This is my first time living away from home, and more importantly, living away from everyone and everything I find familiar. It wasn't entirely my choice going to University, nor was it entirely my choice ending up at the University I am presently enrolled in, so being here is already little cause for enthusiasm.
The thing is, I'm from Toronto (Scarborough specifically); I grew up there, and with fewer than a dozen exceptions, everyone I've known and consider friends/family are there. I've got plenty of friends there, though only few of them close, though I can't say I've ever really wanted for company.
At school it's different; I know one
person, and she is a work acquaintance who I've never really thought much of anyway. I'm no social butterfly, in fact I'm not that much of a people person at all - but having no one here still makes things terribly lonely. Most - if not all - of my friends are people I've known since first grade, or people who've approached me
throughout the years, and I can't even remember the last time I've had to actively try to make friends, or felt the need to. I'm no stranger to H/A, and I'd expect the usual advice to be to put myself out there, meet people during class, go to dorm parties, maybe even hold one myself, and go out and meet people at the campus pub. The thing is, I've encountered problems on all
of those fronts.
My school has a main campus and a second one that shares its land with another University and a College; I attend the latter. The thing about my campus is that the students who go to my school there almost all
live in the area, so after class they don't stick around to hang, they go home - the people I meet in class I only get to spend time with in class
. As for the students who attend the other schools and live in the same dorm building that I do, they
all seem to come from the same area and know each other. So far my attempts to break into conversation with friendly-seeming groups of people have resulted in me being the odd man out amidst in-jokes and conversation regarding things that have happened to people they know.
This place feels alien to me, and so far the people I've met are much different than the people I'm used to. For the most part, I've met people who live out in farm country, and while I've been told to expect to meet a lot of like-minded individuals, so far all I've met are people who act exactly like the type of folk I avoided during highschool. To make the generalization that they're hicks would be unfair, but still... while about a quarter of the people I've met have been nice, none of them - and I say this without condescension - have been the type I can actually carry on a conversation with.
As well, my roommate so far has been far from the ideal. He's shotgunned beers near the clean dishes, wiped things up off the floor with my clean dish towel, forgets to flush often, has used my bath towel, uses up most of the kitchen cupboard space, and has proven himself to be an idiot on numerous other occasions (when we moved in the door didn't close properly, so we'd have to push it all the way upon entering or it wouldn't close. Ya... he never
would. I'd come back to the room and the door would be open.) Maybe I was brought up in a stricter, more considerate home or something, because his loose and unthinking treatment of the room is getting on my nerves. I often feel like I need to house-break him or something.
Basically, H/A, what I'm asking for here is some advice on what I should do to feel more comfortable in my new living arrangements. Everything here is new and different for me, but in a most unpleasant way, and as far as my roommate goes, I'm having trouble addressing the many
issues I've had with him that stem from his utter inconsideration. What should I do?