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I physically moved the old dishwasher and washing machine outside onto the back deck and told her that all she needed to do was call a scrap metal place to pick them up when it suited her.
They're still sitting there.
Also, we're out of spoons, (I just stacked them into the dishwasher) so I just ate breakfast with a salad server.
My ex-landlady came over today and held Anya for an hour while I took out trash, did laundry and ate breakfast. It's funny what a low priority eating has become; I drink a ton, about a bottle of water a feeding, but eating takes a lot more effort.
Anya is awake, fed and changed but refusing to sleep, so I'm going to wrap her and then get on with chores.
HAAAHAHAHAAAHAAAAA
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Speaking from experience: I don't think it works like that.
Maybe I'm just being negative and things will work out better for you.
You may scoff and think whatever, but we're talking about a level of slovenliness and inertia that would actually create an unhealthy and dangerous environment for a child. She'll have to clean bottles when they get dirty and pickup things that are dangerous (like scissors). These are all things that have to happen. These are things that don't happen currently.
And after 10 years of being the one cleaning up and looking after her, it'll be nice for her to have to share some responsibility for the household chores.
I like your kid.
You got a good kid.
Maybe I'll get some of those for today
Also @Fishman, I wasn't a super messy person before having a kid, but my ability to maintain a clean house has deteriorated substantially, so I am having trouble imagining that your wife will suddenly turn over a new leaf
But hey, it could happen!
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But at the moment Jen contributes about as much to household chores as your average 17th century French aristocrat. And I'm tired of being the only one doing anything about it.
Fuck it. Nevermind. It's clear that no one quite comprehends what it's like to live with someone who sleeps uncomfortably on a pile of books they finished weeks ago because it's too much effort to put them back on the shelf.
Yeah it's all pretty terrible. I felt bad making my kid eat it, we switched her to home cooking ASAP.
But this is probably just personal experience and with any luck we are very wrong
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I guess pickiness will happen no matter what, if it's going to happen
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but expecting someone to change their habits of their own volition, even under life-changing circumstances, is an emotionally risky venture. please don't set yourself up for disappointment in that.
And from conversations with her, she wants to want that too, although she's less enthusiastic about it than I am.
The trouble is, I can't hold her when she's awake. She just roots constantly. But, of course, if I hold her when she's asleep, I lose valuable sleep time myself (which is what's happening - last night I could've had a good two hour nap, but I was just holding her and enjoying her instead).
Dads have an advantage in not smelling of milk!
i'm depressed and have had therapy for it, so my experience of this might not apply, but my therapists have said i'm rather insightful into thought processes.
for some people, it is a seemingly natural process to go from desire to attempting fulfillment of that desire; some of us have a roadblock between the two, no matter how nice or necessary the end result. i don't know many of the reasons behind this, but for me, it's a function/symptom of depression.
it sounds like she might need some help in learning to make her thoughts become actions.
and though it's been helpful for me, i cannot suggest you tell your wife that she needs her brain examined. that's really a personal decision, plus there's still a lot of stigma attached to it. but it's good that you're talking to each other -- a lot of couples avoid Important Discussions, so you've got that!
@Pooka Cheers for the well thought out feelings; the fact that my wife has depression is well known to us and is definitely part of the problem. I don't mention it often, because usually, when I do is end up venting and bitching about my frustrations, as I have above. But it's also part of how I let off steam as someone who doesn't suffer depression in a relationship with someone who does. I would like her to take better care of herself, but more important, I want her to be able to take care of our children. To an extent, I let her get away with a certain level of self-neglect because she is a fully functional aware adult; however, the same level of neglect is incompatible with child-rearing. As you well know dealing with the issues and causes requires constant ongoing engagement; like I say, I'm hopeful that she will find it within her to take better care of her progeny than she does of herself.
This is more than enough navel gazing; it's becoming positively morose in here.
@Janson Nothing she's shared with me.
That is so cool.
30 Babies That Are Pissed At You.
Well one thing in favour of breast feeding is it is hugely convenient. I mean I knew that anyway, but I am reaaaally able to appreciate it now! Also since Anya is a latching pro, we can adopt almost and position and feed successfully - standing, lying (useful at night), reclining on lovesac, walking around...
Holy smokes, 17 looks like one of my nephews when he was that age (only, my nephew is black).
Also 26 is the best photo there. Not really a pissed baby, but still.
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It's a hit!
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I hear it happens like fifty percent of the time.
(sorry this sounds super catty)
Satans..... hints..... I'm a mo bro!
Ahaha that's wonderful
- When they asked what city he lived in, he responded with "Hyrule"....I asked him about it later and he said he couldn't remember the real one so he made up one to be funny.
- When they asked him if he had any pets he answered "only imaginary ones, because I wish I had a dog but my dad is allergic to them", and then proceeded to name five imaginary pets.
They were slightly concerned about his ability to distinguish imagination from reality, I was just mostly impressed by his imagination.