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I do(and the gf agrees) like the hand over the mouth as an impromptu gag fun.
If you're not adverse to a little bite now and then I find a nibblein an unexpected spy like the shoulder or leg works pretty nicely too.
I was at her families house and we were watching a movie, I was lying on the couch and she had her head in my lap and her two sisters were on the couch to the side. It was on an angle so that they couldn't see her directly but could see my head. Thankfully it was dark but my girlfriend started to give me head, damn was it hard to keep my mouth shut.
That's the most succinct way I've ever heard that phrased.
Rough sex is really more about the psychology of the individual more than any physical acts, really. It's not so much about causing discomfort or pain as it is about pushing your partner's kink buttons. Like if I'm tied to the bedposts, what's turning me on isn't the discomfort from my wrists being bound, but the feeling of helplessness. For this kind of stuff it is absolutely vital to have complete trust between the partners. The idea is to strike a balance between a hint of danger and the feeling of security and intimacy with your partner.
Hey baby, wanna share some ideas?
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Not only that, but using a rose as a gag. That's hardcore.
Lets just let him have his views then. If he wants to let his girl know that he had an enjoyable bed romp by saying "lady, this bed romp was enjoyable" let him do just that.
I'll just stick to my "ung ung ooouuuhhhhhhhrrrrrrrrrgggg..........phew"
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One last hurrah, or mixed signal buffet?
Mixed signal buffet. Avoid. Unless your break up went amazingly well.
Both!
I get all tangled in the whole sex/love/relationship thing but for some people sex is not so tangled up in the rest.
Neither? I guess I've never been in that situation (the sex, not the breaking up) before, so I can't say with certainty, but just because your relationship is formally over doesn't mean you stop having feelings for or stop being attracted to each other. Emotions don't stop on a dime that way. So it's not really so much mixed signals as mixed feelings, which are completely natural and predictable. And to call it one last hurrah makes it seem sort of... casual and inconsequential, which isn't really how I personally feel about sex.
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Ah, the wisdom of the Admiral.
Oh man, that made me laugh right out loud in my office.
See, just more proof that it can be very different for different people. Someone else might see the hand-on-neck thing as mild but the gag thing as a bit much.
I would say that someone's suggestion of an over-the-knee spanking to the guy asking how to get started with "rough sex" might be a bit much as well. A little spanking in the midst other things without making a big production of it, to see if she likes it, would probably be a better idea at first. Wouldn't want to be showing up with candles and a ball gag if all she wants is some hair-pulling and fingertip-shaped bruises the next day.
Re: Post-breakup sex. I think it depends on your emotional state and the nature of the breakup. If you're the sort who has casual sex and doesn't get mixed up over it, and the breakup wasn't a horrible wreck, it could be fine. But more people would probably be left hurt or confused by the proceedings which would off-set any positive side.
First, spanking someone can be pretty awkward from a lot of positions. Doing it in the midst of other things can be difficult, and it's also easy to break a rhythm you've got going if you're not used to it.
Second, making a production of it is part of the point. Bending a girl over your knee has a pretty specific connotations. If you take a little time about getting to the actual spanking, you'll be able to tell whether she likes the idea or not before you even lay a hand on her. If she does, some anticipation will make her hotter. If she doesn't, you can let her up and try something else, without dealing with "I can't believe you HIT me" in the middle of other things.
Third, he obviously has some reservations about getting rough. It is my prediction that he will find those reservations much less compelling when he has her bent over and wriggling. It's damn sexy.
I think the points you are making apply more to yourself. I don't feel the same way at all, and I would be surprised if the couple in question felt the same as either of us. How people respond to certain actions depends way too heavily in their personal psychology. I don't believe that any explicit advice from people who don't know them at all can be at all useful. The most we can do is give him ideas and fuel his imagination. In the end, he should decide how to fulfill his girl's request by talking to her and asking what she likes, not what a bunch of horny internet people said.
But at the same time, there's nothing wrong with making suggestions, or sharing "the following has been my experience" as long as it's pretty clear you're speaking anecdotally.
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But it is damn sexy
Then you, sir, are a gentleman and a master debater.
Actually spanking someone as if they were a toddler puts you more into sub/dom territory, as the position is, well, it's only used for spanking kids because they're small, lightweight, and you can hold them still. Probaby not a good first step to see if someone likes their ass smacked.
Don't forget the hairbrush, paddle, crop and a half dozen other things. Lucite rods can be handy. Nice density, just a hint of spring to them. There can be more to spanking then open palm. But that does fall more into BDSM territory.
The one time I was the person to initiate the end to dating(wasn't even a relationship), I was offered one last romp. I declined, and I was a tad bit regretful, but it's not like one more time would do anything significant to help the longer term lack of sex.
Maybe you could have had a long term booty call partner, ever think of that?
I was pleasently surprised by the suggestions given, as to me the question was akin to asking:
So this clothing thing, can anybody help me out? No wait... I mean, dark clothing.
Where do you start? A bum smack to me seems ultra vanilla, but using something else, with a specific quality and construction... that definately heads back into the Naughty Zone. Its incredible how many personal differences the word 'rough' or 'kinky' has.
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Make sure you attach to a joist.
Well, to be honest, I was approaching it from the "starting out" area. No sense wasting a good riding crop to someone who won't like it.
A joist? Passionate people don't worry about structural issues, they want their lovemaking to bring down the house. Take your partner wall climbing and buy the equipment if you like it?
I limed this because this is how I feel about it...although it was extremely rough and good sex I felt like shit later. I did it again to but only twice D: I'm terrible
Also I had a rough sex that included a popsicle not to long ago. It was a lot of fun, and she really seemed to enjoy. She enjoyed the double penetration to, so I had a lot of fun
Hey, I just might order something for my SO from that. Thanks for the tip.