My Dad used to send my Mum two letters a day. Which I thought was ridiculous at first, until I realised that it was just the equivalent of facebook chatting.
i was with carla for four years before we finally decided to bridge the gap, and now I live in ireland
i think it's foolish to say that one type of relationship is ''easier'' than the other because every relationship has its own obstacles to clear, no matter what your status is
that said, i think the challenges that we face now, that many couples who move in together and approach a wedding face, seem eminently more approachable?
cause i mean, they are real and concrete problems like leaving towels on the floor or whatever, they're not big ol' metaphyiscal "when will i see this person again, if something happens will i be able to get out there to be there for them, why haven't they responded to me in a day oh god'' issues that can plague long distance relationships of any kind
Last night (our anniversery) I made my girlfriend pasta even though I can't cook and made a cheesecake and presented her with a big fancy Omnibus of Sandman and she liked it a lot!
She sewed together a Link to the Past Quilt for me and I can't even begin to imagine the hours it took to make
i was with carla for four years before we finally decided to bridge the gap, and now I live in ireland
i think it's foolish to say that one type of relationship is ''easier'' than the other because every relationship has its own obstacles to clear, no matter what your status is
that said, i think the challenges that we face now, that many couples who move in together and approach a wedding face, seem eminently more approachable?
cause i mean, they are real and concrete problems like leaving towels on the floor or whatever, they're not big ol' metaphyiscal "when will i see this person again, if something happens will i be able to get out there to be there for them, why haven't they responded to me in a day oh god'' issues that can plague long distance relationships of any kind
How often did you see her (in person) before you moved there?
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Last night (our anniversery) I made my girlfriend pasta even though I can't cook and made a cheesecake and presented her with a big fancy Omnibus of Sandman and she liked it a lot!
She sewed together a Link to the Past Quilt for me and I can't even begin to imagine the hours it took to make
Marry her.
And it seems like all is dying, and would leave the world to mourn
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Ecco and I were together for two years before I moved to new Zealand. Two more years before we got engaged and we've been married about 18 months now.
We saw each other twice during our time apart. Both for a week each. And both times he flew to the states. We survived on Skype dates and emails.
It's not easy by a long shot, but they are totally doable.
Damn, two weeks in two years! The guy I'm dating (why do I have a complex about the word boyfriend??) is out of town for two weeks and I'm mopey about it, that certainly adds perspective.
Damn, two weeks in two years! The guy I'm dating (why do I have a complex about the word boyfriend??) is out of town for two weeks and I'm mopey about it, that certainly adds perspective.
We started dating in Nov 2009, he came over the first week in Jan 2010. And met my parents that same week. And then again for a week for PAX 2010 in seattle. I moved to New Zealand in Feb 2011.
But to be fair, we were on skype with one another practically every night, on video calls, for hours. Sometimes I'd fall asleep while Skype was still on and Ecco was on his computer or something playing a video game or programming.
Again, it's not for everybody, but it can work out if both parties are keen on it.
Skype dates help! not our normal every night together kind, but we would watch movies together (Ecco would either share his screen or point the webcam at the monitor), play video games together (or he'd play and I'd watch), or even cook together. Everything was a normal relationship for us. We were just on opposite sides of the world and anywhere from 18-20 hours time difference.
Oh my God, I'm totally at flower level with wrestle girl. This will totally raise the level of the relationship.
Boom! From some sort of sexual agreement to a boyfriend girlfriend type constellation in one bouquet and some fatty duck legs. Thanks @Liiya
But I'm leaving the country in two months to live out the plans I laid when everything was hopeless and I was rebuilding my life. Someone send help. I'm caught in a romantic comedy.
There were a couple of pigeons a'courting on a telegraph wire while I was mucking out stables this morning*, and I swear one of them did the old "pretend to yawn, stretch out and oh whoops, my wing is round your shoulder" thing.
*I hate doing this. Someone please come and do this for me.
self confidence means nothing in itself. let's be real, it's not like you're going to hold your own hand. you can be self confident all you want, but if you live somewhere secluded without any people, it's not going to have much use. positive affirmations from people(genuine ones, not the ones said just to make you feel better) can do wonders.
Becoming truly self-confident is one of my main goals, especially as someone with social anxiety. It would make getting through the day much easier, as well forming relationships with others (platonic or not).
In my experience you'll never truly overcome it; it'll never really go away. But you'll learn how to cope with it, and find ways of ensuring you can still function in social situations even if it makes you some measure of stressed.
The goal is to make sure your social interactions are more positive than they are negative. It can be a long haul (took me a decade to really get there and I still mess up a lot) but if you keep at it you'll get there.
As for what "it" is, that depends on what you are comfortable with and what works for you.
My goal should probably be having social interactions, period. :P I usually just avoid them if I can because I figure I'm going to be rejected or left out like I have been in the past. But I think it would be pretty cool to have at least one close friend to hang out with occasionally, so I'm definitely going to work on this!
Can't decide if this should go in the family thread or the love thread, but I think it's more relevant here because it's a "what would you guys prefer at the end of a relationship" sort of question.
My sister just broke up with her boyfriend of three/four years. Wyborn and I weren't really terrific friends with him or anything like that, but did see him every month or two. I don't know if we'll ever cross ways again (this breakup sounds messyish) but I was thinking of sending a quick e-mail or note to him saying well... hey, keep in touch, etc. He's a pretty decent guy.
Good idea? Bad idea? Would you hate getting something like that?
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Well, until we get Star Trek (tm) style teleportation beaming.
i was with carla for four years before we finally decided to bridge the gap, and now I live in ireland
i think it's foolish to say that one type of relationship is ''easier'' than the other because every relationship has its own obstacles to clear, no matter what your status is
that said, i think the challenges that we face now, that many couples who move in together and approach a wedding face, seem eminently more approachable?
cause i mean, they are real and concrete problems like leaving towels on the floor or whatever, they're not big ol' metaphyiscal "when will i see this person again, if something happens will i be able to get out there to be there for them, why haven't they responded to me in a day oh god'' issues that can plague long distance relationships of any kind
Last night (our anniversery) I made my girlfriend pasta even though I can't cook and made a cheesecake and presented her with a big fancy Omnibus of Sandman and she liked it a lot!
She sewed together a Link to the Past Quilt for me and I can't even begin to imagine the hours it took to make
Steam Me
How often did you see her (in person) before you moved there?
It was real goddamn nice yesterday!!!
Marry her.
We saw each other twice during our time apart. Both for a week each. And both times he flew to the states. We survived on Skype dates and emails.
It's not easy by a long shot, but they are totally doable.
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In some weird bizarre way I feel like I could only do LDRs on the extremes.
Either not seeing each other very often and not for long, or fairly frequently or for pretty long periods of time each visit.
Something in the middle would probably wind up making me very restless a lot of the time.
We started dating in Nov 2009, he came over the first week in Jan 2010. And met my parents that same week. And then again for a week for PAX 2010 in seattle. I moved to New Zealand in Feb 2011.
But to be fair, we were on skype with one another practically every night, on video calls, for hours. Sometimes I'd fall asleep while Skype was still on and Ecco was on his computer or something playing a video game or programming.
Again, it's not for everybody, but it can work out if both parties are keen on it.
Skype dates help! not our normal every night together kind, but we would watch movies together (Ecco would either share his screen or point the webcam at the monitor), play video games together (or he'd play and I'd watch), or even cook together. Everything was a normal relationship for us. We were just on opposite sides of the world and anywhere from 18-20 hours time difference.
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Boom! From some sort of sexual agreement to a boyfriend girlfriend type constellation in one bouquet and some fatty duck legs. Thanks @Liiya
But I'm leaving the country in two months to live out the plans I laid when everything was hopeless and I was rebuilding my life. Someone send help. I'm caught in a romantic comedy.
I just wanted you to know, you don't need to wear make-up for me, I'm not like those other girls, I think you're beautiful the way you are.
e:(langly gave me this lovely hat)
I like your stylish trenchcoat as well. Very Matrix-y!
You may not be Neo, but you are The One in our hearts.
*I hate doing this. Someone please come and do this for me.
If so you've already proven yourself wrong
If not, what would it take for you to be?
http://www.audioentropy.com/
The goal is to make sure your social interactions are more positive than they are negative. It can be a long haul (took me a decade to really get there and I still mess up a lot) but if you keep at it you'll get there.
As for what "it" is, that depends on what you are comfortable with and what works for you.
http://www.audioentropy.com/
please hang in there
My sister just broke up with her boyfriend of three/four years. Wyborn and I weren't really terrific friends with him or anything like that, but did see him every month or two. I don't know if we'll ever cross ways again (this breakup sounds messyish) but I was thinking of sending a quick e-mail or note to him saying well... hey, keep in touch, etc. He's a pretty decent guy.
Good idea? Bad idea? Would you hate getting something like that?
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It's a nice thought but
Nah I wouldn't
would your sister be mad?
do you care?