But the things he's actually said have been pretty gross, I don't know how to ignore that.
Those things are recently released from unsealed court documents. Before then Cosby either said absolutely nothing or threats of suits for defamation. I'm sure his biggest defenders made their mind up long ago.
But the things he's actually said have been pretty gross, I don't know how to ignore that.
Those things are recently released from unsealed court documents. Before then Cosby either said absolutely nothing or threats of suits for defamation. I'm sure his biggest defenders made their mind up long ago.
I don't get why people expect heroes to be infallible. Most of my heroes are heroes because of what they accomplish in spite of their flaws, not because I think they're somehow better than human.
I don't get why people expect heroes to be infallible. Most of my heroes are heroes because of what they accomplish in spite of their flaws, not because I think they're somehow better than human.
I don't get how we are talking about people thinking heroes should be infallible. I mean I guess we could characterize Cosby's massive and numerous moral failings that way but
I don't get why people expect heroes to be infallible. Most of my heroes are heroes because of what they accomplish in spite of their flaws, not because I think they're somehow better than human.
I don't get how we are talking about people thinking heroes should be infallible. I mean I guess we could characterize Cosby's massive and numerous moral failings that way but
The stuff people have been saying about not having heroes because it elevates people beyond the human. I disagree with that idea.
I don't get why people expect heroes to be infallible. Most of my heroes are heroes because of what they accomplish in spite of their flaws, not because I think they're somehow better than human.
I don't get how we are talking about people thinking heroes should be infallible. I mean I guess we could characterize Cosby's massive and numerous moral failings that way but
The stuff people have been saying about not having heroes because it elevates people beyond the human. I disagree with that idea.
As an individual, I am capable of acknowledging my personal heroes as being flawed and not being perfect while still respecting the stuff I respect about them.
As a group, people are less able to note those flaws. Three people regarding the same individual well may do so for different reasons, yet only talk about the positives without much mention of any shortcomings or provisos for that admiration. Which unfortunately leads to some people whose shit totally stinks being somehow regarded as completely constipated or as producing super valuable fertiliser. And the knock-on effect of this is that they get a "pass" where others do not. I certainly take issue with the latter, and until we can divorce individual regard from group worship, there are going to be plenty of people who justifiably take issue with it.
I don't get why people expect heroes to be infallible. Most of my heroes are heroes because of what they accomplish in spite of their flaws, not because I think they're somehow better than human.
I don't get how we are talking about people thinking heroes should be infallible. I mean I guess we could characterize Cosby's massive and numerous moral failings that way but
The stuff people have been saying about not having heroes because it elevates people beyond the human. I disagree with that idea.
As an individual, I am capable of acknowledging my personal heroes as being flawed and not being perfect while still respecting the stuff I respect about them.
As a group, people are less able to note those flaws. Three people regarding the same individual well may do so for different reasons, yet only talk about the positives without much mention of any shortcomings or provisos for that admiration. Which unfortunately leads to some people whose shit totally stinks being somehow regarded as completely constipated or as producing super valuable fertiliser. And the knock-on effect of this is that they get a "pass" where others do not. I certainly take issue with the latter, and until we can divorce individual regard from group worship, there are going to be plenty of people who justifiably take issue with it.
Okay, yeah, I can definitely see how that is a problem on the macro level. I guess I mentally separate the concept of personal heroes from the cultural lionization of public figures as two completely independent things, and may have been misunderstanding which thing we were talking about (if, indeed, everyone was even talking about the same thing there). I certainly agree that the second thing is a problem. I was mostly responding to the Zoe Quinn quote someone posted earlier, which, in retrospect, does make a heck of a lot of sense if taken on a broader sense.
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I'm a man. My half-sister molested me a lot when I was kid. Raped me. Used me. She was a teen at the time. Looking back, I wonder if she was reenacting trauma inflicted on her, but that maybe me trying to justify her actions. Eventually, I get older. I realize something wasn't right. I start praying to god everynight to forgive me.
Then I started to understand it.
My mother dies. I'm fourteen. I was already fucked up. Imagine how I was then.
I'm nineteen. At a party. Drunk. I'm cuddling and making out with a girl who had turned me down earlier in the evening. I start to go down on her. She says no.
And I froze.I went cold. Actually cold. I was so afraid I had hurt her. I stopped immediatly. I asked if she'd be more comfortable if I slept elsewhere. She said yes. So I went to bed alone and stared at the ceiling until I passed out.
In the morning, she was happy. And smiled at me. And told our mutual friend I was very sweet.
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Related: I too know the feeling that goes along with gradually realizing you were sexually abused as a child, by someone who by all rights ought to be trustworthy and not predatory. It's awful, and the dawning horror is the closest feeling I can imagine to the kind of psychic terror so often described in Lovecraftian stories.
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Because of how lots of dudes are regarding dating and making moves, I generally let the lady make the first move. It's not really a confidence issue, I just feel more comfortable knowing that the person is down, and I really would feel skeezy trying too hard and making someone uncomfortable. That's just me though! It's usually worked out pretty well. I may have missed some chances, but I don't mind that.
Related: I too know the feeling that goes along with gradually realizing you were sexually abused as a child, by someone who by all rights ought to be trustworthy and not predatory. It's awful, and the dawning horror is the closest feeling I can imagine to the kind of psychic terror so often described in Lovecraftian stories.
It was so odd when it actually clicked for me and I understood what happened. Telling my friends about it helped. Not sure I'll ever tell my dad.
I've realized a long time ago I will never be able to comprehend some people.
Cannot comprehend stockpiling quaaludes.
Cannot comprehend wanting a submissive partner or not showing empathy or not treating them like a human being deserving of the same respect you want.
Frighting thought that those are the people you're competing with on the dating scene. That guy on the bus, the lady making your latte.
I mean, you keep thinking of the big evils, terrorism, mass murder, but the evils committed on an individual scale, one human to another, the type that don't warrant manhunts, helicopters, SWAT teams.....
Honestly, if you set everyone on the human race on an axis from good at one end and evil on the other, I think most people would be on the good side. Bad people can just hurt good people a lot faster and in larger numbers then good people can help the bad folks to be less assholeish.
As funny as it sounds coming from a depressed agnostic who's obsessed with cosmic horror, I think most people are just people, doing the best they can and trying not to hurt one another. This isn't to say there aren't bad people, but I think most people are alright. The few evil ones, the one's who commit atrocities are just louder then the people who do small good things everyday.
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Those things are recently released from unsealed court documents. Before then Cosby either said absolutely nothing or threats of suits for defamation. I'm sure his biggest defenders made their mind up long ago.
See also: R. Kelly
if I hold anyone up high enough, they will inevitably prove that they're human - and humans fuck up no matter how hard they try not to
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I don't get how we are talking about people thinking heroes should be infallible. I mean I guess we could characterize Cosby's massive and numerous moral failings that way but
The stuff people have been saying about not having heroes because it elevates people beyond the human. I disagree with that idea.
How do you ask for consent?
As an individual, I am capable of acknowledging my personal heroes as being flawed and not being perfect while still respecting the stuff I respect about them.
As a group, people are less able to note those flaws. Three people regarding the same individual well may do so for different reasons, yet only talk about the positives without much mention of any shortcomings or provisos for that admiration. Which unfortunately leads to some people whose shit totally stinks being somehow regarded as completely constipated or as producing super valuable fertiliser. And the knock-on effect of this is that they get a "pass" where others do not. I certainly take issue with the latter, and until we can divorce individual regard from group worship, there are going to be plenty of people who justifiably take issue with it.
Okay, yeah, I can definitely see how that is a problem on the macro level. I guess I mentally separate the concept of personal heroes from the cultural lionization of public figures as two completely independent things, and may have been misunderstanding which thing we were talking about (if, indeed, everyone was even talking about the same thing there). I certainly agree that the second thing is a problem. I was mostly responding to the Zoe Quinn quote someone posted earlier, which, in retrospect, does make a heck of a lot of sense if taken on a broader sense.
This is a safe bet.
I'm a man. My half-sister molested me a lot when I was kid. Raped me. Used me. She was a teen at the time. Looking back, I wonder if she was reenacting trauma inflicted on her, but that maybe me trying to justify her actions. Eventually, I get older. I realize something wasn't right. I start praying to god everynight to forgive me.
Then I started to understand it.
My mother dies. I'm fourteen. I was already fucked up. Imagine how I was then.
I'm nineteen. At a party. Drunk. I'm cuddling and making out with a girl who had turned me down earlier in the evening. I start to go down on her. She says no.
And I froze.I went cold. Actually cold. I was so afraid I had hurt her. I stopped immediatly. I asked if she'd be more comfortable if I slept elsewhere. She said yes. So I went to bed alone and stared at the ceiling until I passed out.
In the morning, she was happy. And smiled at me. And told our mutual friend I was very sweet.
It was the most frightening moment of my life.
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It was so odd when it actually clicked for me and I understood what happened. Telling my friends about it helped. Not sure I'll ever tell my dad.
Shitty Tumblr:lighthouse1138.tumblr.com
Cannot comprehend stockpiling quaaludes.
Cannot comprehend wanting a submissive partner or not showing empathy or not treating them like a human being deserving of the same respect you want.
Frighting thought that those are the people you're competing with on the dating scene. That guy on the bus, the lady making your latte.
I mean, you keep thinking of the big evils, terrorism, mass murder, but the evils committed on an individual scale, one human to another, the type that don't warrant manhunts, helicopters, SWAT teams.....
http://www.fallout3nexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=16534
As funny as it sounds coming from a depressed agnostic who's obsessed with cosmic horror, I think most people are just people, doing the best they can and trying not to hurt one another. This isn't to say there aren't bad people, but I think most people are alright. The few evil ones, the one's who commit atrocities are just louder then the people who do small good things everyday.
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and I hate large eyed stuffed animals. seriously where the hell does that come from
I, uh, thanks.
You could get me this, it fits the criteria.
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Oh my god I want that.
Shitty Tumblr:lighthouse1138.tumblr.com
http://www.fallout3nexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=16534
My roommate was considering making it for a Christmas present, until she remembered she would have to fly with it
For some reason, the way that's positioned made me think of body pillows. I have been on the internet too long.
I mean, it kind of is a body pillow. Just not, you know, not that kind.
I beg to differ
dat beak
Should see if your Wallymart has any of the caterpillars I got a while ago, was cheap too. spoilered for big, ( Fuzzy cat photobomb jump bonus)
Your cat might be part bigfoot. It appears to be naturally blurry.
...comforting in that there are so many not-awful people in here, I mean. My heart goes out to the survivors.