you're messaging a lot of people who can't message you in return, and if someone isn't quite comfortable with the idea of meeting people online, you can lose dates simply due to timing.
It's a different dynamic compared to the free sites, and one you should consider. I think the fact that meeting people on Match, and that the have their "money back guarantee," implies that you're more likely to get an actual date out of Match simply because if you message a girl who has paid $30 to meet people and is 3 days from being cut-off from the site, she's likely to meet up with you -- and you're more likely to message everyone you can with some sort of message if you know you only have 30 days to do it. You can tell that from this very thread -- look at the number of people who are saying things like "yeah I have a list I'm working my way through" or "I'm still working on my profile, don't really want to bother with pictures or messaging people until I'm ready." Paying money on a dating website tends to imply "I'm ready," which some people prefer.
That said, I still prefer and suggest the free method, unless OKCupid is terrible in your area.
I've been messaging a girl back and forth for two weeks now, and I finally manned up and asked her if I could call her. Of course she ignored that in her response to me (which took longer than unusual of course). She got out of a relationship recently, so I think I might have jumped the gun. I guess I figured if she was on a dating site she'd be ready to go back to dating. Whooops!
Now I'm trying to figure out if I want to invest more time and energy into this thing we are doing to see if I can make her more comfortable, or if I should just cut it off right now and save myself whatever woes are ahead.
Just scouted around a bit and I'm at least happy to see that there's a lot of new people from my area since I was last on.
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I'd just send her a message where the only content was "Sooo... can I give you a call sometime? What's your number?"
Be a little assertive and ask her for her number flat out. If she doesn't respond in a week owell, move on. If she dodges it and sends a reply that does not include her #, owell move on. If she gives you her number, SCORE.
Personally, I dislike talking on the phone as the first time I talk to someone new. It feels so awkward, and I never know what to talk about. I prefer a guy to just ask me to meet for coffee or something rather than ask if they can call me. I know some girls like to chat on the phone before meeting, but her ignoring your suggestion might indicate she dislikes phone chats? That's not really advice, just perspective, I suppose. haha. Not sure how helpful that really is.
So, yeah. Two weeks? Take it offline. Grab coffee, or lunch, or dinner, or a drink, or get together and eat some caramels.
Have at it.
Yes, I know my username was cut off. I'm currently contemplating starting completely over or dropping the 15$ to change my name.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LostCosmonaut88
I wish I had a better DJing photo to use, or a higher-res wedding one: that was one dashing kilt.
Hilariously enough, she said it was for her protection. Please just report her profile to get it banned.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/crista_88
Surprised people get paid to do that.
If you think that picture is of her, I'm here to shatter your naivete.
Also, if all of that "Wanna meet you, sign up on this cam site, then we can hang out!" was in a message, it's fairly likely she was a bot. Not guaranteed. But likely. If she was actively chatting with you for a while before throwing her pitch, then it's not even good odds that she's a 'she.'
I've come across this scam before. "She" wasn't a bot. I knew as soon as she asked me for my yahoo ID she was a scammer, since that is the instant messenger of scammers. It was a person trying to pitch to me to use my credit card to join this cam website. I mainly just posted this here to spread awareness of the fact, and to just get her profile reported a couple more times to get her banned.
The pitch was, hilariously enough, that "She" was raped before, and she used this site as a security measure to do background checks on people she dated. I needed to sign up for free to "Verify my identity". I called it her anti-rape site.
She does all kinds of gaming, collects animus, and cosplays at conventions. She then ends her profile with "You should message me if: You are CAUCASIAN." with a list of a few other non-race related padding.
It's pretty funny to see a girl dressed in a dark elf getup being all about the caucasians.
Totally screwed the pooch on that one.
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Don't try to what-if it. There's no benefit there.
This probably translates to you being a nice/good guy but there just wasn't that "spark" that she wants. Don't worry, move on.
Yeah. It's also probably a lack-of-maturity thing on her part. Because I guarantee you at the same time she wants someone who will 'take her as she is.' Which are mutually exclusive.