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Now, I know what it is, what the symptoms are, sort of what causes it. I've researched the fuck out of it. And yet I still can't wrap my mind around it. My girlfriend is otherwise very successful, does very well academically at a prestigious university (we're both 21), is talented, all that. She says that it comes from her being a perfectionist rather than having low-self esteem.
We don't talk about it very often; when it comes up I try and be helpful but i simply cannot understand why someone would do these things. We were looking at the wikipedia page for it, specifically the symptoms, and she says "i cringe reading it, but at the same time it's a sense of satisfaction... because you're accomplishing something. It's like proof that you're not going to gain weight."
Obviously I find this really scary (some of the symptoms she was referring to included "constantly feeling cold, bruise easily, dry skin, excessive exercise and food restriction"). I try and step logically through the theoretical thought process of how these could be perceived as good, trying to understand it. Usually when I do this she'll go some of the way with me before asking that I not argue with her anymore, or saying that it's irrational.
Now, logically, when something is irrational I figure it should be dumped. She says that she agrees but also says that if I argue it with her then it'll just make her stand firmer. Now the last thing that I want to do is persecute her or act like a pompous asshole, which I think is how it comes. But I honestly do not know how to respond to her when she talks about it - I try to understand it but she always stops the argument. Not to throw stones but it reminds me of trying to argue religion with people. It's frustrating because I want to understand it and help her but I don't think the way I'm going about it is helping at all.
tl;dr: My GF is a recovering anorexic, I don't understand it and don't know how to help.
How can I be supportive without attacking or condoning her behavior?