I actually did think about saying no. Problem is that in indian families, it brings hella shame to the family if I tell this girl's family to go fuck themselves.
It sounds stupid yea, but me saying no basically makes my family look like total douchebags in my parents' home areas. I told my dad I didn't want to do it and he was like "Dude if you complain, it's just going to be worse. Trust me on this one." Turns out he bitched about my mom when they first met/got married on the same day and marriage sucked for the first few months. It got better and they are together still (26 years).
Oh, and I'm gonna be 22 in june, meaning I'll graduate college in May of 08, turn 23, then get married, then start working.
It's your life. But would you expect it of your son?
He can't say for sure until he's gone through with it. Didn't he say his dad once thought it was bullshit as well?
There has to be at least some validity to this arrangement thing, since it's still around after such a long time. Besides, as far as I know, most of the brides are pretty hot.
You are an odd person. I am genuinely curious, do you just not care what happens to yourself in your life? Do you just not give a shit? I mean, I could see just living like that if thats how I was determinded to live, and then, maybe I could enjoy myself even if I got setup with a 600 pound cow. I mean, at least they cushy.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
You are an odd person. I am genuinely curious, do you just not care what happens to yourself in your life? Do you just not give a shit? I mean, I could see just living like that if thats how I was determinded to live, and then, maybe I could enjoy myself even if I got setup with a 600 pound cow. I mean, at least they cushy.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
Every time you post I think that you stole my WoW character's name but then I realize it's off by one letter.
You are an odd person. I am genuinely curious, do you just not care what happens to yourself in your life? Do you just not give a shit? I mean, I could see just living like that if thats how I was determinded to live, and then, maybe I could enjoy myself even if I got setup with a 600 pound cow. I mean, at least they cushy.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
Every time you post I think that you stole my WoW character's name but then I realize it's off by one letter.
So I farted a few minutes ago, and now my asshole feels itchy and a little crusty.......
This could be a problem.....
You are an odd person. I am genuinely curious, do you just not care what happens to yourself in your life? Do you just not give a shit? I mean, I could see just living like that if thats how I was determinded to live, and then, maybe I could enjoy myself even if I got setup with a 600 pound cow. I mean, at least they cushy.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
You know, there are these things called traditions... some are kooky, sure, but just because someone lives in the US doesn't mean their way of life is the same as everyone else's. :?
You are an odd person. I am genuinely curious, do you just not care what happens to yourself in your life? Do you just not give a shit? I mean, I could see just living like that if thats how I was determinded to live, and then, maybe I could enjoy myself even if I got setup with a 600 pound cow. I mean, at least they cushy.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
You need to go see a doctor because there is obviously something terribly wrong with your brain.
You are an odd person. I am genuinely curious, do you just not care what happens to yourself in your life? Do you just not give a shit? I mean, I could see just living like that if thats how I was determinded to live, and then, maybe I could enjoy myself even if I got setup with a 600 pound cow. I mean, at least they cushy.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
You know, there are these things called traditions... some are kooky, sure, but just because someone lives in the US doesn't mean their way of life is the same as everyone else's. :?
Yes, because if it's a tradition we should never question it ever.
Now lets calm down and go burn some fucking witches.
You are an odd person. I am genuinely curious, do you just not care what happens to yourself in your life? Do you just not give a shit? I mean, I could see just living like that if thats how I was determinded to live, and then, maybe I could enjoy myself even if I got setup with a 600 pound cow. I mean, at least they cushy.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
You know, there are these things called traditions... some are kooky, sure, but just because someone lives in the US doesn't mean their way of life is the same as everyone else's. :?
Yes, because if it's a tradition we should never question it ever.
Now lets calm down and go burn some fucking witches.
and then we can oppress some minorities! And women!
My best friend is going through hell with her parents' attempts at an arranged marriage, but hey, she's an Indian girl and has to come home every day and cook for her brother and wash his clothes.
this is fucking stupid what is wrong with you don't marry someone because your parents told you to what the fuck is wrong with you
I'm sure it doesn't apply to the OP, but Indian guys get so spoiled that most of them don't give a shit about free will or independence.
I know a couple who were arranged-married. They actually have a pretty healthy relationship by most suburban-American standards.
If this is going to be a really big bomb to set off on your parents to refuse you really only have one option and that is to go through the motions. Definitely get in contact with this young lady and get a game-plan together. See if she's a girl you wouldn't mind dating and just go with it for awhile. If you end up not working out you can divorce, as that is a perfectly acceptable action for an arranged marriage anyway. Either that or you can go to Vegas on your honeymoon and get it annulled without telling your folks. I think that'd actually be a really good idea.
Maybe she'll be a cool girl though, so give her a chance since you're in a very delicate situation. With any luck she'll be in the same mindframe as you. If not, worst-case scenario is you'll have a horrible few months and then a messy divorce and you can point at your parents and say "I went through with it, but the next time you pull this shit I will end you."
I find the practice of arranged marriages to be abbhorant, however you seem to hold your families honor and respect in high esteem. As such, it's extremely unlikely that you will tell them to fuck off.
However, have you thought of maybe compromising(sp)?
Maybe you can go out to India, meet this girl and get to know her before they do any official "dealings" with her family? Maybe you two will get along fine. Maybe not.
I dunno man. If I were you I'd tell my parents to fuck off, but I'm not you.
PS: Knob is right, if the bitch won't take it up the ass you have a right to cut off all her hair.
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There are these two Indian guys at my gym that pay $50 a month each to come in every two days and walk on the treadmill for 30 minutes, in their business casual work clothes.
so last time i went to india i found that recent arranged marriages involved hot ladies
which i already mentioned, but now im adding that i found out that other people had arranged marriages
i didnt think it was so common, and it wouldnt really work out
but these people are older relatives whove been married like 40 years and still going good
I hope to use this as an excuse one day to get out of a relationship. I wonder how someone would react if you told them you were breaking up with them because your arranged wife came of age and you had to leave the country because its illegal for a grown man to marry a 14 year old girl in the US.
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edited December 2006
Young girl says to her mom,
"How did you know that father was the one?"
Then mom just rolls her eyes
She says, "You'll find that special guy"
but to herself she cannot lie
She says, "I'm praying for the day I die
and they bury me"
for you "green card green card lol" people, a green card based on marriage to a U.S. citizen only grants you conditional permanent residence for two years, at which point BOTH spouses have to apply together to remove the conditions on PR.
in short, you have to stay married for at least two years after the foreign-type person applies for PR through their U.S. citizen spouse in order for the foreign-type person to be able to hold on to their green card for the long term.
i suppose if the marriage bombs, the two people could still agree to see things through until the conditions are removed, but then you're playing the marriage fraud game with the CIS. it's kinda like Russian Roulette, only with more Federal agent anal rape.
Being ultra-independent like in America isn't objectively the best culture. Theres pros and cons for both cultures.
And hey, you realize your arranged marriage is going to be a potent pick up line if you want to have fun before your wedding day, right? Just start talking to a girl, get her interested and then->
You: "You're a great person it was nice to meet you, but I have to get going tomorrow morning I'm picking out flowers. Oh, for what you say? I am having an arranged marriage against my will and I'll never be able to give another woman before my wife, my super intense special time happy stacked orgasms ever again. Oh, no it's ok. You don't have to come home with me. No, really. Awww alright but you better make me breakfast."
I don't think people arrange marriages between different castes. But, as I'm not an expert on Indian culture, I don't know.
Yeah, there's no way in hell that the parents won't have checked all of that with the help of a bunch of astrologers, gurus, etc. Just hope that the people your parents go to ask about compatibility are having a bitchy day and tell them that you two suck for each other ...
Being ultra-independent like in America isn't objectively the best culture. Theres pros and cons for both cultures.
And hey, you realize your arranged marriage is going to be a potent pick up line if you want to have fun before your wedding day, right? Just start talking to a girl, get her interested and then->
You: "You're a great person it was nice to meet you, but I have to get going tomorrow morning I'm picking out flowers. Oh, for what you say? I am having an arranged marriage against my will and I'll never be able to give another woman before my wife, my super intense special time happy stacked orgasms ever again. Oh, no it's ok. You don't have to come home with me. No, really. Awww alright but you better make me breakfast."
I support this plan whole-heartedly. I'm gonna go get a tan, dye my hair black and use this line right now. Why haven't I thought of this before!?
I don't think people arrange marriages between different castes. But, as I'm not an expert on Indian culture, I don't know.
Yeah, there's no way in hell that the parents won't have checked all of that with the help of a bunch of astrologers, gurus, etc. Just hope that the people your parents go to ask about compatibility are having a bitchy day and tell them that you two suck for each other ...
oh my god you two are so fucking dumb i want to gouge my eye out
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I don't think people arrange marriages between different castes. But, as I'm not an expert on Indian culture, I don't know.
Yeah, there's no way in hell that the parents won't have checked all of that with the help of a bunch of astrologers, gurus, etc. Just hope that the people your parents go to ask about compatibility are having a bitchy day and tell them that you two suck for each other ...
oh my god you two are so fucking dumb i want to gouge my eye out
Let me just state that modern Indians do not really practice the caste system anymore. Not since Ghandi. So that's one less thing to worry about.
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There has to be at least some validity to this arrangement thing, since it's still around after such a long time. Besides, as far as I know, most of the brides are pretty hot.
Is there anything that you would not do if someone told you to? Or is it only family that can tell you to do whatever you want?? Would you cut off your cock if they asked you to?
I am really curious, how the fuck does a person like you come about. You even live in the US!
So I farted a few minutes ago, and now my asshole feels itchy and a little crusty.......
This could be a problem.....
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you should just marry the girl
finding anyone else will be way harder
You know, there are these things called traditions... some are kooky, sure, but just because someone lives in the US doesn't mean their way of life is the same as everyone else's. :?
You need to go see a doctor because there is obviously something terribly wrong with your brain.
Yes, because if it's a tradition we should never question it ever.
Now lets calm down and go burn some fucking witches.
and then we can oppress some minorities! And women!
more like a large pet that can cook
If this is going to be a really big bomb to set off on your parents to refuse you really only have one option and that is to go through the motions. Definitely get in contact with this young lady and get a game-plan together. See if she's a girl you wouldn't mind dating and just go with it for awhile. If you end up not working out you can divorce, as that is a perfectly acceptable action for an arranged marriage anyway. Either that or you can go to Vegas on your honeymoon and get it annulled without telling your folks. I think that'd actually be a really good idea.
Maybe she'll be a cool girl though, so give her a chance since you're in a very delicate situation. With any luck she'll be in the same mindframe as you. If not, worst-case scenario is you'll have a horrible few months and then a messy divorce and you can point at your parents and say "I went through with it, but the next time you pull this shit I will end you."
you just made my day
However, have you thought of maybe compromising(sp)?
Maybe you can go out to India, meet this girl and get to know her before they do any official "dealings" with her family? Maybe you two will get along fine. Maybe not.
I dunno man. If I were you I'd tell my parents to fuck off, but I'm not you.
PS: Knob is right, if the bitch won't take it up the ass you have a right to cut off all her hair.
which i already mentioned, but now im adding that i found out that other people had arranged marriages
i didnt think it was so common, and it wouldnt really work out
but these people are older relatives whove been married like 40 years and still going good
Best post in this thread without a doubt
Even better if she knows to only speak when spoken to...like, never.
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"How did you know that father was the one?"
Then mom just rolls her eyes
She says, "You'll find that special guy"
but to herself she cannot lie
She says, "I'm praying for the day I die
and they bury me"
in short, you have to stay married for at least two years after the foreign-type person applies for PR through their U.S. citizen spouse in order for the foreign-type person to be able to hold on to their green card for the long term.
i suppose if the marriage bombs, the two people could still agree to see things through until the conditions are removed, but then you're playing the marriage fraud game with the CIS. it's kinda like Russian Roulette, only with more Federal agent anal rape.
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lol my culchure is betar than yers DURR DURR
I do feel bad for people who get arranged-married though. Yes, that's my verb for it.
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I don't think people arrange marriages between different castes. But, as I'm not an expert on Indian culture, I don't know.
And hey, you realize your arranged marriage is going to be a potent pick up line if you want to have fun before your wedding day, right? Just start talking to a girl, get her interested and then->
You: "You're a great person it was nice to meet you, but I have to get going tomorrow morning I'm picking out flowers. Oh, for what you say? I am having an arranged marriage against my will and I'll never be able to give another woman before my wife, my super intense special time happy stacked orgasms ever again. Oh, no it's ok. You don't have to come home with me. No, really. Awww alright but you better make me breakfast."
Yeah, there's no way in hell that the parents won't have checked all of that with the help of a bunch of astrologers, gurus, etc. Just hope that the people your parents go to ask about compatibility are having a bitchy day and tell them that you two suck for each other ...
Vishnu, Brahma and Shiva bless you Thundar.
oh my god you two are so fucking dumb i want to gouge my eye out
Let me just state that modern Indians do not really practice the caste system anymore. Not since Ghandi. So that's one less thing to worry about.