My parents didn't have a wedding party because my dad sort of planned a surprise wedding and only told my mom the day before. My one sister also didn't have a wedding party and we aren't having one either.
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edited October 2014
I don't know for certain, but I could probably take a few educated guesses. Wouldn't give myself more than 50/50 chances of getting it right, though.
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Pretty sure my parents just didn't have a moh/best man. I do know for my wife's parents because they married a couple of years ago and chose their two daughters as witnesses.
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Dad's best man was his friend Brent. Mom's was her childhood best friend Sondra. She also had i think 3 bridesmaids. One of whom is my dad's sister.
who decided to use my parents wedding reception to announce her engagement.
Blake TDo you have enemies then?Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.Registered Userregular
See, I find this interesting!
Or maybe I now don't feel so bad. I mean it's just something interesting, these were people who were important to our parents, but we don't know who they are.
As a general poll, how many people know who was their parent's best man and maid of honour.
I realised the other day I had no idea.
Best man I know
Matron/maid of honour I think I could take a pretty good stab at, but I'm not 100% sure. If it's the person I'm thinking of, she's also my sister's godmother so that always overwrote all previous relationships.
Wedding rings! Wedding rings that were supposed to be orange anodized on the inside but are kinda... reddish! oh well! I was sooooo stressed they wouldn't fit well because they're titanium, but mine at least fits exactly like it's supposed to. I won't know about his until 8:30 tonight when he gets home from work. They're engraved on the inside too!
guys guys our wedding is this coming Saturday and i am nervous as fuck.
send help.
(i basically just want the day to go smoothly and am now worrying about all the small things that might prevent that)
Man as long as your lady shows up on the day no one is going to care if the little things aren't perfect and in ten years time you won't even think about them.
Also don't get drunk before the wedding, because apparently it's illegal to marry intoxicated people.
So I got engaged a few weeks ago, and while things haven't gotten too deep into the planning I'm finding I've already got anxiety about a bunch of things.
For one, I asked my best friend to be my best man. Apparently someone in my family isn't happy with this, and think the position should have automatically gone to my older brother. My older brother and I didn't always get along, and it's only recently that we've been having civil, even friendly conversations (for context, I'm 30 and he's 33. This new civility has been going on for maybe 4 years tops). I would rather my best man be someone who's had my back as long as I've known him, who I can trust to be at my side during the dark times, and my best friend has been those things.
I want to ask my brother to be a groomsman, since I figure the virtue of just being family has earned him that much, but I'm terrified to actually ask. Why? Because I have no idea which family member is upset that I didn't ask him to be my best man because my mom won't tell me. She won't tell me because she doesn't want me to be mad at that family member. So here I am, best man secured, most of my groomsmen secured, and too anxious to ask the last one, who should frankly have been the easiest one to ask, because SOMEONE in my family is a selfish prick who wants to dictate how I select my wedding party and my mom is protecting them.
On top of that, I've not been too involved in any of the rest of the planning, and I'm worried that my fiancee is doing a ton of shit that I'm not even privy to, and that makes me feel like I'm not contributing when I should be. On top of that, she originally wanted to have the whole thing in Haiti, which she mentioned like a year ago (to which I said "we'll talk about it when the time comes"). When it came up after I proposed, I mentioned that if we did it in Haiti, nobody on my side (which is already much smaller than hers) would be able to go, especially my friends. I found out about a week later that she took that as me flat out saying no, and was kinda broken up about it. She's okay with it now apparently but I'm still kinda bummed that I unintentionally pooped on her dream.
Also, as a groom-to-be, am I out of line for being of the opinion that this isnt "her" day, but "our" day? Everyone - family, friends, coworkers - is saying that I need to just take a back seat and keep my mouth shut because it's her day, but that kinda grinds my gears because, well, I'm part of this thing too yanno?
Though I should clarify that my fiancee hasn't said anything of the sort - I have no doubts that she wants me to be happy with the wedding and have a good time and not be a silent partner, because if I had any of those doubts I wouldn't have proposed.
guys guys our wedding is this coming Saturday and i am nervous as fuck.
send help.
(i basically just want the day to go smoothly and am now worrying about all the small things that might prevent that)
Man as long as your lady shows up on the day no one is going to care if the little things aren't perfect and in ten years time you won't even think about them.
Also don't get drunk before the wedding, because apparently it's illegal to marry intoxicated people.
APPARENTLY.
well shit cause i was gonna get drunk as fuck before the wedding!
nah that's for crazy ass dance party after the ceremony
Blake TDo you have enemies then?Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.Registered Userregular
Nah inx, I don't think you've done anything wrong.
Here is the thing though.
Despite everyone saying the day is about you. (and it is!) people want to think that they know what you want more. And people get upset when they are wrong!
I'm nintey percent sure every couple here had pissed someone off. Dave and his wife annoyed his brother because they wanted a surprise wedding which meant you can't tell people overseas to come to a surprise wedding. I've annoyed my "family friends" (re: my parents friends who I have not seen in years) because I don't want those people here.
But it is your wedding and you aren't a millionaire so don't afraid to make compromises if you aren't on board with the idea.
@Inx rule of thumb i've found for this whole wedding is this: it IS your day, but it is also your family's day.
you have to be considerate for your family, since they will be involved, but ultimately you and your SO's choices are the most important.
the last few months for me and my fiancee have been careful weaving through family and friend expectations, annoying politics, and weird family quirks and still reaching a result that ends up something the fiancee and i are happy with. there are some compromises, but just so much that we don't think they go against what we wanted for the day.
my mom has already volunteered my niece to be a jr bridesmaid for my fiancee and it definitely pissed us both off.
it would be a nice gesture but we could have made the decision ourselves!
we're both of a mind for a small ceremony and a fun reception but we'll see how that works out. i'm just hoping her family's tradition of having dry weddings not carrying over to ours. we both like to drink and it's a small sliver of her folks that are teetotalers
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Thanks for the replies guys - I wasn't so much concerned about catering to the families so much (like the Haiti thing. My family wouldn't have gone for it and I kinda knew) but more the whole concept of "it's the bride's day, the groom doesn't get to make any decisions because it's not his day" thing that everyone who isnt me, my fiancee, or my groomsmen keep spouting.
my mom has already volunteered my niece to be a jr bridesmaid for my fiancee and it definitely pissed us both off.
it would be a nice gesture but we could have made the decision ourselves!
we're both of a mind for a small ceremony and a fun reception but we'll see how that works out. i'm just hoping her family's tradition of having dry weddings not carrying over to ours. we both like to drink and it's a small sliver of her folks that are teetotalers
This is something I'm SOOO glad I don't have to deal with. I have no problem with people who don't drink, but fiancee and I have both made it super clear that there will be booze at our wedding. If you're into sobriety, order a water.
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who decided to use my parents wedding reception to announce her engagement.
She's special.
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Satans..... hints.....
she's one of those ladies who absolutely MUST have everything about her, and if it's not, even for a moment, it will be.
She once locked my cousin in the car outside of the BK that my birthday party was at.
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So I told her it's cool if she wants to get engaged at the reception.
Satans..... hints.....
My granddad's best man for his second marriage was my dad. His speech started: "I've known this man all my life; he's been like a father to me."
Or maybe I now don't feel so bad. I mean it's just something interesting, these were people who were important to our parents, but we don't know who they are.
Satans..... hints.....
Turns out, firstly, she has no idea of the phrase, "pop quiz hotshot" or who they were.
So disappointed.
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Satans..... hints.....
(hi Blake how's Noosa?)
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But honestly, I'd prefer to be in a mining camp any other day of the week.
Satans..... hints.....
Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better
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Best man I know
Matron/maid of honour I think I could take a pretty good stab at, but I'm not 100% sure. If it's the person I'm thinking of, she's also my sister's godmother so that always overwrote all previous relationships.
I got a tooth punched out in Noosa once
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
send help.
(i basically just want the day to go smoothly and am now worrying about all the small things that might prevent that)
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Having said that, my wedding is also on Saturday and I am also getting pretty jittery, so maybe take that advice with a grain of salt
Yes, I remember that story!
Then you drove home!
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Man as long as your lady shows up on the day no one is going to care if the little things aren't perfect and in ten years time you won't even think about them.
Also don't get drunk before the wedding, because apparently it's illegal to marry intoxicated people.
APPARENTLY.
Satans..... hints.....
I had no idea who was my dad's BM but I did get the MoH right. My sister got both wrong.
Satans..... hints.....
For one, I asked my best friend to be my best man. Apparently someone in my family isn't happy with this, and think the position should have automatically gone to my older brother. My older brother and I didn't always get along, and it's only recently that we've been having civil, even friendly conversations (for context, I'm 30 and he's 33. This new civility has been going on for maybe 4 years tops). I would rather my best man be someone who's had my back as long as I've known him, who I can trust to be at my side during the dark times, and my best friend has been those things.
I want to ask my brother to be a groomsman, since I figure the virtue of just being family has earned him that much, but I'm terrified to actually ask. Why? Because I have no idea which family member is upset that I didn't ask him to be my best man because my mom won't tell me. She won't tell me because she doesn't want me to be mad at that family member. So here I am, best man secured, most of my groomsmen secured, and too anxious to ask the last one, who should frankly have been the easiest one to ask, because SOMEONE in my family is a selfish prick who wants to dictate how I select my wedding party and my mom is protecting them.
On top of that, I've not been too involved in any of the rest of the planning, and I'm worried that my fiancee is doing a ton of shit that I'm not even privy to, and that makes me feel like I'm not contributing when I should be. On top of that, she originally wanted to have the whole thing in Haiti, which she mentioned like a year ago (to which I said "we'll talk about it when the time comes"). When it came up after I proposed, I mentioned that if we did it in Haiti, nobody on my side (which is already much smaller than hers) would be able to go, especially my friends. I found out about a week later that she took that as me flat out saying no, and was kinda broken up about it. She's okay with it now apparently but I'm still kinda bummed that I unintentionally pooped on her dream.
Also, as a groom-to-be, am I out of line for being of the opinion that this isnt "her" day, but "our" day? Everyone - family, friends, coworkers - is saying that I need to just take a back seat and keep my mouth shut because it's her day, but that kinda grinds my gears because, well, I'm part of this thing too yanno?
Though I should clarify that my fiancee hasn't said anything of the sort - I have no doubts that she wants me to be happy with the wedding and have a good time and not be a silent partner, because if I had any of those doubts I wouldn't have proposed.
Am I being a big goose?
well shit cause i was gonna get drunk as fuck before the wedding!
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Satans..... hints.....
Here is the thing though.
Despite everyone saying the day is about you. (and it is!) people want to think that they know what you want more. And people get upset when they are wrong!
I'm nintey percent sure every couple here had pissed someone off. Dave and his wife annoyed his brother because they wanted a surprise wedding which meant you can't tell people overseas to come to a surprise wedding. I've annoyed my "family friends" (re: my parents friends who I have not seen in years) because I don't want those people here.
But it is your wedding and you aren't a millionaire so don't afraid to make compromises if you aren't on board with the idea.
Satans..... hints.....
you have to be considerate for your family, since they will be involved, but ultimately you and your SO's choices are the most important.
the last few months for me and my fiancee have been careful weaving through family and friend expectations, annoying politics, and weird family quirks and still reaching a result that ends up something the fiancee and i are happy with. there are some compromises, but just so much that we don't think they go against what we wanted for the day.
huh, just like a marriage is supposed to be!
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it would be a nice gesture but we could have made the decision ourselves!
we're both of a mind for a small ceremony and a fun reception but we'll see how that works out. i'm just hoping her family's tradition of having dry weddings not carrying over to ours. we both like to drink and it's a small sliver of her folks that are teetotalers
Oh my god this. This can basically apply to every milestone for anyone ever.
People drive me nuts.
This is something I'm SOOO glad I don't have to deal with. I have no problem with people who don't drink, but fiancee and I have both made it super clear that there will be booze at our wedding. If you're into sobriety, order a water.
Maybe you two should sit down and figure out what is important to you two and may be hash out what you want your budget to be.
Vivienne is concerned about things I do not care for and I for example wanted a cake which she didn't really care for.
Satans..... hints.....
Is going to be boss.
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