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I need some outside advice on a situation and know there are some good people on here. Here goes:
I got engaged to a girl after only knowing her for 2 months, and moved in with her after only 6 months. What can I say, head over heels, absolutely no rational thought involved. Obviously, things did not go very well. After 2 years together, we were both completely co-dependent, I was drinking way too much, she was constantly sick, and we were no longer doing the things that make us "us" (playing music, further education, etc.) We started to resent the fact that we moved so quickly, and I realized if there was any chance at happiness, we needed to both grow a bit first.
So I did the deal, I broke up with the girl and moved to Portland. 8 months go by. I am now a successful mathematician at Nike, I am in metal band that plays local shows, and I am much happier and healthier than I was previously. Same story for *Hildegarde, in terms of success. I should be happy and move on, right? But...
I can't get the girl out of my head. I've tried dating other girls, tried staying in all weekend and reading books to further my knowledge, but *Hildegarde's pretty much there at the back of my head, always. I just recently restarted communication with her, and it has turned into long conversations where we both can't stop talking. So I am realizing, I would rebuild everything I have in Portland, just to be in Los Angeles and have her in my life. I know I can do it too. But I have to do it right.
So here comes the H&A: Have any of you folks tried to rekindle an old relationship that failed? I am about 90% certain that my relationship failed because we were going about 900% too fast, but the point is still there...it didn't work out once, how can I come at it this time to give our relationship a healthy chance? I am planning on looking for a job in SoCal, setting myself up, and taking her out on dates while I am interviewing.