I got a vasectomy back about 7 years ago, they went in with a laser pinhole incision, no scalpel or stitches involved, removed a bit of vas with the laser, put in some titanium bits on the end to make sure they didn't heal back together for good measure, sealed it back up with the laser, all done.
Been fantastic, can recommend. If you're in a dedicated, monogamous relationship, not ever having to worry about birth control or condoms ever again is great.
I got a vasectomy back about 7 years ago, they went in with a laser pinhole incision, no scalpel or stitches involved, removed a bit of vas with the laser, put in some titanium bits on the end to make sure they didn't heal back together for good measure, sealed it back up with the laser, all done.
Been fantastic, can recommend. If you're in a dedicated, monogamous relationship, not ever having to worry about birth control or condoms ever again is great.
I had to get a special one because my veins are awesome or something. Shit hurt something fierce and then got infected. It was like getting kicked in the balls but like for days.
I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
Looking into getting myself sorted tomorrow as well. I super dont want kids so adding another layer on top makes like much simpler. Partner doesnt get her hormones punched around on bc
here is an incomplete list of things I was not allowed to imbibe when I was a kid:
the simpsons
teenage mutant ninja turtles
GI Joe
Transformers
StarCraft
Pokémon
Futurama
He-Man
X-Men
Captain Planet
I wasn't allowed to watch anything deemed intellectually insulting. So my list wasn't too dissimilar - smurfs/my little pony/he-man/etc? Right out. The entire Monty python ouvre, Warner Bros cartoons, and the Simpsons*, however, were a-ok.
Also the amount of absolutely smutty sci-fi and classic literature they had on their bookshelves was educational, to say the least.
* (once my mother actually watched some and realised it wasn't just about a skateboarding ten year old)
Fucken WHAT?!? No He-Man?!? That's some red hot bullshit I tell you what...
After occasionally catching some He-Man at friends houses, I was pretty ok with the policy.
It would be nice if there were a single sterilization+period cancelling procedure available for women that didn't result in 1,000 horrifying, potentially fatal risks.
But for real, yeah, Rachel and I both agree that 2 kids is enough, and from what I understand a vasectomy is a bit less invasive than her tubes being tied, so whatevs.
A bit being fairly large, yeah
Also we finally get to take the bullets out of the gun! I will always be glad for birth control pills and the people they work well for but my partner has had a hell of a time adjusting them with other meds and just life. If I could take a pill to make me shoot blanks I'd be on that in a hot second, I've never liked that the current state is asking the woman to chemically alter herself vs men and/oring putting a little rubber on.
It would be nice if there were a single sterilization+period cancelling procedure available for women that didn't result in 1,000 horrifying, potentially fatal risks.
Can I just have everything removed plz
It's not completely without risks but my partner's been on Mirena for YEARS and loves it and I think still feels her cycle but it's nothing like her periods when she was on the pill. We kind of get overly excited about how well it works /for us/ when birth control comes up amongst friends.
I think you need to be super careful as a parent as soon as your kid gets access to something online, like an ipad with internet access or something. A friend of mine (might've been Moriveth, actually) said their kid was really into watching Youtube videos of other kids opening Kinder eggs and assembling the toys. Which sounds adorable! ...and then I think of the idea of a young child on Youtube and my blood runs cold.
My aunt found out about this when her toddler started watching videos about big trucks. She came in one day and he was happily watching gory accident scene videos :bigfrown:
I think you need to be super careful as a parent as soon as your kid gets access to something online, like an ipad with internet access or something. A friend of mine (might've been Moriveth, actually) said their kid was really into watching Youtube videos of other kids opening Kinder eggs and assembling the toys. Which sounds adorable! ...and then I think of the idea of a young child on Youtube and my blood runs cold.
My aunt found out about this when her toddler started watching videos about big trucks. She came in one day and he was happily watching gory accident scene videos :bigfrown:
I'm looking forward to new and exciting things that I can forbid my children from doing.
technology is going to create all kinds of new things for you to stress about
mori have you considered what you're going to do if one of your kids turns out to be a furry and there's new gene mods on the market that let them actually become a furry like in that Batman Beyond episode
I've been putting money in a jar for the last 17 years for this exact reason.
I feel like banning your kids from "screens" entirely is way too socially limiting... and can even border on being a bit damaging, with how important it is to be technologically fluent nowadays (something that will only become more and more necessary as time goes on, IMO).
I didn't have a computer until I was 14. I took to it ok. Kids aren't stupid, not having an iPad at age 4 isn't crippling them socially.
Oh yeah, I mean, your statement is hyperbolic compared to what I was referring to. Obviously not having an iPad at age 4 isn't going to be detrimental. But not allowing your kids to see any TV or movies, any computer or internet, any smartphone, or any tablet while they're under the age of 18? I think that's a huge problem. Moreso with computers and internet use than anything, because that's the only technological fluency that I believe is becoming more and more necessary.
I mean
no one was suggesting a complete ban on screens until age 18
I don't think that's very practical
Can we keep the screens and just ban the children instead?
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All these issues about how to have some control over what your kids experience while still letting them learn and grow sound super stressful. I am never having kids myself but I wonder about how my brother and his wife will tackle it.
All these issues about how to have some control over what your kids experience while still letting them learn and grow sound super stressful. I am never having kids myself but I wonder about how my brother and his wife will tackle it.
yep
I opted out of child-having but my brother's got a pair of sons and I do not envy the man or his burdens as a father
He referenced Dara O'Braian's bit about technology being a treadmill you can't ever stop running on, because if you stop running, you fall off. And he's like "As a father in the 21st century, I am on that treadmill for the rest of my life, because otherwise I become that parent who when my kid is like 16 and is like 'alright Dad I'm going to a Enmeshing party' and I'm all 'Why you kids these days gotta Enmesh into the Cyberweave? In my day we laughed at memes on the Internet and it was good enough!'"
(If you think "Enmesh into the Cyberweave" is a ridiculous idea of technological progression in 16 years I want you to consider trying to explain internet memes to yourself 16 years ago)
I didn't have home computer access until I was 18. Home internet access didn't happen because we only had dial-up available and dad needed all the bits for work.
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My cousin has popped a kid out (haven't met them yet either) and otherwise my generation of my family has yet to reproduce, which is pretty commendable IMO. Good to be able to do that kind of thing on-purpose when you're prepared. In the meantime I've been flexing some of my paternal instincts on my friends' kids and they're all pretty amazing mini-humans. I've put up an offer to babysit whenever they need a break.
I get the feeling that growing up as the oldest on both sides of my Catholic family (including a set of triplets) left me better tempered for dealing with a range of child-wrangling scenarios.
here is an incomplete list of things I was not allowed to imbibe when I was a kid:
the simpsons
teenage mutant ninja turtles
GI Joe
Transformers
StarCraft
Pokémon
Futurama
He-Man
X-Men
Captain Planet
I wasn't allowed to watch anything deemed intellectually insulting. So my list wasn't too dissimilar - smurfs/my little pony/he-man/etc? Right out. The entire Monty python ouvre, Warner Bros cartoons, and the Simpsons*, however, were a-ok.
Also the amount of absolutely smutty sci-fi and classic literature they had on their bookshelves was educational, to say the least.
* (once my mother actually watched some and realised it wasn't just about a skateboarding ten year old)
Fucken WHAT?!? No He-Man?!? That's some red hot bullshit I tell you what...
After occasionally catching some He-Man at friends houses, I was pretty ok with the policy.
Oh I just remembered a pretty unique restriction my best friend's family had: they weren't allowed to watch movies, disney movies in particular, unless they were not based on a pre-existing book, because my friend's mom didn't like how they would rewrite the stories so differently from the original works. Or it might have been ok to watch derivative films but they had to read the original work first. Something like that.
Oh I just remembered a pretty unique restriction my best friend's family had: they weren't allowed to watch movies, disney movies in particular, unless they were not based on a pre-existing book, because my friend's mom didn't like how they would rewrite the stories so differently from the original works. Or it might have been ok to watch derivative films but they had to read the original work first. Something like that.
I have a TV that's not plugged in and is never on but is on a TV table
In front of it is a wooden boat model which a friend gave me for safekeeping when they moved. I put it down in front of the TV on what was going to be a temporary basis, but it looks like the only channel on the telly is sailing boat against a black background. I find this to be vaguely amusing and a talking point so lacking anywhere else to put it, there it stays.
My parents never stopped me watching anything - in fact, when I was getting creeped out by an X Files episode I was told that I needed to watch the full thing, because a scary story is scarier with no resolution.
My mum would refuse to let us watch The Simpsons while eating dinner, though. Her favourite refrain was, "Even I've seen this one." Considering how little she liked cartoons, it was amazing how many she'd apparently seen :rotate:
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All these issues about how to have some control over what your kids experience while still letting them learn and grow sound super stressful. I am never having kids myself but I wonder about how my brother and his wife will tackle it.
yep
I opted out of child-having but my brother's got a pair of sons and I do not envy the man or his burdens as a father
He referenced Dara O'Braian's bit about technology being a treadmill you can't ever stop running on, because if you stop running, you fall off. And he's like "As a father in the 21st century, I am on that treadmill for the rest of my life, because otherwise I become that parent who when my kid is like 16 and is like 'alright Dad I'm going to a Enmeshing party' and I'm all 'Why you kids these days gotta Enmesh into the Cyberweave? In my day we laughed at memes on the Internet and it was good enough!'"
(If you think "Enmesh into the Cyberweave" is a ridiculous idea of technological progression in 16 years I want you to consider trying to explain internet memes to yourself 16 years ago)
Hello gator from 16 years ago, internet memes are like the all your base are belong to us thing that just came out only there are dozens of them daily
My main wonder is if mechanical augmentations and cybernetics will get to the point where they're like tattoos. That's something I could see telling my kids "you can't have a cybernetic eye until you're 18" or "no cybernetics above the neck or below your forearms, employers don't like it"
But realistically, it's going to be something we never thought of. Like I could have sat for hours thinking "what's the thing that will make me feel old because I don't understand it and young people think it's amazing?" and never come up with something as startlingly mundane as pewdiepie
My main wonder is if mechanical augmentations and cybernetics will get to the point where they're like tattoos. That's something I could see telling my kids "you can't have a cybernetic eye until you're 18" or "no cybernetics above the neck or below your forearms, employers don't like it"
But realistically, it's going to be something we never thought of. Like I could have sat for hours thinking "what's the thing that will make me feel old because I don't understand it and young people think it's amazing?" and never come up with something as startlingly mundane as pewdiepie
Yeah this is why so many stories set in the future retroactively become stupid as hell.
Way back when, there were various stories involving things like flying cars, but little to nothing involving increasingly compact computers.
My main wonder is if mechanical augmentations and cybernetics will get to the point where they're like tattoos. That's something I could see telling my kids "you can't have a cybernetic eye until you're 18" or "no cybernetics above the neck or below your forearms, employers don't like it"
But realistically, it's going to be something we never thought of. Like I could have sat for hours thinking "what's the thing that will make me feel old because I don't understand it and young people think it's amazing?" and never come up with something as startlingly mundane as pewdiepie
Yeah this is why so many stories set in the future retroactively become stupid as hell.
Way back when, there were various stories involving things like flying cars, but little to nothing involving increasingly compact computers.
they actually made the computers bigger in the stories
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Been fantastic, can recommend. If you're in a dedicated, monogamous relationship, not ever having to worry about birth control or condoms ever again is great.
I had to get a special one because my veins are awesome or something. Shit hurt something fierce and then got infected. It was like getting kicked in the balls but like for days.
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After occasionally catching some He-Man at friends houses, I was pretty ok with the policy.
I don't have a tv and it sometimes weirds people out a bit. But I mean, I still watch tv. Just on my laptop.
Can I just have everything removed plz
I have a TV with no signal that's wired up to my PC
Also we finally get to take the bullets out of the gun! I will always be glad for birth control pills and the people they work well for but my partner has had a hell of a time adjusting them with other meds and just life. If I could take a pill to make me shoot blanks I'd be on that in a hot second, I've never liked that the current state is asking the woman to chemically alter herself vs men and/oring putting a little rubber on.
Hello thar
I used to do that, but I got rid of my TV when I left England and now I kind of resent the space they take up.
It's not completely without risks but my partner's been on Mirena for YEARS and loves it and I think still feels her cycle but it's nothing like her periods when she was on the pill. We kind of get overly excited about how well it works /for us/ when birth control comes up amongst friends.
I got a 720p TV like seven years back for almost nothing that functions perfectly fine for a TV for my XBOX
a similarly sized monitor at that same period would've been three times as much money
My aunt found out about this when her toddler started watching videos about big trucks. She came in one day and he was happily watching gory accident scene videos :bigfrown:
The refresh rate and burn-in though.
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neat!
The TVs have better refresh rates now too!
e: the biggest difference appears to be the monitors apparently have higher resolutions, curve in smaller sizes, and sometimes are actually wider?
I've been putting money in a jar for the last 17 years for this exact reason.
Can we keep the screens and just ban the children instead?
yep
I opted out of child-having but my brother's got a pair of sons and I do not envy the man or his burdens as a father
He referenced Dara O'Braian's bit about technology being a treadmill you can't ever stop running on, because if you stop running, you fall off. And he's like "As a father in the 21st century, I am on that treadmill for the rest of my life, because otherwise I become that parent who when my kid is like 16 and is like 'alright Dad I'm going to a Enmeshing party' and I'm all 'Why you kids these days gotta Enmesh into the Cyberweave? In my day we laughed at memes on the Internet and it was good enough!'"
(If you think "Enmesh into the Cyberweave" is a ridiculous idea of technological progression in 16 years I want you to consider trying to explain internet memes to yourself 16 years ago)
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I get the feeling that growing up as the oldest on both sides of my Catholic family (including a set of triplets) left me better tempered for dealing with a range of child-wrangling scenarios.
I bet they were subs not dubs
And of course you had to read the manga first
In front of it is a wooden boat model which a friend gave me for safekeeping when they moved. I put it down in front of the TV on what was going to be a temporary basis, but it looks like the only channel on the telly is sailing boat against a black background. I find this to be vaguely amusing and a talking point so lacking anywhere else to put it, there it stays.
My mum would refuse to let us watch The Simpsons while eating dinner, though. Her favourite refrain was, "Even I've seen this one." Considering how little she liked cartoons, it was amazing how many she'd apparently seen :rotate:
Hello gator from 16 years ago, internet memes are like the all your base are belong to us thing that just came out only there are dozens of them daily
Easy
Also, here comes dat boi."
But realistically, it's going to be something we never thought of. Like I could have sat for hours thinking "what's the thing that will make me feel old because I don't understand it and young people think it's amazing?" and never come up with something as startlingly mundane as pewdiepie
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Yeah this is why so many stories set in the future retroactively become stupid as hell.
Way back when, there were various stories involving things like flying cars, but little to nothing involving increasingly compact computers.
they actually made the computers bigger in the stories