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Should I go and see someone?

SolarSolar Registered User regular
edited October 2010 in Help / Advice Forum
Hey there guys, got something I would like to ask you. You see, I'm kind of worried that I have some sort of disorder where I swing wildly from highs to lows.

I mean, sometimes it's like I'm on a caffeine high or something, I just talk to people loads and want to spend time with people and all that, and I'm kind of a little manic. And then sometimes I am just so so down, which wouldn't be so bad except there's no reason. I just look out of the window or something and I realise that I am miserable and my life sucks, even though there's no reason why it should suck, because there are people who have it far worse than white middle-class, healthy old me. This doesn't happen all the time, I have inbetween moments, but it happens sometimes. I am just jumpy or down for no reason at all. And in those moments there so much I want to just say, you know? Like I want to just say everything which is on my mind and how I feel but I can't because who wants to listen to that shit anyway. It's like I want to shout it all out but I'm so damn constricted by my own self that I can't. I never talk about how I feel. Never.

Plus there's this wierd thing I have where I can meet people and talk to them and like them but I can't make friends with them. I have so many acquaintences but I find it hard to actually make friends. And when it comes to girls I suck, I can talk to them easy and I like them I just never actually do anything with them. It;s the same acquaitance not actually someone close. I never ask them out because they'll just say no, and I can't be dealing with that. There is a girl right now who I should be asking out. If she said no then I could probably deal because it would be no biggie but I just can't do it. I don't know why.

I want to go and see someone but I'm afraid they'll laugh me out of there all like "yeah everyone feels like that don't be a pussy, there are people with real problems who have it much tougher than you etc." So do you think i should go and see someone? I don't know, and I can muddle on just like I do now. It's not like it's getting worse.

I just wish it would get a little better.

Edit: Edited some of what I said because I wanted to say it.

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  • L Ron HowardL Ron Howard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Yes, you should go see someone.
    No, they will not laugh at you or anything. Most people take positions to help others because they want to, so they don't despise or resent helping anyone as much as you'd think.

    It also seems like you need some confidence. The same people can help you with that.

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  • SentrySentry Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    You may have something... most people do, but if you're worried it's bipolar disorder I wouldn't... it really doesn't sound like that. It actually seems more like depression, coupled with a need to build up some confidence and social skills. By all means go see someone, but nothing you wrote screams emergency to me. Of course, I am not a licensed doctor or therapist.

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  • Robos A Go GoRobos A Go Go Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    The symptoms you're talking about aren't that unusual, and in my case they were linked to simple depression.

    Talking to someone and (possibly) getting prescribed something will help, but other things like getting more exercise and trying to open up to people more are also good ideas.

    I mean, it is possible to share your feelings with others without being a burden to them, and realizing that will make you feel more comfortable around others and less alienated.

    As for the girl, I'd wonder if your concern stems less from a fear of rejection and more from a fear of what a relationship would entail, namely emotional intimacy.

  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    As far as the confidence goes, it's fucking wierd. I can speak in front of people with no real problem, put me in a room full of people I don't know and I can mingle or chat or whatever, in fact when it comes to speaking to new people I am pretty good at that.

    But I never actually get further than that. This actually might be me not caring enough. I can't open myself up. As for the girl I want emotional closeness (I do, I really do, I want to be with her) but at the same time I don't. I can't really explain why. I find myself wanting the closeness but I can't understand why someone would want to be close to me. I am not so great looking, I am not a cool guy, I am not funny, I am not that clever, I have no real future right now that I can see, but I can handle all that by myself, handle just being me, it's OK, not everyone is special and I should be grateful that life is not hard for me. I just don't see anyone wanting to be with me.

    I want to see someone just to talk about this, but really I don't know if it's worth trying, if it will actually change anything. I'm twenty one and I have never had a girlfriend. I am fucking twenty one and I have never been able to connect with someone in that way. I think it's just me. I want to talk to someone about this but at the same time I have this wierd thing where I don't. I re-read this post right now and I feel like such a fucking drama queen.

    Thanks for the responses guys, seriously, I appreciate it. Thanks.

  • BeckBeck Registered User
    edited October 2010
    I actually felt very similar to you, and still do, sometimes. I was put on Ciprolex a few weeks ago, and it's like I'm a real, human person. And far less at the mercy of my emotions. Opening up and talking to people about how I feel is so much easier now, and meeting people/making friends is a fucking blast. I know this sounds weird, but it's likely your brain chemistry that's all fucked up, rather than you.

    Mine was messed up by a chronic pain disorder I still suffer from. It kept serotonin from being released correctly, so I always felt depressed. I mean, suicidal, depressed, and talking to anybody about it came at great embarrassment. I was unable to connect with anybody about it. Eventually I just told my doctor about it, and he told me about brain chemistry, pain, and the interactions between them. That's not to say pain is required for unhealthy brain chemistry, (your brain chemistry could be screwed up because there isn't enough sunlight, and your D-vitamin is low. ) some people are simply more fragile than others. You're probably just really sensitive. I am, too.

    You owe it to yourself to talk to your doctor. If you can have a better life, and you can expose your real self, you have to see if it's there. And it will be. It just can't come through when chemistry won't allow it. Please call and make an appointment.

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  • ceresceres Just your problem OooModerator mod
    edited October 2010
    Most are professional enough that they aren't going to belittle you pretty much no matter what. If you see someone who does, drop them like they're hot and go find someone else, because that's not the norm.

    If you are very concerned about your mental state, you should go and see a mental health professional, just like how if you were very concerned about a persistent pain in your chest I would hope you would find a specialist.

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  • Big Red TieBig Red Tie a crucified man can't be attached to anything elseRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Solar wrote: »
    As far as the confidence goes, it's fucking wierd. I can speak in front of people with no real problem, put me in a room full of people I don't know and I can mingle or chat or whatever, in fact when it comes to speaking to new people I am pretty good at that.

    But I never actually get further than that. This actually might be me not caring enough. I can't open myself up. As for the girl I want emotional closeness (I do, I really do, I want to be with her) but at the same time I don't. I can't really explain why. I find myself wanting the closeness but I can't understand why someone would want to be close to me. I am not so great looking, I am not a cool guy, I am not funny, I am not that clever, I have no real future right now that I can see, but I can handle all that by myself, handle just being me, it's OK, not everyone is special and I should be grateful that life is not hard for me. I just don't see anyone wanting to be with me.

    I want to see someone just to talk about this, but really I don't know if it's worth trying, if it will actually change anything. I'm twenty one and I have never had a girlfriend. I am fucking twenty one and I have never been able to connect with someone in that way. I think it's just me. I want to talk to someone about this but at the same time I have this wierd thing where I don't. I re-read this post right now and I feel like such a fucking drama queen.

    Thanks for the responses guys, seriously, I appreciate it. Thanks.

    schizoid personality disorder?

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    I don't think it's anything like that. I don't feel crazy (though I suppose I wouldn't), I just feel alternately miserable and jumpy. Jumpy is the right word because it's not an excited, happy I can't control myself type thing feeling it's more an on edge, speaking fast, making stupid jokes that I know aren't funny type thing. And then I have the whole emotional connection problem type thing.

    You know, I have never talked about this to anyone before. The last time I even said to someone that I was upset was back when I was about ten and I was bullied at school, but since then I have never actually talked about how I feel as a person, and especially not about the emotional stuff like above. It;s kind of funny really, I have never met any of you in person and you know probably more about how I feel about myself than my family or friends do. Is that fucked up? I think it might be a little.

    Again, thank you for the responses. It took a long time and a lot of self-persuasion for me to actually decide to post this thread, and I think it was worth it. Thank you.

  • Big Red TieBig Red Tie a crucified man can't be attached to anything elseRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    spd ≠ crazy?

    but anyway, yeah talking about it even on the internet is probably a good thing
    should probably see someone though

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    spd ≠ crazy?

    but anyway, yeah talking about it even on the internet is probably a good thing
    should probably see someone though

    I did not know what it was, assmued it was like Schizophrenia. I guess it's not then.

  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Fuck I need to talk to somone about this. I do not want to be like this.

    EDIT: Fucking hell but I don't want to. Why don't I want to.

  • BeckBeck Registered User
    edited October 2010
    Solar wrote: »
    As far as the confidence goes, it's fucking wierd. I can speak in front of people with no real problem, put me in a room full of people I don't know and I can mingle or chat or whatever, in fact when it comes to speaking to new people I am pretty good at that.

    But I never actually get further than that. This actually might be me not caring enough. I can't open myself up. As for the girl I want emotional closeness (I do, I really do, I want to be with her) but at the same time I don't. I can't really explain why. I find myself wanting the closeness but I can't understand why someone would want to be close to me. I am not so great looking, I am not a cool guy, I am not funny, I am not that clever, I have no real future right now that I can see, but I can handle all that by myself, handle just being me, it's OK, not everyone is special and I should be grateful that life is not hard for me. I just don't see anyone wanting to be with me.

    I want to see someone just to talk about this, but really I don't know if it's worth trying, if it will actually change anything. I'm twenty one and I have never had a girlfriend. I am fucking twenty one and I have never been able to connect with someone in that way. I think it's just me. I want to talk to someone about this but at the same time I have this wierd thing where I don't. I re-read this post right now and I feel like such a fucking drama queen.

    Thanks for the responses guys, seriously, I appreciate it. Thanks.

    schizoid personality disorder?

    Sounds much more likely to be Social Anxiety Disorder, to me.

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  • ceresceres Just your problem OooModerator mod
    edited October 2010
    Solar wrote: »
    Fuck I need to talk to somone about this. I do not want to be like this.

    EDIT: Fucking hell but I don't want to. Why don't I want to.

    If I had to guess it's because you don't want to be the guy that needs to. Do you think any less of others who need to? If not, don't be so hard on yourself. If so, why?

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    ceres wrote: »
    Solar wrote: »
    Fuck I need to talk to somone about this. I do not want to be like this.

    EDIT: Fucking hell but I don't want to. Why don't I want to.

    If I had to guess it's because you don't want to be the guy that needs to. Do you think any less of others who need to? If not, don't be so hard on yourself. If so, why?

    I don't think less of others for going to see someone. Feeling like I do means that I have sympathy for these people, even if I don't like it when somebody complains over nothing. And maybe it is sort of because I don't want to be the guy that needs to, but really I don't know why. I want to see them, rationally I want to see someone because I want to talk about this and because I want to change things. I don't like this.

    But at the same time I don't want to go. I can't say why but it's there. Maybe I'd called it apathy, I want to go but I won't, I'll just sit there, that kind of thing, but apathy isn't it.

    It's like, thinking me wants to go but unthinking me doesn't. For some reason which I can't get. In the same way that when I'm down thinking me doesn't know why but unthinking me is still fucking miserable. I don't get it but I feel it.

    You know what I feel right now? That I'm wasting the time of everyone posting in this thread. That this is all stupid and I should just get over myself, I'm fine and just blowing everything out of proportion. But I don't think I am fine. Rationally, I don't think that.

  • The Lovely BastardThe Lovely Bastard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    look chances are if you have to ask, the answer is yes

  • ZombiemamboZombiemambo Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Sounds very much like bipolar disorder. It's treatable. Go see a psychiatrist, it's not an uncommon disorder (plus you should go anyway, as it could be other things).

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  • FalloutFallout GIRL'S DAY EVERY DAYRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    look chances are if you have to ask, the answer is yes

    bingo

    stop rationalizing in circles, you're just going to keep yourself in this comfortable state of discomfort where you don't have to actually take risks

    pick up the phone and get help for yourself

    i am not kidding, go take some sort of action towards this right now

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Fallout wrote: »
    look chances are if you have to ask, the answer is yes

    bingo

    stop rationalizing in circles, you're just going to keep yourself in this comfortable state of discomfort where you don't have to actually take risks

    pick up the phone and get help for yourself

    i am not kidding, go take some sort of action towards this right now

    I can't. I got the web address of my university's counselling service open right now. They have an e-mail address and I can't send them an e-mail. I can't bring myself to do it. I mean, what if I am right and it is nothing? I take a free session and get told that shit is OK and that I have to deal with it. If it turns out to be something I can get some form of help. There is no downside, there is no downside whatsoever in the slightest. A normal person should be able to choose to do this even if they felt fine. But I'm sitting here at the fucking computer and I'm staring at the screen and I just can't do it. I already posted this thread and I feel like a crazy person for doing that. I can't take this next step now.

  • ceresceres Just your problem OooModerator mod
    edited October 2010
    Well it took me forever to do it myself, but I'm kinda lazy. That in combination with various other issues meant it was a pretty long time before I walked into the center. I was never kidding myself on that point though. When it comes down to it I'm pretty honest with myself.

    At this point you're going to do it or you aren't. You're going to be the guy who recognizes the problem and breaks the cycle, or you're going to be the guy stuck in the cycle.

    It's a process, not by any means an overnight thing. It's pretty clear to everyone, including you, what you need to do. You have confirmation that this is what you should do in the form of nearly unanimous agreement in this thread, but we can't go to your house and do it for you, so the rest is pretty much up to you. I understand your frustration with yourself, but you are really, truly the only person who can put yourself on the road to fixing it.

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    I just sent a request for an appointment. I feel fucked up.

    Thank you all for the help. I really, really appreciate it.

  • SentrySentry Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Sounds very much like bipolar disorder. It's treatable. Go see a psychiatrist, it's not an uncommon disorder (plus you should go anyway, as it could be other things).

    Actually, it sounds nothing like bipolar disorder, excpet that he has highs and lows, just like every other person on the planet.

    To echo everyone else though, just do it. The first appointment will be the hardest one, everything after is just you getting better. Rip off the bandaid man and go.

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  • ZombiemamboZombiemambo Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Sentry wrote: »
    Sounds very much like bipolar disorder. It's treatable. Go see a psychiatrist, it's not an uncommon disorder (plus you should go anyway, as it could be other things).

    Actually, it sounds nothing like bipolar disorder, excpet that he has highs and lows, just like every other person on the planet.

    To echo everyone else though, just do it. The first appointment will be the hardest one, everything after is just you getting better. Rip off the bandaid man and go.

    People don't swing wildly from highs to lows. I'm not a doctor, but one of my best friends has bipolar disorder and he experiences similar symptoms.

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  • ceresceres Just your problem OooModerator mod
    edited October 2010
    Glad to hear it, Solar.

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  • wogiwogi Registered User
    edited October 2010
    It can only help man. First one's the toughest, once you get to know your doc it gets a lot easier, and shitballs if it doesn't feel so good just to talk to these people. Just knowing what it is, and that there's a name for it really helps like you wouldn't believe.

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  • ceresceres Just your problem OooModerator mod
    edited October 2010
    That is true. The first one really is the toughest, and it's awkward because you're laying all this shit down for someone you don't know. You'll know pretty quickly if it's definitely not going to work out with that particular person, but otherwise my advice is to give it three sessions, and see what happens.

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  • NappuccinoNappuccino Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Sentry wrote: »
    Sounds very much like bipolar disorder. It's treatable. Go see a psychiatrist, it's not an uncommon disorder (plus you should go anyway, as it could be other things).

    Actually, it sounds nothing like bipolar disorder, excpet that he has highs and lows, just like every other person on the planet.

    To echo everyone else though, just do it. The first appointment will be the hardest one, everything after is just you getting better. Rip off the bandaid man and go.

    People don't swing wildly from highs to lows. I'm not a doctor, but one of my best friends has bipolar disorder and he experiences similar symptoms.

    And there are lots of disorders and other issues that exist. None of us are in a place to say "this is that" but we are in a place to say "Go see a professional."

    thankfully Solar has done that and I hope everything goes well.

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  • FeatherBladeFeatherBlade Registered User
    edited October 2010
    The nice thing about university counseling centers is that they are frequently staffed by psychology graduate students. This, in my opinion, means that they are both motivated to help you, but not so sure of themselves that they would be dismissive of your problems.

    Whether it turns out to be a medical problem or not, it's really helpful to have a non-judgemental listener who can help you hear what you are saying. It's not a waste of time, either yours or theirs: you need the listener, they need the practice listening ^_^. So, in reality, you going to get counseling is beneficial for both you and the counselor.

    Good on you for making an appointment.
    Sentry wrote: »
    Sounds very much like bipolar disorder. It's treatable. Go see a psychiatrist, it's not an uncommon disorder (plus you should go anyway, as it could be other things).

    Actually, it sounds nothing like bipolar disorder, excpet that he has highs and lows, just like every other person on the planet.

    To echo everyone else though, just do it. The first appointment will be the hardest one, everything after is just you getting better. Rip off the bandaid man and go.

    People don't swing wildly from highs to lows. I'm not a doctor, but one of my best friends has bipolar disorder and he experiences similar symptoms.

    Yes, they do. I did all the time as a child, until I learned to manage my emotional state. I am not, nor have I ever been bipolar.

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  • BeckBeck Registered User
    edited October 2010
    To be quite honest, OP, you seem pretty aware, and you'll know if you need medication, if it's sadness that deep, or a problem you could solve with therapy. Therapists and Psychologists are people I stand by, absolutely, but you may need to request medication yourself. If they're good they should be responsive and understanding. But if you don't ask, it could be a longer path to healing. Just something to consider, if you want to try out meetings first, you should, but don't be too passive. If you feel as though you're slipping away, speak up, like you did here.

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  • matthias00matthias00 Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Everyone I know that has made an appointment with the university counseling center has said that it's been one of the most stress-relieving experiences they've had.

    I'm glad you managed to make an appointment. It can be really difficult to make the first step with this sort of thing, I remember I had to basically hound one of my friends for a couple of months before they checked in with a counselor. There's a stigma associated with going to get counseling which can be hard to get over at first. It sounds like you've gotten over that, however, which is awesome.

    Bottom line is, you don't have to be diagnosed with anything in order to benefit from counseling. It's not like they only deal with "crazy" people, counselors are also generally pretty good listeners who can provide objective advice on situations you may need help with. If you don't like the way you feel, they are the people to talk to. Going to one does not automatically mean you have a disorder of any kind, but if you end up having one then they can also help you with that. Think of it this way - they are literally making their careers out of their ability to help people figure out their mental issues. They're probably pretty good at it.

    Good luck, and I hope your appointment goes well.

  • SwashbucklerXXSwashbucklerXX Swashbucklin' Canuck Fabulously Ford-Free TorontoRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Good on you for making that appointment! Don't worry about people in this thread who have tried to give you an armchair diagnosis, just know that the things you're experiencing are very common symptoms of a number of psych problems and that no professional is going to laugh at you (first and foremost because not judging their patients is their job, secondly because plenty of people with mild mood disorders/anxiety disorders/etc. have the same symptoms you do.)

    The great news is that there are very practical ways to help control your mood swings and take charge of your thought patterns, and counsellors/psychologists/psychiatrists are trained to help you access those things. You can best help your counsellor help you by being as straightforward and honest as possible when answering his/her questions. Remember that your brain is part of your body, and just like you'd see a doctor if something isn't right with your sinuses, it's absolutely the right thing to do to see a doctor when something isn't right with your moods and thought patterns.

    Good luck, and go go go to that appointment. :)

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  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    I got a response and a phone call from Student Welfare, I'm going to talk to a counsellor this afternoon.

    I'm pretty nervous! Silly really, but there it is.

  • SentrySentry Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Sentry wrote: »
    Sounds very much like bipolar disorder. It's treatable. Go see a psychiatrist, it's not an uncommon disorder (plus you should go anyway, as it could be other things).

    Actually, it sounds nothing like bipolar disorder, excpet that he has highs and lows, just like every other person on the planet.

    To echo everyone else though, just do it. The first appointment will be the hardest one, everything after is just you getting better. Rip off the bandaid man and go.

    People don't swing wildly from highs to lows. I'm not a doctor, but one of my best friends has bipolar disorder and he experiences similar symptoms.

    Bipolar disorder is characterized by extremes. That's its definition. It's not "I feel happy, now I feel sad" the highs and lows are HUGE and completely life disrupting. I don't know your friend, so I won't comment on his diagnosis, but I'm just stating what the classic definition of bi-polar is.

    To the OP though, excellent job, you've done half the hard part. The rest is just showing up. Honestly, you'd be amazed how much better you feel once you just start talking to someone. It really is cathartic.

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  • The Crowing OneThe Crowing One Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Sentry wrote: »
    Sentry wrote: »
    Sounds very much like bipolar disorder. It's treatable. Go see a psychiatrist, it's not an uncommon disorder (plus you should go anyway, as it could be other things).

    Actually, it sounds nothing like bipolar disorder, excpet that he has highs and lows, just like every other person on the planet.

    To echo everyone else though, just do it. The first appointment will be the hardest one, everything after is just you getting better. Rip off the bandaid man and go.

    People don't swing wildly from highs to lows. I'm not a doctor, but one of my best friends has bipolar disorder and he experiences similar symptoms.

    Bipolar disorder is characterized by extremes. That's its definition. It's not "I feel happy, now I feel sad" the highs and lows are HUGE and completely life disrupting. I don't know your friend, so I won't comment on his diagnosis, but I'm just stating what the classic definition of bi-polar is.

    To the OP though, excellent job, you've done half the hard part. The rest is just showing up. Honestly, you'd be amazed how much better you feel once you just start talking to someone. It really is cathartic.

    Bipolar is a rather specific diagnosis which can express itself in a variety of ways. It is also a pretty big deal, mental health-wise. The most common bar for diagnosis is having episodes of depression and mania that last more than three weeks.

    The real question is if these episodes of "mania" are actually mania. Tell-tale signs tend to include things like mild to severe delusional thinking and a distinct shift in personality.

    In any case, a professional is the right person to talk to and can diagnose and treat far better than any of us here.

    Solar: I think it has been mentioned, but don't feel at all poorly about "shopping around" for a therapist. I was at a mental health event yesterday where we got on the topic of finding a therapist and nearly every person in attendance spoke about how they had to go through X number of therapists before finding one that "fits". Many therapists will hold a first appointment for free, and a good number are willing to have a short phone conversation before making an appointment. I'm sure, now, you have no idea what you're looking for, but do not, in any way, feel as if you have to continue with a specific therapist. One of the most helpful things you can do is to recognize that you need certain things in an approach, and to act on those needs when choosing someone to talk to.

    Best of luck!

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  • ceresceres Just your problem OooModerator mod
    edited October 2010
    You don't need to be nervous. You've made a good start... now you just need to actually go.

    Also guys, let's shelf the bipolar/not bipolar thing for another time and forum. It's not useful to this thread.

    I've got my own life and I've got my own plans
    I hope you understand, and like the way that I am
    Dear Satan...
  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    So I went. It was really hard to explain what I felt was wrong but she helped in that regard, and she was also really sympathetic which was nice. I talked about all the stuff here plus some other things. It felt wierd to speak about things that I have never voiced before.

    At the end she asked me if it was OK for her to contact the university psychiatrist, arrange an appointment, which I agreed to. Basically she said it might be something which requires medical treatment (meds, I guess) or it might be something which can be talked through in counselling, but that the psychiatrist would be the best person to talk to, see what she thought, and then go from there.

    I don't know if I feel any better now, but it was certainly nice to have someone listen and care (not that you guys didn't, it's just different in person). That this is step on the path feels kind of positive, not really good but positive. I've been stuck in my own rut for as long as I can remember, and now I'm getting out of it, and moving forward. Hopefully I can keep on going from here and find something that makes a difference.

  • ceresceres Just your problem OooModerator mod
    edited October 2010
    I'm pretty proud of you, to be honest.

    I've got my own life and I've got my own plans
    I hope you understand, and like the way that I am
    Dear Satan...
  • SolarSolar Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    ceres wrote: »
    I'm pretty proud of you, to be honest.

    Thanks. I appreciate that.

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