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I am posting this on behalf of my wife - she's heard me mention H&A before, but her native language isn't English, so she asked me to write this.
She has been suffering from some form of mental health problem (perhaps Social Anxiety Disorder, perhaps Post-Natal Depression) for three years or so, and she's gotten very very thin.
She's always been thin, and a very good eater. She used to eat loads, but stayed thin for two reasons. Firstly, her metabolism is super-fast. She burns calories like crazy. Secondly, she's Japanese, so even though she eats a lot it tends to be pretty healthy stuff.
Since she got sick, though, she's been slowly but steadily losing weight. She didn't have any to spare, and is now underweight according to her doc and BMI, and anaemic, presumably from poor nutrition. She started taking iron tablets a week or two ago but they don't seem to have any effect yet.
Yesterday she had her period (she always has heavy periods and terrible PMT - before I lived with her I thought PMT was just a sexist myth) and she got so dizzy and sick that she couldn't walk. She semi-collapsed on the way to work and I had to go get her and bring her home. Which brought me to a new level of worry.
So, I am at my wits end with this. How can she gain weight, what should be be doing? She's clearly very underweight, with all the obvious physical signs of poor health and stress (saggy skin, bags under her eyes, dull thinning hair). She agrees she needs to gain weight, but doesn't know how. She eats snacks and sweets now (my bad influence) but it's nutritious weight-gain she needs. She doesn't feel hungry enough to eat more. She's very passive/depressed, so she finds it hard to address problems - usually she denies there is a problem. This one she is trying to address, but it's still hard for her.
Two things to consider - we live in Japan, so we probably have roughly the same products as wherever you live, but the brand names will be different. Also, I find her psychiatrist to be kinda useless - he gives her lots of meds and is unrelentingly positive in the manner of a kid's TV presenter. I think he is too in love with his own treatment choices to consider changing anything.
It was, of course, nothing more than sexism, the especially virulent type espoused by male techies who sincerely believe that they are too smart to be sexists.