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*take that whichever way you will.
And I can prove it. I just got my ex to finally hear me out and she's willing to talk to me again.
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exactly... reciving felatio and giving cunnilingus are all parts of my persuit of happiness
1. NEVER offer to buy her a drink.
2. NEVER ask her to dance.
3. And never, ever, under ANY circumstances do you tell a woman you've just met that she's beautiful.
You may as well puke on her shoes. She'll view you the same way.
Just say 'hi' and be yourself. Don't be afraid to talk to them. Make and maintain eye contact. Smile. Be yourself. If you try to act like someone you're not you'll A) fail, girls can see through that because it's been tried a million times before and B) if you DO manage to somehow trick the girl into thinking you're someone you're not.. how is starting off things with lies laying the foundation for anything but a disaster?
Be funny. Establish physical contact early - Don't tackle her or dry hump her, but touch a shoulder or a hand. It breaks an important barrier. Be cocky, but not a jerk. Get her to by -you- a drink. Ask for her email address if she says she doesn't give out her number. If she asks you for your number, just smile and say that you're old fashioned and would prefer to just call her. If she still won't give you her number, smile and say it was nice meeting her (in a genuine way, do not be bitter or act like a jerk because a girl had the audacity to say 'no' to you.. that's weak) and head back to your friends.
Don't fear rejection. If she's rude or snubs you just smile and say "It was nice talking to you" and walk away.
Don't latch onto her, don't CLING. Meet, talk, make a good impression, get her number and then BREAK. Remember, you're there NOT to pick up women, you're there with your friends who you're anxious to get back to.
Be disinterested, be a challenge. That goes back to the three key rules - by doing any of those three things (beautiful, dance, drink) you've surrendered everything about yourself.
The belief that nice guys don't get girls (aka girls only go for jerks) is a LIE. CONFIDENT guys get girls. It just so happens that the majority of sensitive, nice guys aren't very secure or confident. And most jerks ARE confident because they don't care.
Do not be used or set up, if a girl is disrespectful, just smile and say thanks for the chat/drink/whatever and leave.
And don't get "latched" onto one girl, there's no faster way to run "the girl of your dreams" off than by fixating on her. You will reek of desperation and predictability.
It works, for real.
one addition - if you're out to approach the hottest girl in the room, the one who is off the hook and knows it, then don't be afraid to tease. Girls who are that hot are completely aware of it. They get told so endlessly by an equally endless parade of guys every time they set foot out the door. Tell her you think her hair extensions are nice, that you can 'barely see the weave'. Or tell her you know someone that can take care of the dyejob problem she has. But you have to say this stuff in a way that makes it clear you're joking. And don't do this stuff to everyone. A lot of girls will take this the wrong way, especially if you leave any trace of ambiguity about being serious or joking.
Talk to girls a lot. All over, just talk and listen. The more comfortable you are with approaching women then the easier it is to find your confidence when you see a girl that makes you say 'woah'.
But yeah, get over petty things like hair color or ethnicity. Hell, I'm still stuck in that (ask actifblue or Zclyh, I'm too attached to asian women).
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*someone who can make me laugh, everyone loves a good time right?
*confidence, i hate having to reassure my man every 5 minutes
*HONESTY, duh!
*effort, don't expect me to do all the work
*compliments never hurt anybody, just don't overdo it
*dress to impress
*i love a good smellin guy, but often i find guys who think the whole bottle will do just fine, how am i gonna get close to you if i can't Breathe??
*look at me when i talk, shows me you at least care enough to pretend your listening
*a nice gesture goes a long ways
ok well i guess that'll have to do for now
happy hunting
Cologne, shmologne.
I believe in natural body scent (generally just an anti-persperant), but I'm pretty low on the sweat factor and I know I don't stink, even after a good workout.
When I do use cologne, I've been using this CK ripoff called Gender One. Smells pretty damn good, and it was dirt fucking cheap. Hells yeah.
doesn't really work, it reeks of desperation.
Confidence.
-I know this has been written before but it is very important.
Don't expect the girl to chase you. This is very unattractive.
Women want to feel beautiful and desirable. So make the moves.
Do not ask for her permission to make any move. She will let you know if she doesn't want your attentions very quickly.
Signals.
- Don't ask out a girl as soon as she looks in your direction. If she is interested in you and what you have to say, and if she is playing with her hair or jewellery, etc. she's interested. Don't bother if the signals aren't there, you'll only be rejected and embaress her.
No, just shut it.
No 'if's, 'and's, or 'but's. Just shut your goddamn mouth.
girls like to see sappy movies with their boyfriends... suck it up
I've used Trojan condoms at least weekly for the last 5+ years and have never had one break or any other kind of badness. I can't speak for those who've had problems, but don't swear them off based on a few bad reports. Lubrication is the key, as well as squeezing the tip after you put it on to remove air. Also, leave ample room for the love juice. I personally prefer the Ultra Thin or whatever with Spermacidal lubricant. I personally only put one on until the last few moments, but I HIGHLY RECOMMEND AGAINST THIS. You have to know your body very well, as well as the body of the person you're with. It's better for you in the long run, but it's akin to putting a gun to your head that you're pretty sure isn't loaded. I personally check my gun every time, and haven't had a problem for, like I said, 5+ years (this all with my wife).
It was mentioned, but I think I should re-emphasize it: you're most likely to find love when you aren't looking for it. When I was a teenager, I was extremely shy and wanted a girlfriend so bad. Every time I'd get around to talking to or dating a girl, I'd come on too strong and ruin everything. People would tell me I'd find love when I wasn't looking for it. "What the fuck is that supposed to mean?", I'd say. That's like trying to win the lottery by not buying a ticket, hoping to find one laying around the house that happens to win, I'd think. What this means is that if you're going into a new relationship taking it easy without forcing it to go where you want it when you want it, things have a tendency to work out better. I kept trying and trying and never succeeded. I finally basically gave up on the idea of finding someone when I was 19. Some girl that lived where I did (at the time) that knew some of the people I did and had moved to another city for college the year before starting talking to me on AIM. I played it non-chalant, not expecting to form a relationship. I'd talk to her when she IM'ed me or would occasionally say hi if she didn't say anything. She said she was coming in for Easter and that we should meet up. We did. When we were up late that night and I fell asleep only to wake up to her sitting beside me, watching me and lightly running her fingers along my lips, I was pretty sure love had found me, or was trying. We stayed up for 4 days straight after that, never leaving each other's side except for bathroom and showers (how I did this, I'll never know. I'm usually a wreck if I've been up longer than 15 or so hours). A year later she was my fiancee. 6 months after that, she was my wife. This was 3 and a half years ago, and things keep getting better. So yes, love will find you when you aren't looking for it.
Like Henroid said, communication is the key. This is especially true if you're in a relationship instead of looking for one. Above all else, listen. You'll pick up on all kinds of stuff if you're perceptive, like when she's not happy about something, something she really would like for you to do for her, etc. Something that is great to do (though slightly underhanded) to impress a girl is to remember some utterly trivial thing from a meeting with her. Write it down if you have to. Memorize it. Do this often. Then several months later, find a way to casually bring it up. It'll impress the hell out of them. For example, if you're going on a date find some little piece of jewelry and remember it's every detail. If months later she's trying to find something to wear when you're going out, say, "Why don't you wear that cute dolphin pendant you wore on our first date when we went and ate at The Olive Garden." Reactions vary from tears of joy to a passionate quickie in whatever room you happen to be in.
Another thing I want to mention is freedom. This only pertains to a serious relationship. This is very touchy and has a tendency to backfire to a point of ending a relationship, but things will be much better for you if you pull it off. Most women have a tendency to become a little.... overbearing... about things, especially things you do, such as hobbies. A friend of mine's wife would actually only alot him an hour of video game time a night. Unless you're the type of person that doesn't mind as long as you avoid strife, then this will eventually kill your relationship. This is something you have to take care of early before it has a chance to take root. Let them know in whatever terms what you expect to be able to do. My wife had a tendency to act like my mother or something and try to have everything her way. I was eventually able to rid her of that habit, mainly by showing her repeatedly that it wasn't going to work. If you like to play video games (and come on, who doesn't?), let her know that's one of your hobbies and it's something you're going to do. Don't neglect them (I've been guilty of this in the past), but don't let them take all of your free time, unless you want them to. If you're in a relationship long enough, you're going to want to spend some time doing what you want instead of something necessarily together. It's much easier if they have hobbies they can do, or even better if you share a hobby. Unfortunately, my wife does neither, so she usually watches TV during my "game time". You need to compromise, but don't give her everything she wants if it goes against everything you want.
Which brings me to my next point: compromise. This is a must for any successful relationship. With two different people, it's not going to always be your way and it's not going to always be her way. The easiest way is for you to both lay out your opposing sides and both agree on a middle-ground. And example of this is me and my wife and cooking/cleaning. Neither of us like to do either. While I would love for her to feel it's the woman's job to take care of these, that ain't happening. For cooking, that's easy. We take turns each night. We're both indecisive, so the person not cooking has to pick 2 choices that are reasonable for the other to cook, and the cooker picks one from those 2. For cleaning, we basically make a list of everything that needs to be done and weight it according to time/effort and (un)desirability (like changing the cat litter, for instance). From there we split them up and I take half the weight and she takes the other half. We do it like the NFL draft. I pick one, then she picks one until there are none left and we feel it's even. We've had the same set of duties for the last 4 years without problem. These examples, of course, are for living together, but there's compromises to be made everywhere.
My fingers hurt from all of this typing. If you've read all of this, I thank you. Here's your reward, a random string of emoticons:
Funny is always a good thing - you don't have to be making a girl bust a gut every time you open your mouth, but a few witty comments that bring a smile to her face aren't hard to muster. If you're having trouble coming up with 'witty,' go watch some old episodes of Seinfeld (better yet, listen to his stand up routines) to get a feel of the type of humor that tends to make the best impression on people.
Of course, it still all depends on the person.
Confidence is just as important as wit. Confidence means being sure of yourself, comfortable in your surroundings, and unafraid to look people in the eyes. You can't fake confidence, but you can build it by subjecting yourself to MANY situations that might end in rejection. Less fear = more confidence.
Don't, however, confuse confidence with cocky. Cocky isn't always bad, but it's easily overdone.
Seriously - no good relationship can be built on lies. This one should be common sense, but some people just don't seem to get that...
And honestly, if you're hoping to get somewhere in the relationship, you should be putting yourself out there. Effort doesn't mean catering to her every need, but it does mean holding up your end of the conversation, making an attempt at looking good, and listening.
There's a gigantic difference between a timely gesture, and a blathering idiot. People can smell pathetic from miles away, and one of the most pervasive odors comes from over-complementing. Learn how to integrate a complement into a conversation without making it obvious, and use complements sparingly.
..the kind of person you're trying to attract. I go for a grounded, indie-type girl, so wearing Banana Republic and $300 Italian shoes isn't going to do me any damn good. However, a good pair of jeans, an interesting belt, and a shirt that fits well go a long way for me. Your style should be based on your personal tastes, but make an effort! Just throwing on whatever smells ok isn't going to make anyone swoon at your feet.
Regular showers and a good smelling deodorant is all most guys need to get that good smell going. I always get a surprised "you smell so good!" when I get close to a girl, and it's not because my natural BO is particularly alluring. If you work out (you should, but that's for another thread...) then you should be taking a shower as soon as you're done. If you have a particularly strong odor, then a little body spray goes a long way, but save the cologne for special occasions.
Eye contact is the single most important thing in a conversation - even moreso than the topic or your responses. Eye contact creates a felt connection, and is a large part of what those 'sparks' you're always hearing about are made of. Eye contact also conveys sincerity, and an honest interest in your subject. Just don't stare.
Opening the door for a girl, pulling out her chair, and springing for the bill every once in a while does NOT make you a chump. Doing it with the attitude of an unconditionally loyal servant does. You can be a nice-guy without looking desperate.
That's about that. Hell, these guidelines should be followed by everyone who aspires to be a decent person, not just those hoping to get lucky.
Yeah, but I guess I kind of feel... I dunno, lame for not being able to satisfy her with mere penetration. Ah whatever, I guess it'll just make me a better lover. 8)
It really is true what they say about the motion of the ocean. Most women would prefer a larger girth as opposed to a longer length (I remember once reading some women talking about this saying she doesn't really look for a guy that can really hammer her cervix), but with good technique it won't really matter. From what I remember, they don't really receive pleasure from anything more than 2 or 3 inches deep, anyway.
The two main things are foreplay, like mentioned, and stamina. If you get them off before even penetrating, they're going to enjoy what you do after that a lot more. You don't have to give a woman eight screaming orgasms to be considered good in bed. And for stamina, just be sure you last longer than 10 minutes and you should be okay. I personally find about 30 minutes to be a good amount of time. It's long enough to get a lot of enjoyment out of it (and give a lot), but not so long that you're both getting worn out. If you feel yourself getting close, then slow down or stop all together. You can use this time to give her some more foreplay, but when you've cooled off enough, get back on that horse. Lubrication is necessary for longer sessions, so if you feel her getting dry, don't hesitate to break out the KY.
Some girls are simply incapable of getting off via penetration. That being said, your length shouldn't really be a problem - there're a myriad of positions that can make you seem that much longer to your girl.
Try missionary, but push her legs back so that her knees are almost resting on her chest; you might actually go in too deep this way, so go slow until she gets comfortable with it.
From behind while standing up is also a good way to stimulate some of her more sensitive areas. Good luck :^:
we could say that for some guys too
How so? I've given out my number, saying if they ever wanna hit up some slopes/beach to give me a call.
Doesn't seem desperate to me - especially if you haven't seen the person a lot but wish to get to know them better.
Although - some I wish I did get their numbers - but they were already taken so I didn't want to go too far too soon :0
"If you kiss somebody then both of you get practice. People are just people like you"
- Regina Spektor <3
If "yourself" is someone who never seems to attract women, or be able to keep them for very long, then its time to change who "yourself" is.
I'm not saying pretend to be someone you're not. I'm saying BECOME that person.
Totally agree with you. Not sure how much of an effect it would have on me as a guy but through experience, I can easily say women love men who can cook. I am not a great cook, but no need either as if I were, I'd be a chef at a restaurant in Paris. Just know what you are doing and make it pretty with a good wine and a decent atmosphere.
Accept the person as he or she is, don't try to change them.
If you don't like the way they are in something, break it off, or;
Accept their shortcomings, and have compassion in yourself for your own.
Though do be aware of the potential for change, potential is attractive.
NEVER make potential a means for a relationship.
Practice appreciation for each others interests, even if a little, helps a lot.
If he likes Star Trek marathons, watch an episode with him.
If she likes E!, ask her about the latest tiff in celebrity land.
Ladies; If a dude wants to detach himself, just let him. It won't last long and
it is a necessity for male sanity. From time to time just honor his alone-time
or it will eventually cause resentment in him and feelings of being trapped by you.
Guys; Every Lady has a quota of positive attention she needs to feel she's valued by you.
It varies, but know that it's at least five times the amount you need no matter the woman.
Give it to her, the smile on her face is worth it, and it becomes sweetly addictive.
Ladies: Don't backseat drive. If you tell me to slow down, I'll speed up.
If you tell me to speed up I'll slow down. Even if you were the first female to win Nascar
I will take offense at your criticism while behind the wheel. In essence, men need to know that you trust them,
especially and ultimately with your life. And for the last time; Downshifting to slow down does not hurt the car.
Guys: Women will test your mettle and worthiness until you are in your grave. Accept it.
Trust that the nagging, pushing, bullying and manipulation should be something to be cherished.
They are built to do this and love nothing more than a man who is never unsettled by their wiles.
They have barbs and hooks to probe your psyche and you must practice being invulnerable, though sensitive.
This is the key to female attraction.
i have a crippling fear of cars and driving and it has taken a lot for me to get over that, and if a guy can't appreciate that and slow down because i am having a panic attack then he can go fuck himself and his little male ego.
trust you with my life? get real. i can trust you all i like, and some other asshole slams on his breaks and you hit them going 70 on a straightaway and then i am dead.
so dudes, leave your ego out of the car, i do not give a shit how speed racer you are
Is it cool for guys to have big meaty muscle cars though? I don't car much about going fast, I just like to know that I can if I need to.
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