uh. hi! I need some advice, and my grammar is shit sorry about that. my girlfriend is sort of in charge of supporting her family financially and physically supporting them. thay all do there part to help, but when you have a autistic younger brother, a dying mother, a teen mom younger sister, and now a grandmother with alzheimers. she is doing the lions share in her early twenties. and she doesn't even complain once, an amazing woman. the thing is she is one of those "I have to do it all alone" types of people, and wont accept my help(I have tried for weeks, it actually nearly ruined the relationship), in ether the physical or financial. her home has no room for another person inside it, but I really want to be there for her. along with being someone I love more then anyone, she also saved my life 4 months ago and I want to help her in turn, but I don't know how. maby there isn't a how to this one. thank you for reading.
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And i'm going to last down some real talk here. If she is the main support for all those people, a boy(?)friend may not be what she needs right now. Do you loved her or live that she is so giving?
Ultimately, what I needed was to be overwhelmed. To accept I was in over my head, and admit defeat, even if I still believed that meant betraying my parents. And Alzheimer's will probably do that, it's incredibly trying to watch a loved one go through that, and it's probably one of the worst diseases there are because for a lot of its progression, it's not the afflicted but everyone close to them that does the suffering. It'll break even the strongest people, without everything else on her plate. I could have taken care of my father for another twenty years, as far apart as we were, but I could barely last a few years watching my mother's mind slip away like that.
She will need you then. And it will be hard.