I don't want to, if that's not obvious. Here's the issue. This girl is a bit.. off, I'll say. A very drama-seeking person. I wouldn't put it past her to tell my GF that we've slept together.
Now, normally this wouldn't be an issue (there's no evidence of any kind, no texts or what-have-you). Problem is, the last BF of my GF cheated on her and as such she's rather paranoid, I guess, about it. Obviously I don't blame her for this. However, I'm mortally afraid the girl will pull something (apparently it's happened before) and I'm not sure what to do. Should I pre-empt my GF that she might try it? Or is that suspicious in an of itself? Right now I'm just saying "I'll think about it" in a joking manner and praying she'll let it drop.
Also, it's a 'friend' of a friend so no, I didn't go seeking this girl out, I just happened to be in the same place as her. In a time when I'm struggling to find work and make ends meet, my GF means a whole lot to me and I'd very much like to keep things going smoothly. This really sucks.
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In the event that you are, in fact, interested-- break up with your girlfriend.
For your gf, that's slightly more tricky. Obviously, you don't want to upset her unnecessarily. Personally, I think I'd tell her, especially if this other girl is on the crazy side. Maybe something along the lines of "I can't believe the nerve of this bitch Girl Girlington. Why can't she find someone single? Unbelievable!" while displaying clear annoyance? That's what comes to me as that would be my reaction anyway. But how you phrase it would depend on your usual personality, and that of your gf.
Alternatively, you don't NEED to mention it, as nothing has happened. If other girl tries to start rumours, you deny them honestly. Being open at that point would be comforting. If your gf is skeptical, hand her your phone and go through it with her, show her your email history, all calmly and openly.
I sympathize with your gf, being cheated on leaves you with a lot of trust issues so just be honest and supportive regardless of which way you choose to deal with the situation.
Edit: I also told my friend to not invite me if they know she's there. I also, thankfully, made sure no one tells her my email and/or phone number. I pray to someone she doesn't find it, either.
Edit 2: I'm not interested at all, even if I was single.
Edit 3: Like I said, there is no evidence to support her and my friends would back me up. If I didn't know my GF had been cheated on, I wouldn't even give a shit what she said. Like, I'm not worried about appearing to be a bad guy cause I know I'm not, I just really, really, really don't want my GF to be hurt in any way that can be avoided.
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And honestly, if you don't tell her she will have every right to be pissed at you. So suck it up and talk to her about it.
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Hrm.. now how to go about it.
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And I will tell you from experience that you do not want to be in a long-term relationship with someone who is unable to take your word for something like this. Her past is really no excuse for her to freak out at you about this. Go to her, be honest, polite, and gentle -- if she doesn't take your word for it, it will only presage even bigger trouble down the road.
Paranoia, whether or not it is based on past experience, is not carte blanche to be unreasonable.
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I'm hoping it goes well. No reason to play it up either, just say some girl was flirting and hitting on me pretty heavily and didn't seem to get that I wasn't interested.
Edit: The sad thing is no one warned me about her. Like had I known I would've avoided her at all cost. I thought the flirting (it was REALLY overt) was just her joking around and when I realized she wasn't joking I was like.. balls.
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Edit: And once you've had the conversation, the next time you run into the girl, tell her NO and to leave you alone because you aren't into her, you're into your girlfriend. Once you've talked to your girlfriend she shouldn't be able to screw with the two of you.
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Tell your missus about this RFN, and then make the very next thing you do be telling Ms. Creepster to, and I mean this, get the fuck away, and stay the fuck away.
You can't pussy-foot around about things this serious, you need to lay it out clear as day.
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I would advise you to tell your girlfriend about the situation, and to frame it in a way that is both honest and clear in its explanation that you are in no way interested in becoming sexually or emotionally involved with this girl. If she finds about it before you tell her, your relationship is in serious danger. If you try to act like you did the absolute right thing and said "Uh no." and she finds out, your relationship is in serious danger. If you tell her the honest truth she may be upset with you, but will (should, hopefully) accept that it was a mistake, and that you were just trying to preserve a friendship and correct the inappropriate activity without causing offence to the offender. In this way she will hopefully understand that you were simply trying to avoid causing a high degree of social awkwardness and were seeking the most diplomatic solution to a difficult situation.
Still, what an annoying situation!
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Oh I did, which is why I was sure she was joking. She was so insistent I thought it had to be a joke. I wasn't meaning to leave myself open to anything. :P
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