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[INTERNET DATING] Adventure Time!

RobmanRobman Registered User regular
edited June 2010 in Debate and/or Discourse
Welp.

Guess we need another hundred pages (or more, probably more) to get the awful cretins of D&D shacked up with some nice people.

ONLINE DATING. It's a fun game.
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Figure 1, some random hotties I found with SFW pictures. These women here? They're out there. Perhaps. But your mighty neckbeard won't impress them.

So let's get down to brass tacks shall we? Sure, you could spend ages messaging a perfect 10 like the ladies above with killer lines like "sup" and "omg u look amazing lol", but so is everyone else.
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Figure 2, or how men are idiots. This chart here? Unless you look like the suave motherfucker in Figure 3, it means you better make damn sure you write a memorable message to a cute chick, and you shouldn't take it personally when she deletes your hard work before reading it.

So based on the assumption that none of us look like the suave motherfucker below in Figure 3, I guess we should put some effort into our profiles. I know a dude who gives Mr Motherfucker there a good run for his money in looks, and his profile is the most Bland McBlanderson two paragraphs of generic text, but his physical features means that women like those in Figure 1 message him regularly.
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Figure 3. Are you this man? Odds are pretty good that you aren't. Deal with it.

Is life fair? Not it isn't. Shit, or get off the pot. Some SA spy has revealed to me in a dark sagely manner secret texts from the depths of their slice of hell (OKC specific, but the general advice is sound)
Every Section
:ARROW: STOP being "honest" via self deprecation in your profiles
:ARROW: STOP apologizing to the reader of your profile
:ARROW: STOP making excuses to the reader of your profile
:ARROW: STOP following confident statements with insecure "lol" or "haha" or "i guess"
:ARROW: STOP insulting your own life path in your profile
:ARROW: STOP calling yourself nerdy or geeky or dorky or funny or witty or handsome or sarcastic or any-fucking-thing. Leave out any sentences that say, "I am [adjective]" unless you are prepared to put up or shut up.
:ARROW: YOU ARE TRYING TO WOO A MATE. THIS IS NOT AN HONEST AUTOBIOGRAPHY. YOU'RE SELLING YOURSELF

My Self Summary
- Be Specific
- Show, don't tell. Use stories to show that you are interesting
- Don't talk about vague shit like "I like to travel" and "I read books for fun" and "I have maintained possession of both my eyes since birth."

What I'm Doing With My Life
- Don't beat around the bush. Just fucking tell me what you do for money or what you are studying in school. It's going to be a first question on a date and gives a potential suitor something to ask you about.
- Put interesting things in here. Hobbies. Not JUST work-things. Show me why you are awesome to hang out with.

I'm Really Good At
- You are not good at making people laugh or being funny or whatever. Find SKILLS that you have that you are good at. I can cut a deck of cards one-handed. I can drive stick shift. Something interesting that you can do that is awesome.

First Things People Notice
- It's not your smile or your eyes or your sense of humor or whatever.
- Think about something that people would notice across a bar if you were hanging out with your friends in a loud, crowded place.

Favorites
- List YOUR FAVORITES. Not every book, movie, television show, and food you've ever read, seen, watched, or eaten.
- Pick 10-12 things MAXIMUM
- If you must use key words, only key word two or three things in each section. The favorites of your favorites.
- For books, list titles, not authors. Some authors write a wide range of books. Some authors are associated with being a prick or a poser. Book Titles tell a lot more about who you are as a person.

Six Things
- Don't list bullshit like oxygen, air, water, food, friends and family. It's boring and meaningless.
- Don't list your computer, the internet, these forums, or something else pathetic.
- Do list things relating to stuff you love or mention elsewhere in the profile. Feel free to be silly here, but don't list six random things that have no connection or theme.

I Spend a lot of time thinking about
- Don't suddenly get all deep and existential when there's nothing else like that in your profile.
- Don't say "Taking over the world" because that's bullshit.
- Feel free to be funny or silly here, too, but don't make it cliche.

Typical Friday
- Don't say "there is no typical Friday"
- Don't say "taking over the world"
- Don't say "out with friends or in reading a book" like every other person ever
- This is a bullshit question, but be specific. If you are out with friends, what are you doing? Do you go dancing? Go to bars for trivia night? Watch movies and eat popcorn?

The Most Privet Thing
- ANSWER THE GODDAMN QUESTION

Message me if
- Don't say "if you want to" or any other variation of that. BE SPECIFIC.
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SO MAGGOT WANT TO GET LAID?

www.okcupid.com
www.plentyoffish.com

There are other websites aka paysites out there but lol opinions lol fuck that.

And as always, we part with some legendary advice:
Too good looking for you? Son, let a girl figure out why she won't sleep with you. Don't do it for her.
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I couldn't not post the Jetta back seat. Shitty car back seats are like the mecca of awkward voyages into messy happiness.

SHIRTLESS PHOTO SECTION
So if you look like this with your shirt off
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Then go here
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Or another such location where being shirtless is normal. Don't take the douchebag photo in the mirror shot.

Well that being said, don't take that photo if you want a lady who would find a blatant shirtless photo kind of crass and excessive. There are a lot of women who wouldn't mind a brazen shot, so go for it if you feel like it.

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  • DeaderinredDeaderinred Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    You know i am Daniel Craig sometimes.

    Also im going to a party in a few weeks, like a real life party with actual people at a friends house and its all her friends some whom might be single, should i apply internet dating tips to the party itself? hte last one i went to was a Halloween one a few years ago where i didnt dress up but at the last min used faked blood on my neck and used my paleness as to say was a vampire victim, i pretty much spent the party sitting by myself wondering what i was doing here.

    tips? i probably shouldnt mention my POF account there right? or the fact i seem to only have two outfits.

    D:

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  • XagarathXagarath Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    So, does anyone want to pick holes in my profile? They're probably there to be picked.
    www.okcupid.com/profile/darklingtears

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  • GodfatherGodfather Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Hahah, totally screwed up this last message on OKCupid. Practically a bridge burner!

    Live and learn I guess!

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  • psyck0psyck0 Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    So no one responded last time. www.okcupid.com/profile/periodicdesk

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  • RanadielRanadiel Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    That list of spoilers is pretty much the Man's Guide to Being a Man.

    Being raised by my mom and two sisters and was given life advice that has no practical use in the field when it comes to wooing the opposite sex.

    My best experiences have come wihen I'm involved with someone I know from the start that I have zero relationship interest with. If I know ahead of time it's not going to go beyond a certain point, I feel free to do whatever I want and not second guess myself. It causes a dramatic shift in my attitude and behavior, where I speak confidentely, apologize for nothing and focus on having a good time for myself, not making a good impression. I wouldn't go so far as to say I behave like an asshole, but I'm certainly not Mr. Nice Guy at this point.

    When I'm actually interested in someone, I tend to fall into bad habits where I am literally tripping over myself to be polite, funny, or gentlemanly, or whatever stupid shit girls say they want in a man but only ends up boring them. Luckily, as I get older, these habits are falling off and being replaced with what I can best describe as more confident and self-respecting attitude.

    On the internet, girls tend to be very specific with what they want from a guy, but this can be decieving. You can write an entire novella that makes you out to be the ideal mate for any particular girl, but pictures are still worth a thousand words. Good, current pics are the best way to go, especially if you're seen doing something that most people would consider fun or exciting. And let's not split hairs - women are just as superficial about looks as men are when it comes to choosing a potential mate. A picture that clearly shows your face or your full body is important too, especially if you look like Mr. Craig up there. In fact, if you do, chances are you're not reading this post and are neck deep in poon.

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  • DragonPupDragonPup Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Robman wrote: »
    The Most Privet Thing
    - ANSWER THE GODDAMN QUESTION

    I've always hated the "If I told you, it wouldn't be private" cop out answer.

    Anyways, I look forward to failing at love in this thread too. [/self-deprecating]

    Actually, while I tend to lolfail at the actual dating step, it helps to have something on your profile someone can ask about outside of the 'So you like movie X, too'. Like I have a Schrödinger's cat joke on my profile. Most of the IMs I get ask about it more than anything else.

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  • JoolanderJoolander Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    off topic question:

    why does Daniel Craig play a jewish guy a lot of the time?

    seriously, not all of us can lead revolutions in poland

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  • RobmanRobman Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Joolander wrote: »
    off topic question:

    why does Daniel Craig play a jewish guy a lot of the time?

    seriously, not all of us can lead revolutions in poland

    It's those piercing blue eyes. The man can fuck any woman on the planet because they've already been penetrated violently and exhaustively by his stare.

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  • JoolanderJoolander Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    and now, I am off to get that surgery from Minority Report

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  • SirUltimosSirUltimos Don't talk, Rusty. Just paint. Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    I think I have discovered that I am a bad breaker upper.

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  • retrovmretrovm Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    good OP. that list is pretty much ace.

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  • JoolanderJoolander Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    lol OMG i just clicked the "backseat" spoiler



    i hope that's not anybodys car here D:

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  • ForarForar #432 Toronto, Ontario, CanadaRegistered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Agreed, I've made some changes, though it's mostly paring down a bit further. I've gotten some good responses over the past couple weeks, and don't want to mess too much with it.

    But at the same time, aside from a coffee date on Thursday, there hasn't been much actual moving from digital to personal contact, so maybe the profile's fine and I just need to work on my messaging approach, though that has also been well received.

    Apparently it's a busy time of year for single women in Toronto.

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  • retrovmretrovm Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    i changed my relationship dealie back to "single" the other day and i got 4 messages from dudes within like 10 minutes. absurd.
    i've exchanged a few messages with one of them, and he gave me his phone number after my second reply. i felt sort of awkward about it being that soon i guess.. also being so soon after things just ended with another guy for me (even though we were just seeing each other for about a month and a half-- no "real" relationship). i don't want to bring the latter bit up because i feel that's awkward, and making the last guy i was seeing into something more than what it was. i messaged him back saying it was a touch forward and to maybe IM me instead, and gave him my screenname. nada back from him as of yet, ah well. i think i fucked that one up.



    is there like.. a "right" time to give a phone number? what do you guys do/think? i always give an email address first and take it from there.

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  • ForarForar #432 Toronto, Ontario, CanadaRegistered User regular
    edited April 2010
    It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong with the phone number. You said yourself, you're just fresh out of a relationship (fairly short lived, if I'm not mistaken, but a relationship all the same) and it struck you as a bit forward, and then proposed an alternative venue of getting to know one another.

    If he can't handle that, I wouldn't sweat it. If you're getting 4 messages in 10 minutes of being single again, you kind of have your pick of the figurative litter here. Which you obviously know, so I'm not sure if I'm just using my natural gift for Stating The MotherGoosing Obvious, but here we are.

    I've taken to suggesting coffee after a few messages have been exchanged. If they agree with that, then obviously being able to get in touch offline is a good idea, so I usually give my number then.

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  • wallakawallaka Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    retrovm wrote: »
    i changed my relationship dealie back to "single" the other day and i got 4 messages from dudes within like 10 minutes. absurd.
    i've exchanged a few messages with one of them, and he gave me his phone number after my second reply. i felt sort of awkward about it being that soon i guess.. also being so soon after things just ended with another guy for me (even though we were just seeing each other for about a month and a half-- no "real" relationship). i don't want to bring the latter bit up because i feel that's awkward, and making the last guy i was seeing into something more than what it was. i messaged him back saying it was a touch forward and to maybe IM me instead, and gave him my screenname. nada back from him as of yet, ah well. i think i fucked that one up.



    is there like.. a "right" time to give a phone number? what do you guys do/think? i always give an email address first and take it from there.

    Dammit retro I clicked on your profile once and now it auto-fills .com/retrovm everytime I try to go to OKC.

    Umm...I exchanged phone numbers on the second contact once, but we had an IM session that went on for 6 hours so I felt pretty comfortable

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  • animaleanimale Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Mogwaii/pictures

    I'm curious about the 2nd picture, should I keep it or should I get rid of it?

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  • DiscoZombieDiscoZombie Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    ugh, I just had a girl outright ask me out for a drink. That's never happened to me before. She's a lawyer. If I were smart I'd jump on that. But I am not attracted to her, and I would probably bore her silly. I've never turned someone down before, I don't know how.

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  • animaleanimale Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    ugh, I just had a girl outright ask me out for a drink. That's never happened to me before. She's a lawyer. If I were smart I'd jump on that. But I am not attracted to her, and I would probably bore her silly. I've never turned someone down before, I don't know how.

    You don't have to say anything, you've never met this girl so you can just ignore the message and go on with your life. Don't make a big deal of it and you'll be fine.

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  • DiscoZombieDiscoZombie Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    animale wrote: »
    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Mogwaii/pictures

    I'm curious about the 2nd picture, should I keep it or should I get rid of it?

    I think it's just fine. Props for the Elvis Costello reference :D

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  • Munkus BeaverMunkus Beaver You don't have to attend every argument you are invited to. Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPA regular
    edited April 2010
    Ok, I am about 99% sure now that if someone 4 or 5 stars you, then it moves you to the top of their 'quick match' list.

    There's no other explaining this.

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  • retrovmretrovm Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    wallaka wrote: »
    retrovm wrote: »
    i changed my relationship dealie back to "single" the other day and i got 4 messages from dudes within like 10 minutes. absurd.
    i've exchanged a few messages with one of them, and he gave me his phone number after my second reply. i felt sort of awkward about it being that soon i guess.. also being so soon after things just ended with another guy for me (even though we were just seeing each other for about a month and a half-- no "real" relationship). i don't want to bring the latter bit up because i feel that's awkward, and making the last guy i was seeing into something more than what it was. i messaged him back saying it was a touch forward and to maybe IM me instead, and gave him my screenname. nada back from him as of yet, ah well. i think i fucked that one up.



    is there like.. a "right" time to give a phone number? what do you guys do/think? i always give an email address first and take it from there.

    Dammit retro I clicked on your profile once and now it auto-fills .com/retrovm everytime I try to go to OKC.

    Umm...I exchanged phone numbers on the second contact once, but we had an IM session that went on for 6 hours so I felt pretty comfortable

    hahahahaha, excellent.

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  • retrovmretrovm Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Forar wrote: »
    It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong with the phone number. You said yourself, you're just fresh out of a relationship (fairly short lived, if I'm not mistaken, but a relationship all the same) and it struck you as a bit forward, and then proposed an alternative venue of getting to know one another.

    If he can't handle that, I wouldn't sweat it. If you're getting 4 messages in 10 minutes of being single again, you kind of have your pick of the figurative litter here. Which you obviously know, so I'm not sure if I'm just using my natural gift for Stating The MotherGoosing Obvious, but here we are.

    I've taken to suggesting coffee after a few messages have been exchanged. If they agree with that, then obviously being able to get in touch offline is a good idea, so I usually give my number then.

    yeah, i didn't think i did anything bizarre or whatever, just wanted to get some input. problem is that the message volume is largely due to being a chick on the site as well-- i weed through a lot of garbage to reply to messages that i think are either well-thought out or i'd actually want to meet up with them. at this point i have no idea if i even want a relationship at all, i've got to think it through.

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  • Munkus BeaverMunkus Beaver You don't have to attend every argument you are invited to. Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPA regular
    edited April 2010
    retrovm wrote: »
    i changed my relationship dealie back to "single" the other day and i got 4 messages from dudes within like 10 minutes. absurd.
    i've exchanged a few messages with one of them, and he gave me his phone number after my second reply. i felt sort of awkward about it being that soon i guess.. also being so soon after things just ended with another guy for me (even though we were just seeing each other for about a month and a half-- no "real" relationship). i don't want to bring the latter bit up because i feel that's awkward, and making the last guy i was seeing into something more than what it was. i messaged him back saying it was a touch forward and to maybe IM me instead, and gave him my screenname. nada back from him as of yet, ah well. i think i fucked that one up.



    is there like.. a "right" time to give a phone number? what do you guys do/think? i always give an email address first and take it from there.

    I only give out my phone number/ask for their when it's time for a date, but then again I don't like to talk on the phone much. It comes down to personal preference, but I think that the 'more personable communication when we are going to meet' is applicable.

    Then again, for dudes it's appropriate to ask ladies on dates immediately due to supply and demand.

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  • JintorJintor Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    animale wrote: »
    ugh, I just had a girl outright ask me out for a drink. That's never happened to me before. She's a lawyer. If I were smart I'd jump on that. But I am not attracted to her, and I would probably bore her silly. I've never turned someone down before, I don't know how.

    You don't have to say anything, you've never met this girl so you can just ignore the message and go on with your life. Don't make a big deal of it and you'll be fine.

    Don't ignore the message. At least be all "Sorry, but...".

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  • RobmanRobman Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    I'm pretty random for when I do/don't give out a cell#, with some people you're just like hey let's grab some coffee, shoot me a text @ blah blah etc. and with others I've given out my cell after a few dates. IM and Skype have made the telephone a bit personal and exposing in comparison.

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  • RobmanRobman Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Jintor wrote: »
    animale wrote: »
    ugh, I just had a girl outright ask me out for a drink. That's never happened to me before. She's a lawyer. If I were smart I'd jump on that. But I am not attracted to her, and I would probably bore her silly. I've never turned someone down before, I don't know how.

    You don't have to say anything, you've never met this girl so you can just ignore the message and go on with your life. Don't make a big deal of it and you'll be fine.

    Don't ignore the message. At least be all "Sorry, but...".

    Nah protocol is just to delete messages you don't want to respond to. A rejection message is so rare it would be quite offensive.

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  • GodfatherGodfather Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    So i've been using this thing for two weeks so far, and have had quite a bit of success message-wise. Tomorrow I meet that same girl again for a follow-up date, but whether that goes good or bad, i'm kind of getting burned out with this thing, even though it's been going really well.

    Am I the only one who thinks this? Maybe I should abandon both POF and OKCupid for a bit before visiting back in a couple of weeks. If I do that it's going to sever any potential connections that I already have going for me.

    Could sure use some advice on this.

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  • IncenjucarIncenjucar VChatter Seattle, WARegistered User regular
    edited April 2010
    I've had a bad string of luck with getting attention from women who seem to be flailing in life. Is being twenty-something and self-depreciating or listless really that common, or am I hitting an abnormal pocket of people with no ambition or passion? :?

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  • RobmanRobman Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    I've had a bad string of luck with getting attention from women who seem to be flailing in life. Is being twenty-something and self-depreciating or listless really that common, or am I hitting an abnormal pocket of people with no ambition or passion? :?

    Yes

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  • ChillyWillyChillyWilly Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Just made a profile. Critique if you wish.

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Lover_Fighter27

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  • retrovmretrovm Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    retrovm wrote: »
    i changed my relationship dealie back to "single" the other day and i got 4 messages from dudes within like 10 minutes. absurd.
    i've exchanged a few messages with one of them, and he gave me his phone number after my second reply. i felt sort of awkward about it being that soon i guess.. also being so soon after things just ended with another guy for me (even though we were just seeing each other for about a month and a half-- no "real" relationship). i don't want to bring the latter bit up because i feel that's awkward, and making the last guy i was seeing into something more than what it was. i messaged him back saying it was a touch forward and to maybe IM me instead, and gave him my screenname. nada back from him as of yet, ah well. i think i fucked that one up.



    is there like.. a "right" time to give a phone number? what do you guys do/think? i always give an email address first and take it from there.

    I only give out my phone number/ask for their when it's time for a date, but then again I don't like to talk on the phone much. It comes down to personal preference, but I think that the 'more personable communication when we are going to meet' is applicable.

    Then again, for dudes it's appropriate to ask ladies on dates immediately due to supply and demand.

    thing is he didn't ask me out, he just gave me his phone number. if he asked me to dinner it would make more sense. now i know i'm a lady and all that but i'm not much into talking on the phone if i don't know you; even so, i only like talking to specific people on the phone at length.

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  • Munkus BeaverMunkus Beaver You don't have to attend every argument you are invited to. Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPA regular
    edited April 2010
    I'd go and look over the message again and see if it cries out "boilerplate."

    It might also cry out "desperation," but your mileage may vary.

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  • JeanJean Heartbroken papa bear Gatineau, QuébecRegistered User regular
    edited April 2010
    I'd appreciate it if you guys could comment on the ''Most private thing I'm willing to admit'' section.. I'm not sure if my wording is appropriate....This is all new to me.

    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/jeancanadian

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  • Mercutio87Mercutio87 So build that wall and build it strong cause We'll be there before too longRegistered User regular
    edited April 2010
    retrovm wrote: »
    retrovm wrote: »
    i changed my relationship dealie back to "single" the other day and i got 4 messages from dudes within like 10 minutes. absurd.
    i've exchanged a few messages with one of them, and he gave me his phone number after my second reply. i felt sort of awkward about it being that soon i guess.. also being so soon after things just ended with another guy for me (even though we were just seeing each other for about a month and a half-- no "real" relationship). i don't want to bring the latter bit up because i feel that's awkward, and making the last guy i was seeing into something more than what it was. i messaged him back saying it was a touch forward and to maybe IM me instead, and gave him my screenname. nada back from him as of yet, ah well. i think i fucked that one up.



    is there like.. a "right" time to give a phone number? what do you guys do/think? i always give an email address first and take it from there.

    I only give out my phone number/ask for their when it's time for a date, but then again I don't like to talk on the phone much. It comes down to personal preference, but I think that the 'more personable communication when we are going to meet' is applicable.

    Then again, for dudes it's appropriate to ask ladies on dates immediately due to supply and demand.

    thing is he didn't ask me out, he just gave me his phone number. if he asked me to dinner it would make more sense. now i know i'm a lady and all that but i'm not much into talking on the phone if i don't know you; even so, i only like talking to specific people on the phone at length.

    retrovm, I usually go with the right time being when the woman says, here's my number, give me a call sometime! Or, I've been talking with her for a while, there's an agreement to meet up for something casual to get to know each other in person, in which case I give her my number so she can call if she gets lost/cancels/wants to figure out which guy in the crowd is me.

    Phone number as the third email seems mildly desperate if that was the whole email. He can easily email and IM you directly on the site. I'm all for quickly asking for a real life meeting just to see how we get along, but I usually won't do that until I've at least established a conversation with the person.

    Oh, so update on the dates/meetups.

    Woman #1. Had a meetup scheduled with her for last saturday afternoon. If things went well, hang out for longer than the afternoon. If not, no biggie. I don't see her on for several days leading up to said meetup, left her an email on friday telling her I hoped she could make it and to let me know if she needed directions, my number if she got lost, whatever. She did say the week before she would have to get off work that day to hang out.

    Saturday, big surprise, no emails, IMs, or girl. Alrighty, going to assume work + busy. Also going to assume that anyone who truly wants to meet will put in some effort themselves, which she hasn't, so don't see much reason in pursuing that. I enjoyed my afternoon, so whatever. And then I found some messed up internet forum posts by her, thanks google. I know years old posts about illegal activities is not the same as actually doing said illegal activity, but, well, arguing that said activity is totally legit and there is no reason why such activities are illegal and there's obviously nothing wrong with someone doing said obviously illegal activity...yeah. I dunno, fun to talk to, but also really has that Might Be Crazy! vibe, you know? Could be nuts! It would be like a surprise, that you were expecting!

    So that evening...I'm talking more to meetup woman #2, who I'm supposed to see on Tuesday. Told her evening was free due to a friend bailing on me. Her reply was that the same thing happened to her...want to hang out?

    Post spontaneous date reactions: seems worth getting to know more. Nice if a little spontaneously giggle happy.

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  • Matt_SMatt_S Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    http://www.okcupid.com/profile/matthew_earl

    Please critique. So far the only thing I can really see is that I talk about how much I love to go hiking (which I do) but I really don't have any pictures of it. Fortunately, my friend took some of the last hike I did two weeks ago and he's supposed to be sending some pics to me. Soon.

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  • IncenjucarIncenjucar VChatter Seattle, WARegistered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Hiking is incredibly popular here, so there's no possible harm from mentioning it.

    Looking over your profile, all I can see that's missing is a sense of your philosophical bent.

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  • Matt_SMatt_S Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    Hiking is incredibly popular here, so there's no possible harm from mentioning it.

    Looking over your profile, all I can see that's missing is a sense of your philosophical bent.

    You mean in a political sense or something broader? I could mention my volunteer time in the Obama campaign. It would give the sense that I am left of center and I wouldn't be screaming "hay guys I'm liberal!!!1" either.

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  • JragghenJragghen Registered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Just a general quasi-ranting question (not seeking an actual answer). Why do people sign up for dating websites when they aren't comfortable with meeting people from the Internet in person?

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  • IncenjucarIncenjucar VChatter Seattle, WARegistered User regular
    edited April 2010
    Matt_S wrote: »
    Incenjucar wrote: »
    Hiking is incredibly popular here, so there's no possible harm from mentioning it.

    Looking over your profile, all I can see that's missing is a sense of your philosophical bent.

    You mean in a political sense or something broader? I could mention my volunteer time in the Obama campaign. It would give the sense that I am left of center and I wouldn't be screaming "hay guys I'm liberal!!!1" either.

    Yeah, something like that. Basically something to screen out the Randians and save you from falling for someone you'll hate with a white hot fire the moment your conversation gets deeper than where to hike.

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    Jragghen: OKCupid is only mostly a dating site. Also some people are just really really lonely and don't know what to do with it. It's like flaking ahead of time.

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