So I've talked to this chick I used to know in high school via MySpace a few times. And I've been thinking about the fact that I used to kinda have a little "thing" for her in high school. So, I've decided that hey, fuck it, why not ask her to have some coffee with me some time?
I mean, I know it's kinda pussy-esque to ask some chick out by way of a text-based medium, but I have no other way of contacting her right now. And I definitely don't want to wait for weeks to go by as I continually talk to her over and over and finally get to the point where I can ask for a phone number or something. I'm just gonna ask her to a little coffee "get together", and if I'm lucky or I play my cards right, maybe it'll serve as a prelude to an actual date.
Anyway, is there a reason not to do this? Anyone got any advice to impart? Should I include my phone number in the message, or just ask her to have coffee in a humorous way and leave it at that? Hopefully, one of you guys will have some experience in this area and can help me out. I'm probably going to message her in a few minutes to do this. Thanks in advance.
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And I wouldn't suggest doing it in a "humorous way" either, whatever that means. You're not trying to make a joke, so don't undermine yourself by not taking it seriously.
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We used to talk quite a bit in high school, joking around and such. There was one instance in college a year or two ago wherein she actually approached my place of employment in order to say hi to me. Now, it has been a while since we last talked in person, and we've only sent a few messages back and forth, but I think I could ask her to a little "coffee date", if you will, without too much awkwardness.
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But just keep it casual.
Not "Hey, would you like to grab a coffee with me?"
But rather "Hey, I remember I always enjoyed your company. Let's grab coffee together. I'm thinking Sunday 1pm."
Include your number.
You could use an excuse like "we have to catch up on old times" but that would make it more a friends thing rather than a date thing. Up to you.
My reaction would be "wow, slow down Sparky!"
You were sorta friends a few years back and she is fond of you, otherwise she wouldn't drop by work or keep contact through MySpace, maybe you're just a friend, I wouldn't want to confess any feelings and share phonenumbers this quick.
Not saying Ege's advice is any less viable and might just go over well, but it wouldn't be what I would do in a situation like this. ^^
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Don't get specific or ask for contact info until she has indicated that she wants to. Also, don't be afraid to get shot down. It's not that big a deal unless you make it a big deal.
The best way to go about this is to act like you were going for coffee anyway. I take it since you talk to her on Myspace that you dont live too close. Make up an excuse to go to a coffee shop around her area and tell her you are going to be about her area if shes up for grabbing some coffee with you.
If you make it seem like your going to be going anyway, theres more chance of her actually going.
"a quiet dinner" between people who were acquaintances in highschool would be a little off-putting. I'd say go for coffee (as you apparently have) and see if it works out.
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But don't ask her out for coffee in a humorous or lackadaisical way or else it most likely won't happen.
And yes, I think that you should include your number at the bottom of the message and ask her what time(s) work for her, you don't want to seem too pushy.
"Hey what going on, you live near me now and we know (some person) from a long time ago, what's going on" and then a few messages later "So hey, we should grab coffee at (good place) sometime, how about (insert night). What's your number? Mine is (number)."
So yeah, without having any prior contact, just make it obvious your not creepy and girls typically don't mind giving guys a chance with something as quick as coffee.
Now, I think I might be able to turn it into one if she seems to be having a good enough time, but for the moment I only plan on getting coffee with her and talking for like 45min-1 hour.
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And thanks for the support. Again, I'll let you guys know what she says when I get a response.
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it's actually really easy to do all this. just initiate some sort of conversation for a while on Myspace, if this works then just say 'hey, do you happen to have AIM/Hotmail/whateveritisyoukidsusethesedays' and then go from there. if that works out, an in-person meeting is pretty much the next logical step and it works itself out.
there isn't anything wrong with meeting people on the internet as long as you develop an in-person relationship with them reasonably swiftly.
Oh, and she said that coffee sounds great, and asked me to provide her with my schedule so we can decide when to get together. I'm going to include my phone number now, just in case she'd like to call me or whatever. It's nice that I can do this, because then I don't have to be the first one to call.
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