So we are in a (not surprising but) frustrating spot in the townhouse. My Uncle is letting us live there without paying rent to him, under the agreement that if the homeowner's association tells us we have to fix something on the outside of the house that we take care of it.
The problem is the inside of the house. The sink in the kitchen needs to be replaced, the basement needs electrical repair, (which isn't a big issue, but we have no light in the backyard because of it) and both toilets in the bathrooms need to be replaced sooner rather than later. This is not including the dishwasher that will probably need to be replaced in the next year if it decides to keep acting up or the fridge which is definitely old and a little worse for wear on the inside (ice machine doesn't work and the shelves are a little wonky and busted. The fence and deck are also very old and need to be replaced.
My uncle is paranoid schizophrenic who has only recently been taking his meds again. He is too paranoid to live on his own and is living with my parents. He wants to hold onto the townhouse, but refuses to actually set foot in there.
I want to help him take care of the place, but it's kind of difficult to make these updates when he doesn't want to make any decisions himself. I'm just worried that if we do replace things later he'll be upset even though he told us to do it and I don't want him to think that we're taking advantage of him if he decides to stop taking his medication again.
It has just really been stressing me out lately because I feel like the list of things is growing faster than we can take care of anything.