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Wife is pregnant, not wanted
As the title states, my wife is pregnant. Complete accident, we are usually really good at using birth control but screwed up.
A bit of background. We currently have a 3 year old daughter. We were both against having any other kids. Always telling people that one is enough. My wife is working as an engineer making good money (80,000) and is set to receive her P Eng designation next February. If she were to give birth and stay home this would throw off her entire career path. She already missed one year due to having our first child. She does not want to stall her career path and have to deal with the strong stigma she already has of being the constant pregnant engineer.
As for me Im still in school and going to graduate in december as an accountant. Very employable and I should be making 40-45 a year when I get a job. We were both looking forward to my graduation because we could live much more comfortably with the addition of my salary. If she were to go on mat leave we would be making my 40,000 plus her 485 per week, thats 64,650 before taxes. This is the best case senario. I could have trouble finding a job, or the only available are much lower paying. Im just not sure we could live off that with two kids. We have almost no savings due to having to help her family and me going to school. So basically, we would be making much less with an extra kid.
We are actually thinking of abortion. My wife does not want to give birth. She is a very intense hypochondriac. Just as an example she doesnt like running because she says she can feel her internals moving lots and doesnt want everything to fall out while running. So another pregnancy and birth might make her even more worrisome but an abortion probably would as well. And to be perfectly honest we are both not the most emotionally stable people so an abortion might take a big toll on both of us. We were very very close to getting a divorce last year (made a thread about it). We are doing better as a couple but with another child, who knows.
For me I just dont know if I could take care of another child. I mean i think im a pretty good dad but with an extra kid im not so sure.
So basically im just asking for any advice on what to do here. Can we afford another child? Is abortion an option? What are the consequences?