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[Internet Dating] Travelling is really boring
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I'd be happy if I could even get a fifty word response from girls. Even if it were a rejection. Only messages I've rec'd in three months are nigerian scammers. I've gotten to be an expert at spotting them.
How so?
Most of the messages I get are if I am lucky people asking if I am really that tall or answers to the message I sent them
I do find it annoying and fruitless that some of the girls I am interested in live far away from me and have the limit on how far someone lives from them so I doubt they even see my message.
I doubt I can send a 50 word message but I have seen some rather long esseys to them about questions and so on
Last night, meet up with one girl. She drove two hours to meet me, we hung out all night. She stayed over, you can guess how that went. Then she drops me off to go see another girl I was getting coffee with(though I just said she was a friend, since we haven't done anything yet).
I meet girl two for a while, but have to leave after about an hour to get to work. She wants to hang out again, and we've both been pretty blunt about just wanting a FWB situation with each other.
Girl one is coming back, to see me at work, then hang out tonight again. Internet dating is pretty awesome.
Both girls are cute, nerdy, and into me. Although it was really awkward when I was getting coffee with girl two, and her parents happened to be there getting coffee. We decided to take a walk after that
But seriously, I've only ever met one girl on okcupid and we dated for a few months, but now that I am back on the market I think it's time to update my profile. I just added some new photos that hopefully won't scare the ladies away. Input, please? http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Male__Nurse/
Great question! I have no idea. The girl wanted to hang out, and I told her I wasn't mobile at the moment. So she offered to come out here. To be fair, it's closer to an hour, but traffic was bad.
And you want us to... congratulate you...?
If faith is just a silent tribute, mine is just a desperate act.
Young men have deep self confidence issues.
Its a fact!
Yeah, but the crazy hijinx of a sitcom didn't happen.
On a separate note, I had a wonderful date today with the art teacher, went from lunch until an hour ago, and I think things are going to have to go one way or the other with the other girl I'm seeing. I'm pretty intrigued by both. Guess it's a good problem to have, but it's still a problem. I'd like to be in a position to just casually date around, but I'm not sure my mind accomodates that (I don't really know how to not head straight for a relationship), and right now none of these women seem interested in anything other than that either.
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Hah. I actually think about things like this a lot lately. Partly due to most recent ex having issues with my issues, of having been deceived a lot in the past. Also how as I get older (I'm 29) the more likely it is that people I meet might have had past marriages, kids, maybe even dead spouses.
Well, I mean, hopefully just the one dead spouse, if any. More than that and I might have to wonder.
Needs more unique things and more humor. Read other guys profiles in your area and look at the competition. Most of them will fucking suck. Also need more pictures. Preferably charming ones.
I am 35 I met a bunch of girls last year that were getting past nasty marriages {one girl I did go out with had a rule about being a practice date? I really did not know what it was but she talked about it for a hour.} A lot of women who had childern in thier teens and so on. A lot of them had tons of baggage to start with it really bothered me they put it all out there to begin with.
Zython: Definitely need to get more personal. The only thing I'm getting from that is you're in school and you really like computers. But what else do you like, what makes you excited, what makes you happy, what do you want to do with your life. Think of how you would reply to your own profile. There's not much there for someone to reply to or ask questions about to start a conversation.
this the one
this is what I'm writing in latin on the family crest
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Heh, I debated someone on “it can’t be creepy if it was in a romantic comedy” angle a few weeks ago. :lol:
So, with my schedule as busy as it is, I'm pretty much extended to max capacity as far as meeting people in person, and things are going well with the girls I've been talking to. However I still am getting some messages from new, seemingly awesome girls as well as a few girls who are just getting back to me from weeks ago.
Is it bad practice to startup new conversations with new people when I'm already thouroughly booked up and probably not going to have any time for awhile? Part of me says that things could dry up and I'll wish I'd initiated a dialogue, the other part of me feels like I'm being deceptive...Like I'm lining up a backlog of women.
Finally, any thoughts on the quality of this picture would be appreciated. I think I look tired or medicated (it was taken early morning), but a friend of mine thought it was good.
It shocked me how many profiles there were like this when I first got on, and they had like one generic picture. I don't know how you message someone when they literally have no information about themselves. It's like approaching someone in person, but without anything to go on (not even a shared environment like the bus/mall/grocery store to comment on) I guess you could comment on OKC in general, but I'd assume they get more along the lines of "Hey what's up, how was your weekend" type stuff.
Damn what's your secret? Also, picture is fine. But you probably have better pictures, so no need to fill it up with ones that aren't high quality.
I can't seem to get any real responses or momentum building up. HALP.
Art is not an abstracted ideal, and does not exist for its own sake in its own world.
OKC is ACTION PACKED with single moms around my area.
You're profile looks really solid, it's well written and lots of unique and interesting stuff. As for my situation, I attribute it to pure numbers.. I messaged in gross amounts the first week I was on the site. Probably 60 or so girls. I lost track but was sending 5-10 short (specific, not generic) messages every day for awhile, just to see what happened. Out of those, I think 14 contacted me with some type of reply, contact with 6 of them dropped off and I successfully asked 4 of them out, out of those, 2 of them have promise with a third looking like a friend and the fourth being a bit too intense, but I'm giving her a shot.
Based on that I got a general reply rate of about 23%, a meaningful reply rate of 6%, and a promising reply rate of 3%. So yeah, things failed on me 97% of the time. Quantity equals quality perhaps, just keep trying, really it only takes one to work and you instantly forget about all the rest.
Art is not an abstracted ideal, and does not exist for its own sake in its own world.
But damn, I responded to some moronic post by a random guy. I knew I shouldn't have, but the stupid was so burning I had to get it out of my skull and now it doesn't look like there's a way for me to delete what I said. Hopefully it'll just mean that there's some douchebag in Las Vegas who hates me now and nothing more will come of it.
Oh god.
The area is like a hotbed of gay activity or something. I've had enough visitors from guys to give the numbers for my female visitors over the past three years some competition. Did not expect that, considering I live in the south. Very awesome.
Pretty much, honestly if I hadn't messaged these two particular girls, I'd have some serious self doubt and a very pessimistic attitude right now.
I'm also curious as to how real world numbers would compare. I've never really been one to approach unknown women, generally finding my dates in shared social circles and work/school, but I'm wondering if my success rate would be better with random approaches. I guess if things dry up I might have to start collecting data on that front :lol:
That's rather amusing.
Why, do you feel like you have to agree with your girlfriend?
I have hit on women generally outside of the areas I am familar with but asking the ones I know personally and work with has been a disastor I wish never to repeat
My profile in OKC is a mess so I think that is why I generally get more questions and looks than dates there
The problem I have with messaging and getting a reply is what now? then the usual well that was fun and the general bordem of doing it
It does not help I tend to strike up conversations with women there that live far away from me.
As for the baggage I know people have it just laying all out there on the first date is depressing and making me want to bolt at times
In my spare time, I like to stay indoors. It's kind of a niche thing, you've probably never heard of it.