Also, when getting in a relationship, be aware of the signs of a fucking abusive relationship. Somehow, I went 2 years dating my ex not realizing that he was incredibly emotionally abusive. When he broke up with me (for a girl who just turned 16....he's 21, mind you), hindsight was pretty much immediately 20/20.
Just be careful, and aware. Seriously. What an awful 2 years.
Dorita, no they don't pay the bills. I had the option to sue her but at that point I just cut my losses.
Alyce, your completely right. I saw the signs at the beginning and just ignored them. You can usually judge the person's character and mental state pretty early on. If you ignore them you take your chances.
Dorita, no they don't pay the bills. I had the option to sue her but at that point I just cut my losses.
Alyce, your completely right. I saw the signs at the beginning and just ignored them. You can usually judge the person's character and mental state pretty early on. If you ignore them you take your chances.
Yeah, that's the thing. I was aware of a lot of the red flags in the beginning of the relationship; He was super awkward around my friends, didn't want me to go out and hang with people, would pick fights about ridiculous shit, and would say some pretty awful shit. But I stayed, and I don't know why. No fucking clue. for 2 years.
So seriously, having no relationship at all is better than having an abusive one.
Abusive people can exert an amazing amount of manipulative power over others, even unconsciously. I'm thankful I have an INCREDIBLY low tolerance for jerk behavior
I think in European courts if you made a case on false accusations they can make you pay the court bills but I depends on many variables like the court, judge and country in question.
Abusive people can exert an amazing amount of manipulative power over others, even unconsciously. I'm thankful I have an INCREDIBLY low tolerance for jerk behavior
I think that was my main problem. I'm a horrendously tolerant and laid back person, so I just kinda took it all.
Ah well, live and learn! Shit isn't happening again, though.
Well, I'm not really worried about this girl doing anything that goes beyond what she's done so far, angry texts, angry emails... then asking me out. It's just a fun story for me to tell. If things were to escalate, I'd have a serious and stern talk with her.
If not, I could always charm her off a cliff.
Edit: Ohhhh, she just texted me! "When are you leaving for Japan?"
Morning everyone!
I'm feeling better now. Wow jeez a really excellent conversation happened overnight! DAMN YOU TIME ZONES.
I wish i could contribute to this conversation somehow but I don't anything about anything. I dated this girl back in highschool for like 2 weeks before she broke up with me. Apparently I was the rebound. Then I dated this girl in college for 2 weeks. Apparently she only wanted a summer fling and never saw her again. And then I dated this girl in Art College for 2 weeks, but turns out I was thinking they were dates but they weren't and that she didnt find me attractive at all and totally radio-silenced me even though we were friends for since I was a kid. And then I dated this girl last year, and apparently she was only interested in free movie tickets.
No one warmed up to me though.
edit: I gotta quickly be understanding and not selfish okay:
MT: I didn't know so much crazy. I'm sorry man. I guess I have it pretty good and am not being crazy stalked.
Alyce: You are an awesome lady and you didnt deserve that. What the hell.
Guy: DUUUUDE SUCKAGE. I am so paranoid about litigation.
ikage: I am filled with rage and the fiery justice! You're such an awesome person with the art and everything. Also you know you say "art, you're always there for me" but then when you have artist block you'll be all like "baby, why you gotta make me hit you?"
Man having this thermometer readout on my computer case is a mixed blessing. On one hand I can see that "oh shit my computer just froze because it's running at a million degrees" and that let's me avoid doing stuff that leads to that. On the other hand, now I'm totally paranoid about my comp seizing up, so I keep an eye on it constantly and keep stopping videos I'm watching in the background until it cools back down, and it's annoying to constantly be starting and stopping shit. :x
Is it a desktop? You could try just keeping an open case. Worked for me when I had a desktop.
Yeah I guess I could do that, but then I'd be paranoid about spilling a glass of water right onto my motherboard.
The freezing only really happened when I played UT3 and when I watch like, 8 mythbusters eps in a row on instant Netflix, so I'm really just blowing the problem out of proportion.
But still! 121 DEGREES OH SHIT COOL DOWN YOU ASS
Celcius? If it's celcius you've got a huuuuge problem. If it's farenheit then what the fuck are you worried about 121 is not that hot for a CPU.
Man having this thermometer readout on my computer case is a mixed blessing. On one hand I can see that "oh shit my computer just froze because it's running at a million degrees" and that let's me avoid doing stuff that leads to that. On the other hand, now I'm totally paranoid about my comp seizing up, so I keep an eye on it constantly and keep stopping videos I'm watching in the background until it cools back down, and it's annoying to constantly be starting and stopping shit. :x
Is it a desktop? You could try just keeping an open case. Worked for me when I had a desktop.
Yeah I guess I could do that, but then I'd be paranoid about spilling a glass of water right onto my motherboard.
The freezing only really happened when I played UT3 and when I watch like, 8 mythbusters eps in a row on instant Netflix, so I'm really just blowing the problem out of proportion.
But still! 121 DEGREES OH SHIT COOL DOWN YOU ASS
Celcius? If it's celcius you've got a huuuuge problem. If it's farenheit then what the fuck are you worried about 121 is not that hot for a CPU.
Also clean out your case you dirty person.
Remember to take one of those cans of condensed air to your case once in a while. It's like a fur coat if you let it build up.
I'd rather not have crazoes clammering on to me. I'm in a risky situation because I emotionally vulnerable too.
I wonder if I would be a jerk to the main girl in my life. I mean i wouldn't purposefully be a jerk. But maybe I would be one. I'm afraid to be a bad boyfriend. Because girls don't deserve that. No one does.
Prox, you're an excellent person! At one point or another, in any relationship you're in, be it with a girl, your family or co-workers, you'll be a jerk. It is unavoidable. However, the important thing is not to remain a jerk. Once you've identified a problem, work hard to correct it.
You deserve someone wonderful in your life, and you'll get her, too! You have to look for her though, she wont fall out of the sky... but while you look, work on improving yourself. Fix those areas that can make you a better person.
I'm really happy with her. I'm gonna fly to Japan and meet her family this X-mas. I'm really nervous because they don't speak any English/Spanish. I don't think I know enough Japanese to last 2 weeks worth of conversation.
Araaaaa, watashi mo benkyousureba iin deshou! Nihon kara kaetta ato de, nihongo wo zenzen renshuushinakatta kara, heta ni natte shimaimashitaaaaaa DX Ima, kanji ga daitai kakenai de, bunpou to tango ga amari oboemasen...
it's a video that everyone on this forum should take the 5:40 minutes to watch
it discusses at length one of his epic fails and how it helped shaped the person he is today
it's okay to suck sometimes, it's okay to fail
there was a saying in horseback riding that used to freak me out and i scorned at it until it happened to me, it was "you're not a true rider till you fall off your horse"
the day i took a big fall off my horse, i was taking a 5 foot jump, and i actually landed on the jump on my stomach, pulling the whole thing down, knocking the wind out of me.
thankfully it only knocked the wind out of me.
but in that moment i realized just how dangerous the sport is, just how powerful those animals are, how the slightest twitch or annoyance on his part can cost me my life or the use of my legs.
i developed a respect for the animal above that which i already had because i knew the consequence of not respecting it, through failure.
and i fell off again a few more times due to stupid mistakes on my part, and it always sort of humbled and grounded me.
it's the same story for any sport/hobby/profession/relationship you care to fill in it's spot.
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Also, when getting in a relationship, be aware of the signs of a fucking abusive relationship. Somehow, I went 2 years dating my ex not realizing that he was incredibly emotionally abusive. When he broke up with me (for a girl who just turned 16....he's 21, mind you), hindsight was pretty much immediately 20/20.
Just be careful, and aware. Seriously. What an awful 2 years.
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Alyce, your completely right. I saw the signs at the beginning and just ignored them. You can usually judge the person's character and mental state pretty early on. If you ignore them you take your chances.
Yeah, that's the thing. I was aware of a lot of the red flags in the beginning of the relationship; He was super awkward around my friends, didn't want me to go out and hang with people, would pick fights about ridiculous shit, and would say some pretty awful shit. But I stayed, and I don't know why. No fucking clue. for 2 years.
So seriously, having no relationship at all is better than having an abusive one.
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Also it feels like they took a little bit of my soul.
In fact... do it to them now, before they even are your girlfriend/boyfriend.
That person who just caught your eye and smiled - CALL THE COPS!!! NOW!!! DO IT NOW!!!!!
I think that was my main problem. I'm a horrendously tolerant and laid back person, so I just kinda took it all.
Ah well, live and learn! Shit isn't happening again, though.
Fuck TOTP.
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If not, I could always charm her off a cliff.
Edit: Ohhhh, she just texted me! "When are you leaving for Japan?"
I'm feeling better now. Wow jeez a really excellent conversation happened overnight! DAMN YOU TIME ZONES.
I wish i could contribute to this conversation somehow but I don't anything about anything. I dated this girl back in highschool for like 2 weeks before she broke up with me. Apparently I was the rebound. Then I dated this girl in college for 2 weeks. Apparently she only wanted a summer fling and never saw her again. And then I dated this girl in Art College for 2 weeks, but turns out I was thinking they were dates but they weren't and that she didnt find me attractive at all and totally radio-silenced me even though we were friends for since I was a kid. And then I dated this girl last year, and apparently she was only interested in free movie tickets.
No one warmed up to me though.
edit: I gotta quickly be understanding and not selfish okay:
MT: I didn't know so much crazy. I'm sorry man. I guess I have it pretty good and am not being crazy stalked.
Alyce: You are an awesome lady and you didnt deserve that. What the hell.
Guy: DUUUUDE SUCKAGE. I am so paranoid about litigation.
ikage: I am filled with rage and the fiery justice! You're such an awesome person with the art and everything. Also you know you say "art, you're always there for me" but then when you have artist block you'll be all like "baby, why you gotta make me hit you?"
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Celcius? If it's celcius you've got a huuuuge problem. If it's farenheit then what the fuck are you worried about 121 is not that hot for a CPU.
Also clean out your case you dirty person.
Remember to take one of those cans of condensed air to your case once in a while. It's like a fur coat if you let it build up.
Or a fursuit.
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I wonder if I would be a jerk to the main girl in my life. I mean i wouldn't purposefully be a jerk. But maybe I would be one. I'm afraid to be a bad boyfriend. Because girls don't deserve that. No one does.
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You deserve someone wonderful in your life, and you'll get her, too! You have to look for her though, she wont fall out of the sky... but while you look, work on improving yourself. Fix those areas that can make you a better person.
Ganbatte, Prox!
Also I'm totally about fixing my flaws.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5sbUi3_w3w
I'm really happy with her. I'm gonna fly to Japan and meet her family this X-mas. I'm really nervous because they don't speak any English/Spanish. I don't think I know enough Japanese to last 2 weeks worth of conversation.
Also work doesn't allow youtube.
That is super awesome MT. TIME TO LEARN MORE JAPANESE. Are no Nihongo de benkyoshimasu!
Man MT is in a fairytale. I hope that I will meet someone super wonderful.
edit: Have you been practicing with your girlfriend?
Translate that sentence for me.
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"Failure Builds Character"
So if you don't want to build character, then avoid any chance to fail, which is what you seem to strive at in regards to women at least.
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throw caution to the winds
grab life by both testicles.
Only in this way can you become like me. A wealthy and successful bag-lady.
I have my own trolley.
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What If I would rather grab life by the both breasts?
Seeing as I'm a dude and with his own cardboard box to live in.
It's appropriate that he kind of looks like Calvin's dad with a beard.
Harder to hang onto. But go right ahead.
I know who'll be winning this hermaphroditic life tug-of-war.
Araaaaa, watashi mo benkyousureba iin deshou! Nihon kara kaetta ato de, nihongo wo zenzen renshuushinakatta kara, heta ni natte shimaimashitaaaaaa DX Ima, kanji ga daitai kakenai de, bunpou to tango ga amari oboemasen...
Me, breasts have a stronger attachment point.
it discusses at length one of his epic fails and how it helped shaped the person he is today
it's okay to suck sometimes, it's okay to fail
there was a saying in horseback riding that used to freak me out and i scorned at it until it happened to me, it was "you're not a true rider till you fall off your horse"
the day i took a big fall off my horse, i was taking a 5 foot jump, and i actually landed on the jump on my stomach, pulling the whole thing down, knocking the wind out of me.
thankfully it only knocked the wind out of me.
but in that moment i realized just how dangerous the sport is, just how powerful those animals are, how the slightest twitch or annoyance on his part can cost me my life or the use of my legs.
i developed a respect for the animal above that which i already had because i knew the consequence of not respecting it, through failure.
and i fell off again a few more times due to stupid mistakes on my part, and it always sort of humbled and grounded me.
it's the same story for any sport/hobby/profession/relationship you care to fill in it's spot.
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pleasure doing business with you all.
But hey if failure builds character I'm a regular Bugs Bunny over here.
or perhaps a ralph demaccio. or something
man i wish i knew more about things to create hilarious references.
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