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Neighbors have a squeaky bed for fucking
HyperAquaBlast
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So my newish upstairs neighbors tend to fuck a lot on their free time. Thats cool for them.
Thing is my ceiling and their floor are shit for noise reduction and this couple has the classic squeaky bed. This thing is easily heard in my bedroom over the droan of cooling fan. Thankfully the dude up there lets me know when they're done by letting out a loud groan.
The little reasons why I have told myself not to tell them straight up is becuase I'm a stranger and its sex. I don't want to come off as the guy whos single and a prude or the creepy guy who has been listening in to their sex acts for the past two weeks. Which I'm not on both of those!
So how should I introduce myself to this couple and let them know their bed is in need of repairs due to fucking? Or do I go the aparment offices and let them know?
Thing is my ceiling and their floor are shit for noise reduction and this couple has the classic squeaky bed. This thing is easily heard in my bedroom over the droan of cooling fan. Thankfully the dude up there lets me know when they're done by letting out a loud groan.
The little reasons why I have told myself not to tell them straight up is becuase I'm a stranger and its sex. I don't want to come off as the guy whos single and a prude or the creepy guy who has been listening in to their sex acts for the past two weeks. Which I'm not on both of those!
So how should I introduce myself to this couple and let them know their bed is in need of repairs due to fucking? Or do I go the aparment offices and let them know?
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They can usually be more tactful with things like this.
Of course a bed brochure couldn't hurt haha.
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The landlord idea is good but I've seen people really overreact to that, where they think you're trying to get them kicked out or something.
Edit: Of course, it could be an issue of no rug in their bedroom more than the bed itself. That would be an easier way to confront them directly. Just knock on the door, introduce yourself and say something like "Oh by the way, do you guys have carpet in your bed room? The floor makes noise." That *should* clue them in without directly forcing the "have quieter sex" issue.
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Incidentally, that also improved my quality of sleep even on days when my nextdoor neighbors weren't having sex. I was no longer woken up by other things like car alarms or a crow landing next to my window and screaming its ass off.
Read them over and figure out which one you like the sound of better (and could deal with).
If it were right over my bed that'd be a different story.
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Just saying, I think this is something you could probably get over with some headphones or something.
Sounds like your problem.
I live with 4 other people, myself and 2 others have rooms adjacent to one another, and all 3 of us have long-term girlfriends. The other two guys rooms are directly below ours.
We laugh about the noises after the fact.
All I was trying to say was complaining will maybe piss the neighbor off but result in no change. I mean, I also don't really give a fuck if people hear me, and for this reason and the aforementioned, I think he's better off just doing his best to ignore it.
Luckily they haven't been particularly active in a while, but I now have what sounds like two people having conversations between rooms (which is to say, loudly) and walking around in steel shanked boots (which is to say, loudly) upstairs.
To drag this back even glancingly on topic, living in apartment buildings can be a mixed blessing, and the noises of other people is part of what can make it a trying experience. I like the suggestions that have been made, and hope that one of them works for you.
I'm pretty sure my bedroom is adjacent to the living room of my next door neighbour, and their talking at all hours (thin walls, it seems) was kind of annoying me, so I shifted the room around to put my bed (and thus, head) on the opposite wall, giving me another 10 feet or so of space from that source of noise. Obviously this isn't going to help much with them being upstairs, but you never know how a shift to the positioning of your head/bed or the acoustics of the room might help.
Maybe get a fan? Something to generate a little white noise while you sleep?
You made it sound like knowing that someone could hear you having sex would turn you into a nervous wreck.
OP, if it's constant and obnoxious I'd personally mention it to them in as non-confrontational of a way as possible, they might not have any idea. Different people would react to that news differently, so you'd have to gauge if you should tell them about it after you meet them.
Anonymously, of course.
It's fantastic and it's mechanical. The electronic machines have a little "reset" of their sounttrack, which I can pick up on and will keep me up. The mechanical machines, however, make their noise with a little motor, so no soundtrack "reset". I'm a very light sleeper with go-go gadget hearing, so passing cars, barking dogs, and fucking neighbors will keep me up unless I run the whirr machine.
Again, though... I'm a big pervert, so I usually listen in if the neighbors are going at it. Might as well have my fun too.
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worked for me and my roommate. Pretty sure every time he hears Slayer now it induces a sexual response.
I ended telling some friends about the problem and we came up with a scheme to all go to my apartment and wait for the magic to happen. So like twelve of us pile into a cramped room with beers and popcorn and waited until they really got going and the noise was loud enough to hear over the crowd of people with me. Then we all started clapping and cheering and hooting...and the noise stopped for a few minutes. It picked back up again, we waited for it to cresendo, and then started the cheering again. Noise stops, picks back up a few seconds later....so we started shouting out suggestions and style pointers.
I think they got the point and stopping being such noisy fuckers after that. lol Never had the problem again.
Or they'll bang harder and finish quicker, either way you win.
2) knock on door.
3) whoever answers the door, introduce yourself as the guy living in the apartment below theirs (skip this if they know you by sight)
4) hand over a small bottle of WD40
5) tell them they'll know what to do with it.
6) wink
7) turn on your heel and walk back to your apartment while humming 'let's get it on'
seriously, just go talk to them. usually being made aware that other people can hear you is a deterent to repeating the behavior (unless they're into that). its really not a big deal, just be polite and don't be tactless.
Thats a total goose move. Unless they are fucking into 4am and you can't sleep, let them fuck for fucks sake.
Getting your groove on is fine with me...but those people were loud and knew it. They lived in the same type of shitty apartment I did with noise coming through the walls, ceiling, and floor. You'd have to be some kind of back-birth not to realize you were potentially bothering the neighbors with it. And of all my neighbors, they made the most noise the most often.
And goose move or not, it was hilarious for all of us, and it worked to stop the problem. Lighten up Francis, it was just a little harmless fun. ;-)
i know this is probably posted on "passive aggressive" notes somewhere, but i left a note because i didn't know how some people would react to "i can hear you having sex and it keeps me awake". i just said, "hi, i live below you and i sometimes hear a lot of squeaking coming from the room above ours".
the squeaking stopped within a few days.
funny thing happened though, there was a lot of loud stomping and running around upstairs the day before we moved out, and i got annoyed and pounded on the ceiling.
a dude came downstairs. he apologized. i decided, being that it was our last day there and i didnt have to worry about running into them anymore, i would tell him what else i could hear - so he could take that into consideration for the next tenants. i told him i could hear everything going on in the bedroom over ours.
turns out that this was the girl's boyfriend, and yesterday was his first day back after being gone for 3 months. HMMM. he went a little bit red.
If it's just squeaking, you should be able to tolerate it a day or two a week. Welcome to apartment living?
Personally I try to make the head of my bed isn't on a shared wall with someone above or below my bedroom.
Then again, I stopped using a bedframe and sleep on a box spring and mattress directly on the floor, so there's almost no noise even if I do jumping jacks on the thing.
Dude looks like a tiny Vin Diesel and his girl looks like a late 90s GAP ad girl. So yeah its all understandable now.
I hate passive-aggressive notes with a passion and also despise banging on walls. I'm pretty big on treat people how you want to be treated which is why I want talk face to face about issues.
I understand apartment life and have been at this place for almost two years and will be for another year till I transfer. The previous neighbor had late night video game anger issues where you could hear yelling and stomping every time he died in Modern Warfare 2. On 3 different occasions around 3am I would go to his front door and knock which would cause him to turn off his lights and be quiet. I didn't like how I never talked to him about it though. I will put up with noise but come midnight you shouldn't be a noisy dick anymore.
But yeah totally going to rent a house or town home where ever I move to next.
I don't know why you didn't just bring up straight away to be honest, just explain you're not eavesdropping but you're disturbed because you can hear the bed going away and it inconveniences you. You're putting no pressure on tehm but if there is something they could do about it then you'd appreciate it. Bam, done.
It's a common situation that most people can empathize with on some level. Bring it up in a non-confrontational, non passive-aggressive way, or just deal with it.
1. Say something.
2. Get over it. You live in an apartment building. This happens.
Sure it's intimate time for them, but if its causing difficulties (disturbing sleep or anything?) you shouldnt feel too awkward about it. It's an apartment block, someone is going to have to adapt. This happens!
My neighbours used to do it, but it was more... them being vocal than a squeaky bed
When my roommate had his girlfriend around one night, on his way out he bumps into those neighbours
And the neighbor guy makes a kind of snarky smarmy remark along the lines of "sounds like you had a lot of fun lastnight"
and my roommate says "damn.. sorry thats inconsiderate of me, I shouldve realised that if I can hear you guys, youd be able to hear me"
And I never heard the neighbours going at it ever again.
I have no problem with people getting their fuck on alright guys.
The main issue is that there is this loud annoying sound that occurs late which is my neighbors bed when the springs are compressed and decompressed repeatedly. It just so happens that sex causes it and I wanted some help coming up with a tactful way to bring it up to some strangers since it isn't exactly a great greeting/complaint opener.
I couldn't think of a way to say it with out coming out completely awkward compared to asking them to not play the violin at 3am for example.
I'm not sure if a