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Normally friendships and relationships just seem to fall in my lap and come very easily to me, and this one hasn't, so I'm just off my game right now. I'd appreciate some outside perspective. Here's the facts:
-She's young, just out of college.
-She's cool, funny, and sane (unlike just about all of the people at my office).
-We share similar interests.
-We seem to have fun together. Lots of laughing, teasing, joking and smiling.
Now, I'd like to hang out with her outside of work, but I wonder if she's intimidated or feels weird that I'm married. I haven't directly asked her to hang out because I've gotten some mixed signals: I've thrown some friendly texts and emails (which I do with just about everyone I like working with) which have sparked some playful back and forths, but she's never initiated any of that. In person, she'll bring up things, or ask questions, but not outside of work.
I understand there could be a thousand explanations for why she hasn't initiated any contact outside of work, and that's why I don't want to read anything into it if there isn't. I've usually never had an issue with this. Friends (male and female) have always had no problem asking to hang out, or giving a call, and the same with me. Things just always fell into place. My thought is that I'm married, and she doesn't want to seem like she's asking me out?
Anyone else have any thoughts? Should I just let this one go? Hang back and let her make first move?