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Arranged Marriages
Bedigumx
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So for Christmas my dad decided to surprise me with a wife. Awesome
He realized I'm graduating in 3 semesters and am going to be working (auditing in minneapolis) full time. His and my mom's mentality is that I should be settled down before working full time in September of 2008. They are going to India in 6 weeks to get this marriage organized and whatnot. Dad went to medschool with the girl's mom so I guess we're like family friends, but I've never met her and probably won't until the wedding.
So SE++ I ask you, how should I kill myself exactly?
He realized I'm graduating in 3 semesters and am going to be working (auditing in minneapolis) full time. His and my mom's mentality is that I should be settled down before working full time in September of 2008. They are going to India in 6 weeks to get this marriage organized and whatnot. Dad went to medschool with the girl's mom so I guess we're like family friends, but I've never met her and probably won't until the wedding.
So SE++ I ask you, how should I kill myself exactly?
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I assume you live in the western world.
Legally, you can tell him to fornicate himself with the rough object of your chosing.
dunno ask tube
Minneapolis
sorry he's dead
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University of Iowa.
I know what you're thinking, but there are in fact minorities in Iowa
wait so how old are you
(In all seriousness, my aunt and uncle have friends that have an arranged marriage and it's working out fine for them)
I've never been to an Indian wedding before
Bwhahahahahahahahahaha!
Oh, I'm sorry; I just couldn't hold it in.
Seriously, you might get lucky. There's some good looking Indian women out there. Just pray that she doesn't end up a castrating bitch.
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I mean it is pretty dang simple
no he should probably kill himself i mean right guys
Oh man
The only thing he could have gone for that is slightly lower on the chain is actuary.
no sir i do not want a mystery wife no thank you
It sounds stupid yea, but me saying no basically makes my family look like total douchebags in my parents' home areas. I told my dad I didn't want to do it and he was like "Dude if you complain, it's just going to be worse. Trust me on this one." Turns out he bitched about my mom when they first met/got married on the same day and marriage sucked for the first few months. It got better and they are together still (26 years).
Oh, and I'm gonna be 22 in june, meaning I'll graduate college in May of 08, turn 23, then get married, then start working.
However you sound like you don't want to go through with this but on the other hand do you really want to just tell your parents to go fuck themselves? You should try to communicate to your parents that although you respect the culture they grew up in, that's not who you are and you refuse to enter into an arranged marriage. Perhaps you can wrangle out a compromise that everyone will be happier with or maybe you don't want them involved at all in choosing a wife and want to date a while.
Although it will be frustrating and difficult, I believe in the long run you'll feel better about the whole situation and have more respect from your parents if you find a way to take a stand for what you want without uneccesarily insulting your parent's feelings.
Next thing I know we'll find out that I'm Indian
"We'll force it to work" isnt even good logic for the basis of a marriage
This rarely works well for the dude.
Especially with kids.
It's your life. But would you expect it of your son?
Its like that simpsons episode where apu and his wife have 8 babies born at the same time. Except with a cruel twist.