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[Internet Dating] "Who is your favorite duck?" and other dating questions

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  • rizriz Registered User regular
    Yeah honestly I would delete all the caveats re: gaming. You don't feel the need to explain your liking to watch movies or play guitar, so why should a casual video game hobby be any different? Why make yourself appear defensive before she even has the chance to decide whether she thinks it's a good or a bad thing? (Could even make a girl think you've been accused of ignoring someone/being one of those guys in the past.) If you want to downplay it, seems counter intuitive to spend extra words on it.

    Minor point, but you want to complement each other, not compliment. (I mean, you probably want that too, but in the sense you wrote it, you spelled it wrong. :) )

    Music list kinda made me laugh, you mention you love metal three times, but then list mostly mainstream bands. Not trying to judge, but if you want to meet someone who's into metal, might want to mention some of the more metal bands you like, too.

    On that note, that might be a good idea for you guys who are worried about being too up-front about gaming but still want to mention it. Could just add a "favorite games" with a few, in the section where you're already listing movies and TV and books... so girls who like games will notice, but girls who don't won't see it as a focus of your profile if it's listed in the summary, y'know?

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  • EternalMeshEternalMesh Registered User
    All criticisms are welcome, even minor points. After all this is all helping me to a better profile. Good point about the caveats. Also, I understand what you mean about mainstream bands when talking about Metallica, Foo Fighters, Red Hot Chili Peppers, and Dave Matthews...but even Metallica, before they were mainstream, were Metal. I mean they were one of the bands who pioneered thrash metal. Also Soilwork, and Strapping Young Lad, are definitely not mainstream. Especially not SYL, I think even their hits aren't very well known outside of the metal crowd. Dethklok you can argue since they are a cartoon, but as a band are pretty brutal. It is my favorite genre of music, however that doesn't mean all of my favorite bands will land in said genre. I didn't want to go too deep into obscure bands as to not alienate any girls who only have a passing interest, but if you're saying that is an issue and that that is the kind of girl I should be gearing my profile towards than I see your point. Also ok maybe saying i love metal 3 times is excessive, I'll edit that as well.

    Again thanks for all the help! Keep em coming!

  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    Hey guys, I figure I like to get in on the fun! So far I've been message a few people back and forth consistently. Not bad, considering I just made this profile a few days ago. I know I'm lacking pictures, but I honestly don't have any pictures of me :/ . I'm telling my friends to remedy that problem, though.

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/AwesomeAthiest

    now tear me a new one, hot stuff!

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  • LilnoobsLilnoobs Alpha Queue Registered User regular
    Remove the crazy religious talk. Your opening paragraph seems cheesy as hell, but maybe people like that.

    Reduce the paragraphs that don't really mean much.
    Generally, the possibilities are endless with me. I have one life to live, I might as well experience all that I can. I love doing things I've never done before or put me outside of my comfort zone a little.
    Hey, I'll be honest. I don't talk much, but I do love to listen. What I most love about meeting new people are learning about them, figuring out how they tick, and usually not being judgmental.

    That's the second time you've dropped the "L" bomb. Just a pet peeve of mine.
    ...and lastly I'm imaging imagining about myself slaying dragons and sailing space ships.
    I have responsibilities that needs to be handled.

    But of course this is all little stuff, you'll need pictures ASAP if you want to be taken seriously by the vast majority of people you message.

  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    Sorry, the crazy religious talk needs to stay there. I've been burn one too many times when it comes to religion, people wanting me to be saved, and relationships/friendships ending because, apparently, 'I'm truly am lost.' .

    But, thank you for pointing out the other stuff.

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  • LilnoobsLilnoobs Alpha Queue Registered User regular
    Okay, then lessen the space it occupies in your profile. It's 2/3rds of your self summary and devoting that much space to ranting against a single imagined group of people is off-putting, especially at the beginning. Your name is AwesomeAthiest, do you really need that much ad space wasted on promoting that you're non-religious?

  • BrainleechBrainleech Registered User regular
    Well my name is just numbers
    But then I really don't talk about how I am a athiest here because this state is very reglious

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  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    Fine, I'll work on that part. I'm still a little bitter about the last time religion became a wedge struck by the holy sledgehammer of might between people that I know.

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  • CasualCasual flap flap flap wiggle wiggle wiggle Registered User regular
    edited July 2012
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    wrong thread.

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    its all about anthropomorphic dicks doing everyday things like buying shoes for their scrotum-feet
  • SliderSlider Registered User regular
    Deleted my POF profile. That site has turned into one giant disgusting craigslist ad.

  • TzyrTzyr Registered User regular
    @Casually Hardcore, whether or not you do decide to leave the crazy religious part in your profile, something to consider. On these sites there are pretty much two kinds of people: those who do the messaging (and for the sad part, have to), and those that get messaged (lots of messages). What I find interesting is how the two need to setup their profiles.

    Those who do the messaging, need to make their profile open and inviting. They will spend their time finding ways so that whenever they do send out messages, it won't scare off people from replying. Which means they often leave out any negativity like "don't message me if", but instead have a more positive spin. Remember, you can always find out more about religion or things that bother you looking at their profile or through messages. But having it in your profile might scare away people before giving you a chance.

    As for those who get messaged? They spend their time creating a profile stating who and who should not be sending them message. Thing is, sometimes no matter what they put in their profile won't stop people from sending them messages.

    So if you find you get messaged and whenever you send out messages you get replies, then you don't have anything to worry about. However, if you notice you don't get messaged and most of your messages do not get responses (which is often the case, I think I had a 20% reply rate), you should consider tweaking your profile a bit.

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  • LilnoobsLilnoobs Alpha Queue Registered User regular
    Fine, I'll work on that part. I'm still a little bitter about the last time religion became a wedge struck by the holy sledgehammer of might between people that I know.

    Well, that's exactly how I read that part: baggage. I think that's how others will interpret it too.

  • rizriz Registered User regular
    Lilnoobs wrote: »
    Fine, I'll work on that part. I'm still a little bitter about the last time religion became a wedge struck by the holy sledgehammer of might between people that I know.

    Well, that's exactly how I read that part: baggage. I think that's how others will interpret it too.

    Yep.

    If you absolutely must have something about it in there, there's the "message me if" section where people often add their "don't message me if" warnings. Where it is now, and the amount of space it takes up, really makes it the focus of your profile.

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  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    Alright, its been eradicated. What else?

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  • DasBootDasBoot Registered User regular
    I got a date with a girl from OKC tomorrow! Woo! A gourmet burger joint with a huge drink menu is an acceptable place to go get "drinks," right? I've been struck with hyper-overanalysis paralysis suddenly. Now, I remember why I don't date often... it turns me into a neurotic wreck at the beginning.

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  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    Depends on the girl, really.

    Sometimes I take them to the Margarita joint.

    Other times it's the Martini joint.

    Or it could be a gourmet burger joint with a bar.

    You should be telling us, you know her better then all of us combined!

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  • DasBootDasBoot Registered User regular
    Depends on the girl, really.

    Sometimes I take them to the Margarita joint.

    Other times it's the Martini joint.

    Or it could be a gourmet burger joint with a bar.

    You should be telling us, you know her better then all of us combined!

    Good point. She and I seem like fairly similar people, and the burger joint with the giant drink menu sounds pretty damn good to me. I think I'll go for it. If she doesn't like, it she's always welcome to reject the idea.

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  • LilnoobsLilnoobs Alpha Queue Registered User regular
    I just prefer sleazy dive bars with bar food. Burger joint sounds fun and could be filling if you still want to drink and not get tipsy. Burger joints are usually loud and annoying, harder to hear people over a more casual weekday in a local bar that only has the sad, married or single men drinking away their sadness at.

  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    Man, i wish I knew bars where you can hear yourself talk. Every single bar I've been too have music up so loud that you have to scream to hear yourself.

    I guess the best compromise would be something like a Yard House, if you have one of those around.

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  • DasBootDasBoot Registered User regular
    Well, she accepted the burger joint.. so we'll see how it goes. I've been on a few dates from OKC and they've all been a bit disastrous, but this one feels different. If the place is too loud, it's in the middle of this big nice commercial district and we can take a walk.

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  • KyouguKyougu Registered User regular
    I feel like I haven't updated my profile in a while. Anyone mind a quick critic so I can get an idea on where to edit?

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets


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  • mysticjuicermysticjuicer Registered User regular
    Kyougu wrote: »
    I feel like I haven't updated my profile in a while. Anyone mind a quick critic so I can get an idea on where to edit?

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets


    Looks pretty awesome. I think you missed a C in "You only live onCe." I like your "flying casually into a pool" pic more than the rock climbing one.

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  • TehSpectreTehSpectre Ragamuffin Registered User regular
    Kyougu wrote: »
    I feel like I haven't updated my profile in a while. Anyone mind a quick critic so I can get an idea on where to edit?

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets


    Looks pretty awesome. I think you missed a C in "You only live onCe." I like your "flying casually into a pool" pic more than the rock climbing one.
    I agree. I think that could be the main.

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  • MahnmutMahnmut Registered User regular
    TehSpectre wrote: »
    Kyougu wrote: »
    I feel like I haven't updated my profile in a while. Anyone mind a quick critic so I can get an idea on where to edit?

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets


    Looks pretty awesome. I think you missed a C in "You only live onCe." I like your "flying casually into a pool" pic more than the rock climbing one.
    I agree. I think that could be the main.

    The first rock climbing pic is actually by far your least flattering, and you have a ton of awesome ones -- take it out, IMO. :)

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  • mightyspacepopemightyspacepope Registered User regular
    Kyougu wrote: »
    I feel like I haven't updated my profile in a while. Anyone mind a quick critic so I can get an idea on where to edit?

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets


    Agreed, the pool pic should definitely be your main. Also, where did you get that squid hat? I MUST know.

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  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    edited July 2012
    Man, the one thing I'm not liking about Okcupid is the browsing. Seriously, a face picture and 5 lines of text ain't much to go one.

    That and apparently only bisexual women in polyamaorous relationships use this website, not that it's a turn off. It's just rather odd.

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  • SliderSlider Registered User regular
    Called a girl an asshole and gave her my number.

    I should be receiving a call in a few minutes.

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  • HacksawHacksaw J Duggan Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    Man, the one thing I'm not liking about Okcupid is the browsing. Seriously, a face picture and 5 lines of text ain't much to go one.

    That and apparently only bisexual women in polyamaorous relationships use this website, not that it's a turn off. It's just rather odd.

    Where the hell do you live, Seattle?

  • DasBootDasBoot Registered User regular
    Got back from the meet-up. It went well I think. We are a lot a like and she was cute. We didn't have any lulls in conversation and just shot the shit and joked for the whole time. Definitely not the trainwreck others have been. We chatted about Forbidden Planet for a while which was cool. I damn well think I'll ask her out again, though I'm about 70% sure on how to parse "maybe we should do this again sometime"

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  • ZekZek Registered User regular
    Sorry, the crazy religious talk needs to stay there. I've been burn one too many times when it comes to religion, people wanting me to be saved, and relationships/friendships ending because, apparently, 'I'm truly am lost.' .

    But, thank you for pointing out the other stuff.

    Why don't you just set some mandatory profile questions and double check their answers before messaging to be safe?

  • KyouguKyougu Registered User regular
    Thanks guy. I figured the pool one is my best pic, but I had that one up as my main for a while so I thought I would change it up.

    @Mighty Got the hat at Six Flags. Pretty awesome hat really.

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  • Casually HardcoreCasually Hardcore Registered User regular
    edited July 2012
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Man, the one thing I'm not liking about Okcupid is the browsing. Seriously, a face picture and 5 lines of text ain't much to go one.

    That and apparently only bisexual women in polyamaorous relationships use this website, not that it's a turn off. It's just rather odd.

    Where the hell do you live, Seattle?

    I know, it's pretty weird considering I haven't actually met anyone in person who have the same traits. I always figure Colorado is more on the conservative side of things. It's somewhat of an eye opener when a good 1/3 of the profiles starts with "I'm bi and currently married, but I'm in a polyamorous relationship and I'm looking for someone else"


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  • rizriz Registered User regular
    There seems to be a disproportionately high amount of that here as well (male and female, but I mean, a LOT of people on there who are already in a relationship), but, y'know, it's New York.

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  • GorkGork Registered User regular
    Slider wrote: »
    Called a girl an asshole and gave her my number.

    I should be receiving a call in a few minutes.

    You are going to die alone.

  • SkyCaptainSkyCaptain Registered User regular
    Woot... Friday will mark one month of dating this girl I randomly messaged cause she was cute, has a job, has a car, and isn't living with her parents. Best random decision yet.

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  • AldoAldo Hippo Hooray the swamp, always the swampRegistered User regular
    What's the policy re:using pictures that are also on my facebook? It would be stupid to use the same picture as I use on LinkedIn, but FB is kind of in between for me (got a few aunts and friends of my mom's on there)...

    I'm kind of preparing myself for whenever I feel confident enough to talk to women with the intention to date.

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  • kaliyamakaliyama Registered User regular
    Gork wrote: »
    Slider wrote: »
    Called a girl an asshole and gave her my number.

    I should be receiving a call in a few minutes.

    You are going to die alone.

    Nah, depends entirely on context. Slider's also pretty good looking, which gives him a lot more leeway.

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  • kaliyamakaliyama Registered User regular
    Mahnmut wrote: »
    TehSpectre wrote: »
    Kyougu wrote: »
    I feel like I haven't updated my profile in a while. Anyone mind a quick critic so I can get an idea on where to edit?

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/brownchiclets


    Looks pretty awesome. I think you missed a C in "You only live onCe." I like your "flying casually into a pool" pic more than the rock climbing one.
    I agree. I think that could be the main.

    The first rock climbing pic is actually by far your least flattering, and you have a ton of awesome ones -- take it out, IMO. :)

    I'd do a closer-up photo for #3 instead of the windsurfing one.

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  • DelinatorDelinator Registered User regular
    I'm not very happy with my self-summary. Any suggestions?

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Starwind1979

  • AldoAldo Hippo Hooray the swamp, always the swampRegistered User regular
    OK, I finished a rough draft of my profile, could someone please look over it and tell me what you think? http://www.okcupid.com/profile/unfoldedmap

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    @Delinator
    I know it's a thing in Germany, but as far as "first thing I would like to know about you" the language of movies you like to watch is way down on my priority list. I took that first question more as a way to describe what would define me. Maybe move the stuff about movies down to the category where you're supposed to list them? And instead talk a bit about what you do when you're not unwinding or working?

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