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Curbing an emotional issue (yes, caused by a girl)
Anyway, here's the story. I was married for three years, but since 2005 I've been single. Not really a big problem; just hadn't found a girl that piqued my interest, until a couple weekends ago. I was set up/introduced to this wonderful girl by my good friends. We met that weekend for a very short time as she had to get back to college (1 hour north) to get ready for classes the next morning. So we talked a little during the week, and she planned on coming back to town for the weekend.
So she did, and it was awesome. There was a spark; an initial attraction that I never really had with any other girl. She's incredibly intelligent, and she can hold a conversation for more than an hour without losing my interest. Actually we sat up and talked from about 11:00 Saturday night until 5:30 Sunday morning. During this time, we learned a lot about each other and I learned a lot about myself (cheesy remarks end here). Needless to say from that point I've been feeling emotions and such that I haven't felt in a long time/before. I'm cool with that. It feels good. Sunday night (after an enjoyable time in a local park), she takes back off for school.
Yesterday rolls around, and she texts me. We talk for a little while, then she comes out and states that she's not looking for any type of relationship right now, just casual dating. She also asks for my stance on casual dating with multiple people (so I guess my input is appreciated, which makes me feel alright). Now I've never been one to date multiple girls at one time, even on-and-off casual type. It's just not me. But what she does is her choice and I tell her that. [As it was the answer she was looking for] that went well. And I'm fine with all this! None of this is really an issue, at least externally. Christ, we've only known each other for a very short time. It's not a big deal.
But for some reason, I can't help feeling a bit dejected. I think I got my hopes up a little too much even though I knew that this was the route she wanted to take. I'm just not sure the route I should take at this time. I'm quite attracted to her, and the feelings are mutual (learned many things from mutual friends), but I've never been in this type of situation. In my (small town lol) experience, casual dating didn't happen. If there was a level of attraction, you two got together and went from there. But I'm no longer in a small town and this isn't 7-9 years ago. I'm not sure what's expected of me in a casual dating situation, and I can't seem to curb these feelings. Any H/A for a slightly confused guy (who's probably way out of his element)?