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I don't want to be Ducky! (Friendship/Relationship)
Awesome right? I met her a couple of months ago and since then we clicked incredibly well. We have tons of stuff in common and seem to enjoy spending time with one another. She had a bf when I met her, so I went in wanting only a platonic relationship, something that's become harder as things go on.
This isn't helped by the fact that I become the "replacement bf". Basically do things with her that her bf doesn't want to do (which we both enjoy doing), or if she's having a bad day she'll come to me. Which is naturally part of being what a friend is about, but lately the things she been coming about is to complain about her current relationship. About how unhappy she is, or what thing her bf did this time that upset her. Then in the same convo she'll tell me how amazing I am. It just drives me crazy. Sometimes I want to just tell her to dump the guy but I don't.
I'm cognisant enough this isn't healthy, but I have no idea what to do about it. For the record I already do what I think most people are going to recommend. I get out plenty and meet a lot of new people (I run a Meetup) and I'm pretty social person with plenty of other male and female friends. Truth be told I get the feeling that I'm looking at as the non sexual entity by a lot of females around me, and generally I don't mind and I'm not bothered by this. There's just something about this particular friend that I can't get over.
I guess the obvious solution would be to withdraw for a while till I get this over right? I have no idea how I would do that without her noticing something was odd, which would just bring up this whole mess to the forefront.