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I've become stuck in a rut, and I think it's caused me to develop apathy towards just about everything.
I'm a 23 year old single father who still lives with his parents; Custody of my child is split biweekly between her mother and me. I work for the government as a graphic designer in a building with only 4 other people, all of whom could retire at any given day.
My routine consists of waking up, going to work, coming home and either A) watching/taking care of my daughter on the weeks I have her or coming home and either playing video games or watching TV on the weeks I don't. Weekends are pretty much the same only with a trip to the Mall thrown in here or there.
This has caused me to really have no desire to go out and do things, I want to, I just don't care if I do or don't. Granted thereâ€™s nothing around my town to really do, but still. I can't really go to bars because for one, I don't like drinking alone, and two, the bars around here consist of hicks, thugs or hick thugs. My mom's suggested going back to church if anything than to just meet people, but I go, sit through service, come home and that's the end of it. Course, it doesnâ€™t help that I've never been a very outgoing person when it comes to having the balls to go over and talk to someone new.
I have a small group of about 5 friends, all of them have girlfriends now, and none of them are really what I'd consider 'close' friends. We usually get together about once every other month to drink a beer and eat some steaks at Applebees but that's about it. I was never very popular in highschool so all my 'friends' from there don't talk to me, and any friends I made in college don't talk to me either. I've made attempts, but get the old "hey we should hang out sometime" only to never hear from them again. Any girl I talk to seems to get the feeling that I'm trying to go out with them so they pretty much only humor me when I just try to have a conversation with them.
All of this stuff combined has just caused me to stop caring and go about my routine. And I don't want this. It's starting to affect my motivation to get started on projects at work, and my desire to do more than stare at my two year old daughter.
So I've come asking for some collective advice. Please don't say "pills or going to a Doctor" because I can't afford either. Thanks in advance for any great advice, as I've noticed this forum is full of