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Increasing Sexual Stamina

NocrenNocren Lt Futz, Back in ActionNorth CarolinaRegistered User regular
edited September 2009 in Help / Advice Forum
So I'm looking for ways to increase the amount of activity I can do in bed before I pop off.
I'm big on foreplay and love doing that but as soon as we get to the actual act, I can only last a few minutes.

So is there anything I can do to help with this that doesn't involve pills? (Not looking to spend any or very little money).

Is there any exercises I can do?

Maybe I should get some more practice with my friend? :winky:

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  • DarkewolfeDarkewolfe Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    PC exercises. (google it)

    Whenever you practice with your friend, make sure that you are training for endurance marathons. You are training your body when you practice, so train it to take a long time, rather than doing a quick 3 minute sprint before work.

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  • NocrenNocren Lt Futz, Back in Action North CarolinaRegistered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Darkewolfe wrote: »
    PC exercises. (google it)

    Whenever you practice with your friend, make sure that you are training for endurance marathons. You are training your body when you practice, so train it to take a long time, rather than doing a quick 3 minute sprint before work.

    thanks for the PC link. But how can I train for endurance? it seems that no matter what speed I go at, I seem to have to last the same length of time. Is it more start->stop->start->stop?

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  • QuidQuid The Fifth Horseman Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    I have a couple methods:

    1. The easier of the two, having a couple drinks. It desensitizes you a bit and can help a lot, though it's definitely not something to get dependent on.

    2. Baseball. Actually, this is just what they do on TV. But I do find thinking of other things can also help. But I've found I have to be careful since if I get distracted too much I can start to go limp.





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  • TheDragonTheDragon Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    There's the start and stop method... when you feel close to the point of no return, you stop or pull out and wait a few seconds until you feel calmer. Then continue and repeat! If you both have talked about it, she'll be cool with you pausing since it means more fun for both of you. Or you could use that break for more foreplay!

    Squeezing just below the head during this break can help bring you down quicker.

    Practicing the PC muscle you should definately do, this will help most of all, if you can persist with the exercises.

    But also remember that sex isn't a sprint or you have to go fast and hard all the time. It's ok to slow down, in fact it's better to mix it up! If you find yourself getting too excited, slow down and you'll calm down. There's also things you can do that don't stimulate you as much as it stimulates her. Being really deep inside her, don't pump, but just move around side to side and do circles. Or pull completely out, then slowly push in, then slowly pull out, push in, etc.

  • NocrenNocren Lt Futz, Back in Action North CarolinaRegistered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Oh, I know. I try and start slow but it feels so damn good to keep going faster and faster and fast...
    dammit.

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  • TrentusTrentus Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    TheDragon wrote: »
    Practicing the PC muscle you should definately do, this will help most of all, if you can persist with the exercises.

    I remember hearing that if you flex this muscle when you're feeling a little too excited (and maybe take things back a little) it can help you delay orgasm. Think this was on A Girl's Guide to 21st Century Sex. Not really sure though.

  • RaneadosRaneados Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    these are kegel excercises yes?

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  • TrentusTrentus Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    As far as I'm aware, yes indeed they are kegal exercises.

  • Eat it You Nasty Pig.Eat it You Nasty Pig. tell homeland security 'we are the bomb'Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    It's the muscle you use to interrupt yourself while peeing. Once you learn how to isolate it (make peeing a fun little game!), you can work on building your control over it

    you know, while 'practicing'

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  • JohnnyCacheJohnnyCache Starting Defense Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Nocren wrote: »
    So I'm looking for ways to increase the amount of activity I can do in bed before I pop off.
    I'm big on foreplay and love doing that but as soon as we get to the actual act, I can only last a few minutes.

    So is there anything I can do to help with this that doesn't involve pills? (Not looking to spend any or very little money).

    Is there any exercises I can do?

    Maybe I should get some more practice with my friend? :winky:

    don't buy any pills. Almost any pill that does anything to your wiener that isn't viagra and/or prescribed is probably bullshit. And even viagra won't expressly keep you from firing, it will just help you reload faster.

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  • PeregrineFalconPeregrineFalcon Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Nocren wrote: »
    So I'm looking for ways to increase the amount of activity I can do in bed before I pop off.
    I'm big on foreplay and love doing that but as soon as we get to the actual act, I can only last a few minutes.

    So is there anything I can do to help with this that doesn't involve pills? (Not looking to spend any or very little money).

    Is there any exercises I can do?

    Maybe I should get some more practice with my friend? :winky:

    don't buy any pills. Almost any pill that does anything to your wiener that isn't viagra and/or prescribed is probably bullshit. And even viagra won't expressly keep you from firing, it will just help you reload faster.

    Only on PA do we discuss orgasm in terms of ROF and reload speed. But how much DPS? :P

    Just work on building the PC muscle and "practice" - as mentioned, endurance should be the goal. Work on sustaining higher levels of arousal without going off, have a nice slow jerk with the goal of "how long can I make this last?" and you'll get there eventually.

    And as a side technique, work on your oral if you're not already. If you go down on her first and she gets off, you'll have less performance anxiety worry about oh god if I blow my load she won't get to get off and she'll think I'm horrible etc that some people trap themselves in.

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  • JohnnyCacheJohnnyCache Starting Defense Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    If I haven't had sex in a while, I'm not above telling girls up front sometimes that they're going to have to "give me a mulligan on this first one. "

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  • PeregrineFalconPeregrineFalcon Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Usually I'll go for the om nom nom at that point as well, just to make sure things get off (giggity) to a good start.

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  • JohnnyCacheJohnnyCache Starting Defense Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Usually I'll go for the om nom nom at that point as well, just to make sure things get off (giggity) to a good start.

    Have you ever heard that katt williams routine where he says the trick is to nut so quick the first time that you just pull it back out, tell the girl she isn't ready, and go back down?

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  • PeregrineFalconPeregrineFalcon Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Usually I'll go for the om nom nom at that point as well, just to make sure things get off (giggity) to a good start.

    Have you ever heard that katt williams routine where he says the trick is to nut so quick the first time that you just pull it back out, tell the girl she isn't ready, and go back down?

    Drink, meet monitor. :lol:

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  • JohnnyCacheJohnnyCache Starting Defense Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    In defense of those who report me for that, the point I am trying to make is that this really does happen to most dudes. You just keep going with your evening, you know?

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  • jeddy leejeddy lee Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    I find confidence helps a lot. If I'm worried about going too fast during it, It'll probably happen, but when I'm caught up thinking I'm giving her the time of her life, I'm so focussed on pleasing her that it lasts MUCH longer.

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  • ShawnaseeShawnasee Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Going down on her is a great idea until she doesn't want you to go down on her.

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  • ElinElin Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Pro tip from a woman: Before you go about making yourself last for hours TALK to your partner. Not all women want what Comso says we want. I know that for me, I don't really want a lot of foreplay, and I don't want the sex to last more than 5-10 minutes. Only after that first go do I want "foreplay" and then another go round. Seriously, you might be stressing about it but your partner may be thinking "Finally someone that doesn't have trouble cumming, thank goodness."

    I have no idea how to increase male stamina otherwise honestly. I've always looked at it as my job to make a man lose control. :winky:

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  • JebusUDJebusUD Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    when you get going, if stuff gets to intense, slow it down. Change positions. Stop thrusting and kiss for 30 seconds.

    You haven't given me a reason to steer clear of you!
  • Lilac CitizenLilac Citizen Registered User
    edited September 2009
    Fuck man, I guess I'm some sort of freakish mutant

    It always takes me at least 40 minutes, it's ridiculous

    I think that I'm going to have to carefully read through this thread and make sure I'm not following any of its advice without realizing it

  • Nakatomi2010Nakatomi2010 Registered User
    edited September 2009
    Fuck man, I guess I'm some sort of freakish mutant

    It always takes me at least 40 minutes, it's ridiculous

    I think that I'm going to have to carefully read through this thread and make sure I'm not following any of its advice without realizing it

    Right there with you... Typically my wife is pushing me off of her before I'm ready to get off... Starting and stopping are what do it, the problem however is that for her the starting and stopping ruin her ability to get off... so I've found the best trick is to get her off ahead of time then go from there, traditionally keeps her happy since she'll make herself get off more while we're going at it and have a good ol' time...

    this was of course before she got pregnant... She's been off limits since December 1st, and despite giving birth a couple weeks ago, she'll still off limits till mid October... You wanna bet by Halloween she can expect a trick or eater though...

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  • DoxaDoxa Registered User
    edited September 2009
    Just for reference don't start and stop peeing repeatedly. Just do it to locate the muscle to work it. If you continually do it with peeing there are higher risks of some infections going on AND actually weakening your muscles. http://www.ehow.com/way_5279272_prostate-kegel-exercises.html. Technically it is your pelvic floor muscle but I just like to think of it as my penis muscle

    Other than that go wild (just like normal working out, don't overwork), I do it when I get bored if I'm sitting. Burning time at work? flex my penis. Easy class? flex my penis. Coerced into visiting family relatives? flex my penis. Sitting across the table from my girlfriend's father for lunch so he can size me up? flex my penis

  • Nakatomi2010Nakatomi2010 Registered User
    edited September 2009
    Doxa wrote: »
    Other than that go wild (just like normal working out, don't overwork), I do it when I get bored if I'm sitting. Burning time at work? flex my penis. Easy class? flex my penis. Coerced into visiting family relatives? flex my penis. Sitting across the table from my girlfriend's father for lunch so he can size me up? flex my penis

    haha... Well said sir...

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  • TrentusTrentus Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Oh shit, how did I forget this. You can sort of do weight training as well.

    If you flex while erect, you should be able to raise it somewhat. As you strengthen the muscle, you can add some weight (like hanging a wet wash-cloth off your knob). Obviously you won't be able to do these on the train or at work...

  • NocrenNocren Lt Futz, Back in Action North CarolinaRegistered User regular
    edited September 2009
    And why not?

    Though, I think I might be flexing the wrong muscle(s). I can do one that makes the whole thing flex, and I can do another that stops the flow... Or is it the same muscle just doing more/less work?

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  • HoukHouk Nipples The EchidnaRegistered User regular
    edited September 2009
    If I haven't had sex in a while, I'm not above telling girls up front sometimes that they're going to have to "give me a mulligan on this first one. "
    different wording, but i do the exact same thing

    for the most part theyre pretty understanding, especially since if i havent had sex in a while im usually ready to go again pretty quickly

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  • DoxaDoxa Registered User
    edited September 2009
    Don't use weight when you flex. The only reason to do that is if you would like to start lifting things with our penis. Chances are you'll only injure yourself.

    Besides, he's going for endurance, not power. So repeating will achieve the goal he's after.

  • underdonkunderdonk __BANNED USERS regular
    edited September 2009
    Usually I'll go for the om nom nom at that point as well, just to make sure things get off (giggity) to a good start.

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  • ShawnaseeShawnasee Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Ok, listen up, you guys think that getting her off orally is the magic cure all and it ain't.

    "No, don't go down there: I haven't taken a shower."
    "No, don't go down there: I haven't shaved."
    "No, don't go down there: I want to get off while you're in me."
    "No, don't go down there: I want to kiss you and I don't like kissing you with a glazed donut."
    "No, don't go down there: I'm on my period."
    "No, don't go down there: I don't like the way my piss flaps look."
    "No, don't go down there."

    There are work arounds for each of those situations (except for the last one) obviously but the oral isn't a "fix" for most girls. It's a way to hide your shortcomings and is a temp fix.

    Work on your stamina. The Dragon had some good pointers.

    Elin brings up a very good point too. Make sure she WANTS to go all tantric/Sting.

    So read what Dragon and Elin said and don't rely on oral.

    Having said that, oral is a damn fine strategy when she is willing to let you perform it. But be flexing your penis in the mean time...like I am doing right now.


    Edit: forgot the obligatory :winky:

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  • DogDog Registered User, Administrator, Vanilla Staff admin
    edited September 2009
    Nocren wrote: »
    And why not?

    Though, I think I might be flexing the wrong muscle(s). I can do one that makes the whole thing flex, and I can do another that stops the flow... Or is it the same muscle just doing more/less work?

    I thought it was the latter.

  • PeregrineFalconPeregrineFalcon Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Whoa, I never said it was a magic bullet. It's just a damn good thing to know how to do, that apparently nowhere near enough guys bother with anymore.

    But yes. Flex ahoy. I have a desk job that involves a lot of sitting, and unless there's a fire, I don't have to get up at anyone's behest but my own.

    So yes, I am flexing as I write this post.

    New email? Flex. Pager goes off? Flex. Song finishes in the MP3 player? Flex.

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  • ShawnaseeShawnasee Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Whoa, I never said it was a magic bullet. It's just a damn good thing to know how to do, that apparently nowhere near enough guys bother with anymore.

    But yes. Flex ahoy. I have a desk job that involves a lot of sitting, and unless there's a fire, I don't have to get up at anyone's behest but my own.

    So yes, I am flexing as I write this post.

    New email? Flex. Pager goes off? Flex. Song finishes in the MP3 player? Flex.

    They've had to update the Mohs hardness scale with a new entry, called "My Dick" above diamond.

    I agree!

    By the way, I am flexing my penis in your general direction at this very moment. :winky:

    Wait... o_O

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  • GigatonGigaton Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Only on PA do we discuss orgasm in terms of ROF and reload speed. But how much DPS? :P

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  • <3&lt;3 Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Personally, wearing a condom helps out a ton.

  • existexist Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Shawnasee wrote: »
    Ok, listen up, you guys think that getting her off orally is the magic cure all and it ain't.

    "No, don't go down there: I haven't taken a shower."
    "No, don't go down there: I haven't shaved."
    "No, don't go down there: I want to get off while you're in me."
    "No, don't go down there: I want to kiss you and I don't like kissing you with a glazed donut."
    "No, don't go down there: I'm on my period."
    "No, don't go down there: I don't like the way my piss flaps look."
    "No, don't go down there."

    There are work arounds for each of those situations (except for the last one) obviously but the oral isn't a "fix" for most girls. It's a way to hide your shortcomings and is a temp fix.

    Work on your stamina. The Dragon had some good pointers.

    Elin brings up a very good point too. Make sure she WANTS to go all tantric/Sting.

    So read what Dragon and Elin said and don't rely on oral.

    Having said that, oral is a damn fine strategy when she is willing to let you perform it. But be flexing your penis in the mean time...like I am doing right now.


    Edit: forgot the obligatory :winky:

    just out of curiosity, what is the workaround for the period thing

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  • PeregrineFalconPeregrineFalcon Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    exist wrote: »
    just out of curiosity, what is the workaround for the period thing

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  • JohnnyCacheJohnnyCache Starting Defense Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Shawnasee wrote: »
    Ok, listen up, you guys think that getting her off orally is the magic cure all and it ain't.

    "No, don't go down there: I haven't taken a shower."
    "No, don't go down there: I haven't shaved."
    "No, don't go down there: I want to get off while you're in me."
    "No, don't go down there: I want to kiss you and I don't like kissing you with a glazed donut."
    "No, don't go down there: I'm on my period."
    "No, don't go down there: I don't like the way my piss flaps look."
    "No, don't go down there."

    There are work arounds for each of those situations (except for the last one) obviously but the oral isn't a "fix" for most girls. It's a way to hide your shortcomings and is a temp fix.

    Work on your stamina. The Dragon had some good pointers.

    Elin brings up a very good point too. Make sure she WANTS to go all tantric/Sting.

    So read what Dragon and Elin said and don't rely on oral.

    Having said that, oral is a damn fine strategy when she is willing to let you perform it. But be flexing your penis in the mean time...like I am doing right now.


    Edit: forgot the obligatory :winky:

    The "workaround" is you don't have to both have to have a screaming orgasm every time?

    if you have ten minutes to have sex three showerless days into a shark-week camping trip, have ten minutes of goofy-ass sex and call it good.

    also re "hiding your shortcomings"

    you are screwing around with a girl. You are not driving the Penis car in the Indy 500.

    The point of it is to have fun and spackle tonsils, not to feel awkward and pressured to have sex a certain way for a certain amount of time. If she's happy and you're happy you don't have shortcomings. There are lesbians (human beings born with a crippling lack of penises) who have happy sex lives.

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  • Local H JayLocal H Jay Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Personally, wearing a condom helps out a ton.

    yep, this.
    also, i am not endorsing you do these things but
    when i'm inebriated in some fashion i can give some more gumption aswell.

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  • Teslan26Teslan26 Registered User regular
    edited September 2009
    Note that there are 'performa' condoms with a mild anaesthetic. Makes a big difference.

    Other than that, furious self flagellation 2-3 times during the day before the date will help you hold out longer.

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