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Smacky
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Here is my dilemma.
My godmothers husband, let's call him Bob, is a really bad freeloader.
Now, Bob would normally come over maybe once on the weekend with his wife, my godmother, but since Christmas Eve we've been seeing a lot more of Bob. He comes over, drinks excessively, then when the morning comes and his wife tries to get him to go home he just sits wherever the hell he is and says "no". Then to, I guess.. Enforce his actions he snatches my mothers cell phone and keeps it under his possession. I just want to know how to get him to finally leave, all he does is sit around, drink, cut into funds we barely have, and yell at everyone.
TL;DR- Guy has been living here for free too long. How do I get him the fuck out? Do I call authorities or beat the stupid out of him?
My godmothers husband, let's call him Bob, is a really bad freeloader.
Now, Bob would normally come over maybe once on the weekend with his wife, my godmother, but since Christmas Eve we've been seeing a lot more of Bob. He comes over, drinks excessively, then when the morning comes and his wife tries to get him to go home he just sits wherever the hell he is and says "no". Then to, I guess.. Enforce his actions he snatches my mothers cell phone and keeps it under his possession. I just want to know how to get him to finally leave, all he does is sit around, drink, cut into funds we barely have, and yell at everyone.
TL;DR- Guy has been living here for free too long. How do I get him the fuck out? Do I call authorities or beat the stupid out of him?
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If you arn't strait forward with him now he will probably do the same thing again, thinking he is got away with something.
He and I started arguing and I finally said "get the fuck out" and he said "there's no way you can bend me from this house". Then he went on to say how he loved my mom, he doesn't, she just treats him nicer than my godmother and he was brought up without ever getting, I guess disciplined so he'd rather live with my mom and not do anything than live with my godmother and have to work.
How sad that we almost had him out one night but then my mom was like "no no no no no no you can't go". Booze does dumb shit to people.
Whilst it is legal to use reasonable force (ie, manhandling - not "beating the stupid out") to eject a trespasser from your property, in no way would I reccomend that unless as an absolute last resort (ie, there's a real threat of violence to your family, etc). You get into a very grey legal area that no-one wants to spend time in court deciding (was the use of force justified? Does it constitute an assualt?), and chances are he's bigger, drunker and more dangerous than you are, and you want to spend time in hospital/off work even less. So, physical force is an all-round bad idea that you want to avoid as much as possible.
Your (mother's?) best course of action is to calmly tell him that he's no longer welcome on the property, and that he should leave. If he doesn't, tell him that you're calling the police, and then do so. However, depending on the situation/likelyhood of violence, you might be better off calling the police without telling him.
Or, alternatively, the next time he's at your door (and hopefully sober), you could just not let him in.
If this is a serious situation (and not just a case of a drunk guest overstaying his welcome) your mother could also consider taking out a restraining order against him.
But, the key thing to remember is that your saftey is more important than making a point.