Yeah, go for it Casby! Sorry you're having to face a decision like that. I've always viewed a marriage as a celebration of family, and if you need to have a ceremony moved up to have an important family member there then so be it. Anyone who gives you flak about it needs to be reminded of why we have these celebrations in the first place.
As Ahava said, it may be a good idea to let your closest friends and family know your legal plans, just so they don't get their feelings hurt later. I had a friend who did the opposite of what you're doing (got legally married months before and later had a big wedding celebration). Her family found out, and were hurt that they weren't told when they were 'actually' married.
All the best to you two, though, and congratulations!
We received our wedding photos so I thought now would be a good time to do announcements.
So... does anyone have advice on wedding announcements?
How to word it
What it should include. Obviously going to have a picture of ourselves on it but... Not sure if I should have a link to the wedding photos or add them to our wedding site or what.
I have a lot of extended family and specifically didn't send them invitations cause we didn't want to have the ceremony be inflated.
Doing some of my own research I'm realizing that maybe I was supposed to send these out the day after? But.. I thought pictures would be nice to have in that sort of thing.. waaaa
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"Yo! We got hitched!"
honestly, do whatever makes you happy and whatever makes it less likely for your extended family to come at your with pitchforks.
I personally think the photo of you 2 being all American Gothic would be an AMAZING announcement photo.
I guess
"Just wanted to let you know, that Skettios and Mr Skettios totally got married on this day at this time in this place. We appreciate your love and support and hey, you can totally send us money."
Or something else probably a little more tactful. :P
The church we found at Christmas is Church of England which has quite restrictive rules on parish residency, so in order to keep the reception venue we found viable it's either going to have to be Ripon Cathedral (still C of E but with less restrictive rules) or a tiny Catholic church where our eligibility is more or less up to the local priest.
Picking out which photos to print and frame is hard! Love that our photographer just gave us the photos though
Maybe I'll just get them all printed in a book in addition to the ones I get framed.
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This week Jen and I have been married 10 years. Sometimes, it only feels like 10 times as much, particularly at 3am when the baby's crying. But anyway, seeing as 10 years ago was the era of dial up and pic hosting was so much hassle back then, it was only today in recognition of the centenary decade that I actually have put a selection of our wedding pics online.
This was our venue, the historic star boating club at the waterfront lagoon. The picture was taken from the footbridge over the inlet connecting the harbour to the lagoon, and it's surrounded on pretty much all sides by waterfront parks and civic historic areas and it's just right in the heart of the downtown area.
Jen had one of the longest bridal processions of any wedding I've been to. She arrived on the street on the far side of the lagoon and had to walk along the edge, around the fountain, then across the footbridge that had filled with thronging crowds who were just wondering why someone was blaring Coldplay out over the waterfront before finally looping back to arrive at the ceremony. She used the entire 3-minute song to make the circuitous route to the prominence at the centre, an ever decreasing spiral that the wedding party could witness her entire approach along the entire way.
We're not big on formality, and if I'm going to be standing for this whole shindig, so can everyone else (except Granny). Everyone gather round so you can hear, because we're only doing this once.
I tricked her so well she actually thinks she's happy about this. Score!
At this point, it's traditional to go off and have 'official photos' taken or something. Fuck that, I'm shelling out for the most awesome party I can imagine, so we're going to the end of the floating dock for a few minutes, snap a few shots with the harbour in the background, then come back and mingle with all our friends and family. Photos done!
Paper plates, wooden benches and the most elaborate picnic spread I can get top shelf caterers to prepare. Everyone tuck in, except the bride, who's still so giddy she forgets to eat until late evening when all the food has gone.
It was a damn gorgeous day, one of the only ones that summer which had been one of the most wet and grey and miserable summers ever. So on that one brilliant day, it seemed the whole city came out to take advantage of the Sun; the waterfront was packed with people, and a constant stream of merriment and people enjoying the harbour ebbed and flowed around our little island at the centre of it all. Of course, it didn't hurt that our MC was able to hook us up with a PA & AMP speaker system normally utilised by loud venue bands and we were pumping a personally selected playlist of most excellent tunes over the entire waterfront park area.
So we enjoyed the Sun and mingled, wandering from group to group as they spread out around the lagoon and partook of both weather, food and venue. Of course, the ceremony had also marked the point at which I became an uncle, and with it came real responsibilities. Somehow, my newly-acquired niece was unaware how to skip stones; so here I am within a few hours of becoming married, sneaking out the back of the party to instruct a 6-year old in the physics of how the rotational velocity of an object affects its interaction with the surface of a fluid. Once again, the choice of the lagoon was most beneficial.
We actually didn't spend as much time together at the wedding as you might imagine; unlike most brides and grooms, somehow we each circulated independently of each other as we went from group to group, coming together occasionally only to break apart again as our attention wandered from place to place. But we did, at a couple points, manage to slip off and find some time to spend with each other, for short periods.
Eventually, however, the Sun dropped low in the sky, and it was time to move inside. A few people wanted to say words, and seeing as some of them had come all the way from Canada we weren't about to say no. My brother passed on the opportunity to roast me, a favour I did not return when my time came at his wedding a few years later, and our parents were all very proud of us. I gave a terrible thanks as the groom that I have successfully erased from my memory, and after the ceremony we took down these coloured lanterns and have kept them to be hung as decorations in the nursery.
This cake was so good. One layer was chocolate, one was vanilla orange? I can't even remember any more. But so good.
And then we partied late into the night, until every drop of enjoyment had been squeezed out of the day and everyone had partied so hard that there was nothing left to do but go home and recover for the post-wedding BBQ at my parents the next day. There'll be plenty of leftovers!
And that, in essence, was my wedding. 10 years on Friday.
the current plan is to offer an open invitation to any SE++ folks that wanna come, and it's a ways out so y'all can start savin' and scrimpin'
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Oh thank god. You're in Minnesota, right? That's why I got worried, because if you had somehow picked Minnesota I was gonna cry.
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Maaaan, Ireland is my current #1 place I most want to visit, but we're probably adopting within the next year which would complicate the hell out of any large vacations for the first while.
Maaaan, Ireland is my current #1 place I most want to visit, but we're probably adopting within the next year which would complicate the hell out of any large vacations for the first while.
Also I hear kids are expensive,
Kids aren't expensive. They just eat up every single dollar you have.
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As Ahava said, it may be a good idea to let your closest friends and family know your legal plans, just so they don't get their feelings hurt later. I had a friend who did the opposite of what you're doing (got legally married months before and later had a big wedding celebration). Her family found out, and were hurt that they weren't told when they were 'actually' married.
All the best to you two, though, and congratulations!
So... does anyone have advice on wedding announcements?
How to word it
What it should include. Obviously going to have a picture of ourselves on it but... Not sure if I should have a link to the wedding photos or add them to our wedding site or what.
I have a lot of extended family and specifically didn't send them invitations cause we didn't want to have the ceremony be inflated.
Doing some of my own research I'm realizing that maybe I was supposed to send these out the day after? But.. I thought pictures would be nice to have in that sort of thing.. waaaa
honestly, do whatever makes you happy and whatever makes it less likely for your extended family to come at your with pitchforks.
I personally think the photo of you 2 being all American Gothic would be an AMAZING announcement photo.
I guess
"Just wanted to let you know, that Skettios and Mr Skettios totally got married on this day at this time in this place. We appreciate your love and support and hey, you can totally send us money."
Or something else probably a little more tactful. :P
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The church we found at Christmas is Church of England which has quite restrictive rules on parish residency, so in order to keep the reception venue we found viable it's either going to have to be Ripon Cathedral (still C of E but with less restrictive rules) or a tiny Catholic church where our eligibility is more or less up to the local priest.
Maybe I'll just get them all printed in a book in addition to the ones I get framed.
Jen had one of the longest bridal processions of any wedding I've been to. She arrived on the street on the far side of the lagoon and had to walk along the edge, around the fountain, then across the footbridge that had filled with thronging crowds who were just wondering why someone was blaring Coldplay out over the waterfront before finally looping back to arrive at the ceremony. She used the entire 3-minute song to make the circuitous route to the prominence at the centre, an ever decreasing spiral that the wedding party could witness her entire approach along the entire way.
We're not big on formality, and if I'm going to be standing for this whole shindig, so can everyone else (except Granny). Everyone gather round so you can hear, because we're only doing this once.
I tricked her so well she actually thinks she's happy about this. Score!
At this point, it's traditional to go off and have 'official photos' taken or something. Fuck that, I'm shelling out for the most awesome party I can imagine, so we're going to the end of the floating dock for a few minutes, snap a few shots with the harbour in the background, then come back and mingle with all our friends and family. Photos done!
Paper plates, wooden benches and the most elaborate picnic spread I can get top shelf caterers to prepare. Everyone tuck in, except the bride, who's still so giddy she forgets to eat until late evening when all the food has gone.
It was a damn gorgeous day, one of the only ones that summer which had been one of the most wet and grey and miserable summers ever. So on that one brilliant day, it seemed the whole city came out to take advantage of the Sun; the waterfront was packed with people, and a constant stream of merriment and people enjoying the harbour ebbed and flowed around our little island at the centre of it all. Of course, it didn't hurt that our MC was able to hook us up with a PA & AMP speaker system normally utilised by loud venue bands and we were pumping a personally selected playlist of most excellent tunes over the entire waterfront park area.
So we enjoyed the Sun and mingled, wandering from group to group as they spread out around the lagoon and partook of both weather, food and venue. Of course, the ceremony had also marked the point at which I became an uncle, and with it came real responsibilities. Somehow, my newly-acquired niece was unaware how to skip stones; so here I am within a few hours of becoming married, sneaking out the back of the party to instruct a 6-year old in the physics of how the rotational velocity of an object affects its interaction with the surface of a fluid. Once again, the choice of the lagoon was most beneficial.
We actually didn't spend as much time together at the wedding as you might imagine; unlike most brides and grooms, somehow we each circulated independently of each other as we went from group to group, coming together occasionally only to break apart again as our attention wandered from place to place. But we did, at a couple points, manage to slip off and find some time to spend with each other, for short periods.
Eventually, however, the Sun dropped low in the sky, and it was time to move inside. A few people wanted to say words, and seeing as some of them had come all the way from Canada we weren't about to say no. My brother passed on the opportunity to roast me, a favour I did not return when my time came at his wedding a few years later, and our parents were all very proud of us. I gave a terrible thanks as the groom that I have successfully erased from my memory, and after the ceremony we took down these coloured lanterns and have kept them to be hung as decorations in the nursery.
This cake was so good. One layer was chocolate, one was vanilla orange? I can't even remember any more. But so good.
And then we partied late into the night, until every drop of enjoyment had been squeezed out of the day and everyone had partied so hard that there was nothing left to do but go home and recover for the post-wedding BBQ at my parents the next day. There'll be plenty of leftovers!
And that, in essence, was my wedding. 10 years on Friday.
Man, was I ever really that young?
And jen looks so fantastic! You look fairly decent too.
So jealous of that picnic banquet! My goodness!
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"Oh, me and orla are going to a wedding fair in two weeks"
Dan basically squees everywhere "I wanna gooooooooo"
Ahh the planning starts!
We need to set a budget soon because I'm getting far too fond of one local venue in particular!
Otherwise you are in for the most disappointed head shake.
the current plan is to offer an open invitation to any SE++ folks that wanna come, and it's a ways out so y'all can start savin' and scrimpin'
Also I hear kids are expensive,
up in Ely, it's not much different than most American weddings
I barely got away with teasing the priest at my wedding for being a Montreal Canadiens fan
I fit right in with the locals
soft day, soft day
I'm the tall one.
Steam
I finally get a date set-up with a smart, funny super-cute girl and the Valentines/relationship thread shuts down!?!?
COME ON!!!!
Oh yeah, you'd swear he was born and reared here. His accent is flawless.
-_-
To be sure, to be sure.
Fiddle-de-dee potatoes! Faith and begorrah! Or my personal favourite, "you lookin' to get yer fookin' hed kicked in?"
Kids aren't expensive. They just eat up every single dollar you have.
I just mumble incomprehensively and then yell, I'm from the country.
Satans..... hints.....
Satans..... hints.....
I tell them they sound like they should shut up.
Satans..... hints.....
I do a terribad impression of Father Dougal from Father Ted.
I get told I sound anything except Australian.
When I was in the US I was asked several times in shops if I was Australian, because the only possible English accents are the queen and cockney.
My quick reply "No, I'm gonna pay for these items".
(They didn't get it)
Anybody do anything fun this past weekend?
Me? Well
I got married or something
Oh my goodness
(it was, and continues to be, perfect)
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