So, decided to move back to Redneckistan, TN for a while to get my savings up (because in Seattle every minor hiccup was a major financial disaster). The problem with this plan became apparent when I looked at OKCupid with my new address and had one 88% match and maybe 10 more above 70% within a 50 mile radius. That 88% is my little sister.
Oh well, I'm planning on moving back out of here anyway so I guess it doesn't matter.
Speaking for myself: The percentages are so far from useful I never even look at them. And when I do I have no idea why they are what they are.
That being said, an 88%er and I seemed to be getting along pretty well (based on one coffee meet and a bunch of txts). But the 90%+er from last week I'm not the least bit interested in (though she would make a good friend).
I have super high match percentages with guys. Not being bi is totally limiting some awesome relationship opportunities.
Oh, I don't think % is super-important, although I'll admit I'm a bit of an intolerant sort and can't possibly imagine dating someone I disagree with on major issues. It does sort of give a bleak picture of my general compatibility with people in this region, though--all the interesting people I knew when attending high school here got out as fast as they could.
Anywho, having mild success on Match, getting some dates and whatnot. I think that site's just got an entirely different pool in my area, so we'll see.
You shouldn't take percentages as an ironclad rule but I think it's a very good filtering mechanism. When someone has a very low percentage I can always tell why right off the bat.
Any other good (free) dating sites besides OkCupid and plentyoffish? In my area, I seem to be a midget compared to the girls I find interesting on OKC and there are absolutely no interesting girls on POF.
I'm halfway tempted to go Match, but I'd prefer not to spend money.
I've uh, had some decent luck this time around. I mean I had decent luck last time too and ended up dating a girl for a few months, but since reopening my account on Monday of last week, I've gone on 4 dates. The first two were fun but not really my type, the third was...uh...like, I don't believe in the concept of "leagues" but we've been out twice now (first time was coffee, tonight we went and played frisbee in the park) and both times I've had to stop myself from being like "why are you being seen in public with me." Her profile pics were all group shots and weren't close ups of her, so I wasn't really sure what she'd be like in person, but she's kind of shockingly pretty.
She's really into yoga and way more outdoorsy than me, but she's definitely fun and we click pretty well, so we're going to grab drinks this weekend.
Now if only I could find some dude friends to hang out with, I'd be set.
The problem I have with a lot of the questions is they are more of what would I do right then and there or in the gray area or need a conversation instead of answer A
I will read thier profile and if something interests me I will send a message. I do dislike when they ask where I work because that pretty much ends it when I tell them
It's the same women on POF and OkC here so if I strike out with one I have wasted that chance
I've uh, had some decent luck this time around. I mean I had decent luck last time too and ended up dating a girl for a few months, but since reopening my account on Monday of last week, I've gone on 4 dates. The first two were fun but not really my type, the third was...uh...like, I don't believe in the concept of "leagues" but we've been out twice now (first time was coffee, tonight we went and played frisbee in the park) and both times I've had to stop myself from being like "why are you being seen in public with me." Her profile pics were all group shots and weren't close ups of her, so I wasn't really sure what she'd be like in person, but she's kind of shockingly pretty.
She's really into yoga and way more outdoorsy than me, but she's definitely fun and we click pretty well, so we're going to grab drinks this weekend.
Now if only I could find some dude friends to hang out with, I'd be set.
My girlfriend thinks Neil Patrick Harris is ugly. It's not about leagues, it's about types. You find this girl shockingly pretty, but it doesn't mean every other guy does. Same with you -- you may think you're unattractive, but you might be just what she likes in a guy.
In other words, the proof is in the pudding. She has been happy being seen in public with you, therefore she is happy to be seen in public with you. She has not been repulsed by your appearance, therefore don't assume that she finds you anything less than attractive.
So I've had some mild success... apparently all it took was chucking half my profile and a whole lot of hyperbole. A lot more page views now, a couple messages, and I even have a tentative meet up sometime this week.
Haha, I appreciate the support! I wasn't really being completely serious there, just a very roundabout way of saying "Yeah, sometimes people can be way prettier in person than their profiles indicate."
Mixed with the usual self-deprecation.
I have 4 dates between Thursday - Saturday. :oops: Maybe I'll get an OKCupid horror story out of at least one of them
So I've had some mild success... apparently all it took was chucking half my profile and a whole lot of hyperbole. A lot more page views now, a couple messages, and I even have a tentative meet up sometime this week.
I'm pretty sure that any major editing of your profile activates some kind of algorithm with Cupid that brings it back up in other user's view. Mine did the same thing, all I did was delete some questions and update some bio info.
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So I've had some mild success... apparently all it took was chucking half my profile and a whole lot of hyperbole. A lot more page views now, a couple messages, and I even have a tentative meet up sometime this week.
I'm pretty sure that any major editing of your profile activates some kind of algorithm with Cupid that brings it back up in other user's view. Mine did the same thing, all I did was delete some questions and update some bio info.
Yeah, editing your profile regularly definitely brings you further up the list.
Haven't been on dating sites for a while, but a couple of years ago I was on OKC so much that I was invited to be a moderator. Which was vaguely fun for a while, you get to see how sleazy guys on there can be (and 90% of complaints are about guys) and how stupid internet users can be (no ma'am, a picture of your dog wearing sunglasses does not count as a picture of you).
edit: and as for the leagues thing, I almost ignored a message from a Slovakian girl on OKC once because she was ridiculously pretty. Her profile shot was a picture of her prancing around on a beach and it looked almost exactly like the kind of picture you see on spam profiles. Glad I did reply though, she turned out to be pretty cool. So the moral there I guess is that I dunno... everyone's a person just like you?
Want to know about sleazy?
I saw on the news a few months ago talking about how this woman met some guy on craiglist and was beat up pretty badly
So I rememberd it the other day and was curious do people really look for others on craiglist?
for a few weeks I looked at the site at random and noticed something a lot of women do not list anything
So out of curiousity I posted a question of why do they get flagged a lot?
and I get a lot of emails from guys talking about how they are spammers or so on. But I got a few from men who showed a mirror shot of them with no shirt, a pic of thier junk and the word money.
Really I ask a question and get that? O well that was really something I should have expected
I have talked to a girl from the Netherlands when I was first on OKC she said she would be willing to meet me if it was no so far and expenive
Huh. The day after I complained about dating here, I met an awesome girl at a cookout my mom forced me to go to. Got her number, went on a date a few days later. Have a second date with her today.
Of course, now I get to worry about looking like a dope because I have literally zero dating experience despite being 22. Whereas she's four years younger and has had a normal social life. I'd not worry about it as much if she were the same age, but me being older just makes me feel double weird about it.
I wasn't sure especially about the photos (might remove the last one) and self-summary.
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You need to copy edit a few things .... your tone sound terrible? Lasagne?
A very slightly self depricating caption like "game night with the guys" on the last photo should mitigate it. Just hint it's not the center of your social life.
Good stuff: you're good looking and that sells itself. You have an interesting job and decent pics.
Cons: you refer back to earlier questions a little too much.
OH
for some reason it took me three readings to even notice the missing s after your remark.
Still a bit unsure about the last pic, I think I'll remove it. Removed one 'nacho' mention, good point. Playing was to exaggerate using the word playing too much, but I suppose it's better without.
Thanks!
my 'you should message me' bit probably needs something more general that works more inviting for messaging. I'll muse over it later
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It's not that it's necessarily bad to mention playing, it's that they way you were using it is awkward in english. It would be "sking, playing, hiking, playing, etc, playing"
Also in informal english "playing" on its own is like, when little kids go play in the park - if you mean you play games or play the piano, that's not totally clear from the way you have it.
That's actually why it is awkward- the way you are phrasing it implies your hobbies are children's games you are playing
OH
for some reason it took me three readings to even notice the missing s after your remark.
Still a bit unsure about the last pic, I think I'll remove it. Removed one 'nacho' mention, good point. Playing was to exaggerate using the word playing too much, but I suppose it's better without.
Thanks!
my 'you should message me' bit probably needs something more general that works more inviting for messaging. I'll muse over it later
I prefer the last pic to the Pikachu pic, but YMMV.
I know I need more pictures, and a better main one. I rarely take pictures or am getting mine taken by someone else, so it's slim pickings right now(Plus I never like how I end up looking in photos). One of these days I gotta get a proper camera, this one was taken with a friggin PS Vita.
Or they spend a lot of time thinking about the zombie apocalypse?
or if they like to smile
message her if you want to
most private thing she's willing to admit is nothing, this is the internet
Haha.. god. I wonder what would happen if one were to compile the most generic possible profile and see how many responses it gets.
I'm going to hazard a guess and say plenty of messages, so long as you have decent photos.
Is this the point in the thread where I get to mention that I once received a barely readable message from a girl who admitted to having several brain surgeries in her (also barely readable) profile? Really wasn't sure if I was getting trolled or not with that one...
I can't tell of this girl is awesome or fucking looney tunes:
Sooo this is the space where woman are supposed to try really hard to woo men in 3000 characters or less..
SWF in lame job seeks dumpy neurotic for unfufilling sex, co-dependency, shouting matches, mutual psychological toture, and future divorce.
I enjoy drinking, pornography, petty theft, and self righteous indignation.
I use to think I was indecisive, but now i'm not too sure. I spend the majority of my time yelling at little kids that step on my lawn. I have middling intelligence, but try to appear smarter by memorizing pointless quotes, and chuckling at my own mean spirtited jokes. I can recite the number pi up to 26 digits off of paper. When I get really bored I like to drive downtown and get a great parking spot, then sit in my car and count how many people ask me if im leaving. I have convinced some gulable people that black paint makes for an excellent stain remover. I am an expert at nothing, and way down deep I am very shallow. A while ago I was asked to list my personal ethics, only to come to the surprising realization that I have none whatsoever. I discovered the meaning of life, but I forgot to write it down. Logical arguements do not affect me, because I am right no matter what. I dream of a better world when chickens can cross the road without having their motives questioned. I think wine bottles lie utrageously about the flavors you're supposed to be tasting. I believe only those who risk going to far can possibly know how far they can go. I'm looking for a good time, and a few laughs that have nothing to do with your nude photos.
For fun I enjoy browsing other people's profiles and making shallow remarks about their maturity and social levels.
YOU are probably a woman hating, whiny, bitter shrew with a misplaced sense of entitlement and lots of expectations. Over time, you will blame me and grow hostile when I don't fufill every need you've ever had. You feel that woman should put up with your shit, because you are good looking.Through a technicality you are currently not under court supervision or other wise grounded so we can actually hang out. While your technically still married, your wife doesnt seem to care - or so you tell me.
First off, Im into guys that can pay for their own meal.
I know how the little plastic tubes get onto shoelaces,and why there is braille on drive up ATMS I believe with sufficient thrust, pigs fly just fine. .
I've won the city-wide parallel parking championship in 2009 and I can divide by zero.
I've been caller # 9 and won the plastic knife set.. and yet.. Have you ever wondered about your life and asked yourself: Isnt there more than this?
Please don't ask me "what do you like to do for fun" or you are going to turn my interested button off really fast
Are you the kind of guy that sees himself as original, rather than a me-too person?
I play, read, and draw - not necessarily in that order I have also written a thesaurus that consists of swear words.
I think depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
It recently came to my attention that a small cucumber is called a gherkin.
I know I am not for most of you, and vise-versa So if I stop responding at some point it is probably for the best.
Can you do backflips? Being able to do backflips demonstates that you posess a lot of the qualities that I am seeking in a man. They take commitment and hard work to learn. Doing them on demand (lawns, parties, over lunch, etc.)shows that you have fun and are adventurous. They also take a certain amount of coordination and athletism. While I don't need you to be able to do backflips, Im looking for someone who can!
I'm not holding my breath, but I am looking for interesting conversation, with someone that will not have to be quoted later in a courtroom.
I just want to meet up casually, see if there is chemistry between us. Or we can just be friends. Im fine with either -or neither. I get out enough as it is.
Looking for a fun evening that doesnt end in a puddle of vomit or at the emergency room;
I believe that a healthy relationship is two emotionally complete people who CHOOSE to be together because they enjoy each other's company, none of that "I need you; im so empty without you" stuff
"Everybody dies, not everybody lives" I love the quote, but have no idea where it's from. 10 brownie points if you can tell me!
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Speaking for myself: The percentages are so far from useful I never even look at them. And when I do I have no idea why they are what they are.
That being said, an 88%er and I seemed to be getting along pretty well (based on one coffee meet and a bunch of txts). But the 90%+er from last week I'm not the least bit interested in (though she would make a good friend).
I have super high match percentages with guys. Not being bi is totally limiting some awesome relationship opportunities.
This made me laugh pretty hard. XD At least you have a cool little sister?
I host a podcast about movies.
Anywho, having mild success on Match, getting some dates and whatnot. I think that site's just got an entirely different pool in my area, so we'll see.
I'm halfway tempted to go Match, but I'd prefer not to spend money.
She's really into yoga and way more outdoorsy than me, but she's definitely fun and we click pretty well, so we're going to grab drinks this weekend.
Now if only I could find some dude friends to hang out with, I'd be set.
Follow me on Twitter??
I will read thier profile and if something interests me I will send a message. I do dislike when they ask where I work because that pretty much ends it when I tell them
It's the same women on POF and OkC here so if I strike out with one I have wasted that chance
Dare I ask? Or do you just mean you're out of work.
My girlfriend thinks Neil Patrick Harris is ugly. It's not about leagues, it's about types. You find this girl shockingly pretty, but it doesn't mean every other guy does. Same with you -- you may think you're unattractive, but you might be just what she likes in a guy.
In other words, the proof is in the pudding. She has been happy being seen in public with you, therefore she is happy to be seen in public with you. She has not been repulsed by your appearance, therefore don't assume that she finds you anything less than attractive.
Mixed with the usual self-deprecation.
I have 4 dates between Thursday - Saturday. :oops: Maybe I'll get an OKCupid horror story out of at least one of them
Follow me on Twitter??
Or like to hang out with their friends?
Or they spend a lot of time thinking about the zombie apocalypse?
I'm pretty sure that any major editing of your profile activates some kind of algorithm with Cupid that brings it back up in other user's view. Mine did the same thing, all I did was delete some questions and update some bio info.
3DS FC: 4699-5714-8940 Playing Pokemon, add me! Ho, SATAN!
Yeah, editing your profile regularly definitely brings you further up the list.
Haven't been on dating sites for a while, but a couple of years ago I was on OKC so much that I was invited to be a moderator. Which was vaguely fun for a while, you get to see how sleazy guys on there can be (and 90% of complaints are about guys) and how stupid internet users can be (no ma'am, a picture of your dog wearing sunglasses does not count as a picture of you).
edit: and as for the leagues thing, I almost ignored a message from a Slovakian girl on OKC once because she was ridiculously pretty. Her profile shot was a picture of her prancing around on a beach and it looked almost exactly like the kind of picture you see on spam profiles. Glad I did reply though, she turned out to be pretty cool. So the moral there I guess is that I dunno... everyone's a person just like you?
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I saw on the news a few months ago talking about how this woman met some guy on craiglist and was beat up pretty badly
So I rememberd it the other day and was curious do people really look for others on craiglist?
for a few weeks I looked at the site at random and noticed something a lot of women do not list anything
So out of curiousity I posted a question of why do they get flagged a lot?
and I get a lot of emails from guys talking about how they are spammers or so on. But I got a few from men who showed a mirror shot of them with no shirt, a pic of thier junk and the word money.
Really I ask a question and get that? O well that was really something I should have expected
I have talked to a girl from the Netherlands when I was first on OKC she said she would be willing to meet me if it was no so far and expenive
or if they like to smile
most private thing she's willing to admit is nothing, this is the internet
Of course, now I get to worry about looking like a dope because I have literally zero dating experience despite being 22. Whereas she's four years younger and has had a normal social life. I'd not worry about it as much if she were the same age, but me being older just makes me feel double weird about it.
I'd love for you guys and girls to take a look and provide critique!
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/geen_arend/
I wasn't sure especially about the photos (might remove the last one) and self-summary.
A very slightly self depricating caption like "game night with the guys" on the last photo should mitigate it. Just hint it's not the center of your social life.
Good stuff: you're good looking and that sells itself. You have an interesting job and decent pics.
Cons: you refer back to earlier questions a little too much.
I host a podcast about movies.
Flute tone isn't correct?
I host a podcast about movies.
You might need commas between sleeping and hanging out.
I host a podcast about movies.
for some reason it took me three readings to even notice the missing s after your remark.
Still a bit unsure about the last pic, I think I'll remove it. Removed one 'nacho' mention, good point. Playing was to exaggerate using the word playing too much, but I suppose it's better without.
Thanks!
my 'you should message me' bit probably needs something more general that works more inviting for messaging. I'll muse over it later
Also in informal english "playing" on its own is like, when little kids go play in the park - if you mean you play games or play the piano, that's not totally clear from the way you have it.
That's actually why it is awkward- the way you are phrasing it implies your hobbies are children's games you are playing
I host a podcast about movies.
I prefer the last pic to the Pikachu pic, but YMMV.
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have my ice twirling in my whiskey glass
'tis the dating life
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/TheKruseMissile
I know I need more pictures, and a better main one. I rarely take pictures or am getting mine taken by someone else, so it's slim pickings right now(Plus I never like how I end up looking in photos). One of these days I gotta get a proper camera, this one was taken with a friggin PS Vita.
Apologies in advance for making you look at me.
My Let's Play Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UC2go70QLfwGq-hW4nvUqmog
Haha.. god. I wonder what would happen if one were to compile the most generic possible profile and see how many responses it gets.
I'm going to hazard a guess and say plenty of messages, so long as you have decent photos.
Is this the point in the thread where I get to mention that I once received a barely readable message from a girl who admitted to having several brain surgeries in her (also barely readable) profile? Really wasn't sure if I was getting trolled or not with that one...
SWF in lame job seeks dumpy neurotic for unfufilling sex, co-dependency, shouting matches, mutual psychological toture, and future divorce.
I enjoy drinking, pornography, petty theft, and self righteous indignation.
I use to think I was indecisive, but now i'm not too sure. I spend the majority of my time yelling at little kids that step on my lawn. I have middling intelligence, but try to appear smarter by memorizing pointless quotes, and chuckling at my own mean spirtited jokes. I can recite the number pi up to 26 digits off of paper. When I get really bored I like to drive downtown and get a great parking spot, then sit in my car and count how many people ask me if im leaving. I have convinced some gulable people that black paint makes for an excellent stain remover. I am an expert at nothing, and way down deep I am very shallow. A while ago I was asked to list my personal ethics, only to come to the surprising realization that I have none whatsoever. I discovered the meaning of life, but I forgot to write it down. Logical arguements do not affect me, because I am right no matter what. I dream of a better world when chickens can cross the road without having their motives questioned. I think wine bottles lie utrageously about the flavors you're supposed to be tasting. I believe only those who risk going to far can possibly know how far they can go. I'm looking for a good time, and a few laughs that have nothing to do with your nude photos.
For fun I enjoy browsing other people's profiles and making shallow remarks about their maturity and social levels.
YOU are probably a woman hating, whiny, bitter shrew with a misplaced sense of entitlement and lots of expectations. Over time, you will blame me and grow hostile when I don't fufill every need you've ever had. You feel that woman should put up with your shit, because you are good looking.Through a technicality you are currently not under court supervision or other wise grounded so we can actually hang out. While your technically still married, your wife doesnt seem to care - or so you tell me.
First off, Im into guys that can pay for their own meal.
I know how the little plastic tubes get onto shoelaces,and why there is braille on drive up ATMS I believe with sufficient thrust, pigs fly just fine. .
I've won the city-wide parallel parking championship in 2009 and I can divide by zero.
I've been caller # 9 and won the plastic knife set.. and yet.. Have you ever wondered about your life and asked yourself: Isnt there more than this?
Please don't ask me "what do you like to do for fun" or you are going to turn my interested button off really fast
Are you the kind of guy that sees himself as original, rather than a me-too person?
I play, read, and draw - not necessarily in that order I have also written a thesaurus that consists of swear words.
I think depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
It recently came to my attention that a small cucumber is called a gherkin.
I know I am not for most of you, and vise-versa So if I stop responding at some point it is probably for the best.
Can you do backflips? Being able to do backflips demonstates that you posess a lot of the qualities that I am seeking in a man. They take commitment and hard work to learn. Doing them on demand (lawns, parties, over lunch, etc.)shows that you have fun and are adventurous. They also take a certain amount of coordination and athletism. While I don't need you to be able to do backflips, Im looking for someone who can!
I'm not holding my breath, but I am looking for interesting conversation, with someone that will not have to be quoted later in a courtroom.
I just want to meet up casually, see if there is chemistry between us. Or we can just be friends. Im fine with either -or neither. I get out enough as it is.
Looking for a fun evening that doesnt end in a puddle of vomit or at the emergency room;
I believe that a healthy relationship is two emotionally complete people who CHOOSE to be together because they enjoy each other's company, none of that "I need you; im so empty without you" stuff
"Everybody dies, not everybody lives" I love the quote, but have no idea where it's from. 10 brownie points if you can tell me!
My Let's Play Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UC2go70QLfwGq-hW4nvUqmog
If she isn't, wow. In either case it seems it might be fun to at least message (start off in the same depressed descriptive style)