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[Fun, cute and/or sexy ON] Enhancing my one month
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Some of you lads and ladies may remember a while ago that I became an item just under a month ago and, yes, it is that time where I turn to the Penny Arcade collective for more advice.
What sort of things I can do to enhance the weekend I have set up. We're staying at a hotel and we'll finally have time for several decibels above normal hanky panky so that's definitely a part, if not most, of what it will consist of. I'm trying to be somewhat on the frugal side, so anything that doesn't cost much amount'll probably shine extra sparkly to me.
Thus far, I have plans on getting her some flowers that will recall our very first romantic date and then dinner the night of the anniversary. Any other general suggestions would be awesome. And, if anyone is familiar with San Diego, we'll probably be in and around the Old Town area checking out things.
What sort of things I can do to enhance the weekend I have set up. We're staying at a hotel and we'll finally have time for several decibels above normal hanky panky so that's definitely a part, if not most, of what it will consist of. I'm trying to be somewhat on the frugal side, so anything that doesn't cost much amount'll probably shine extra sparkly to me.
Thus far, I have plans on getting her some flowers that will recall our very first romantic date and then dinner the night of the anniversary. Any other general suggestions would be awesome. And, if anyone is familiar with San Diego, we'll probably be in and around the Old Town area checking out things.
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Relax.
As far as this goes, if you guys are loud or intend to be loud having sex, you should see about asking for a corner room or requesting a room on a high floor. Anything to kind of get away from other rooms if you can manage.
Hotel rooms are a ton of fun, but it's not fun getting a call in the middle of things telling you to tone it down! Just a tip.
It's really awkward when people refer to a month dealie as an anniversary.
Agreed. And if your SO tries anything, just say hey good we made it to one month, lets go for two.
One month is really a very tiny number on the relationship scale but kudos for getting there. Just keep going with what you are doing.
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Not a "big" deal, no, but his lady will appreciate it. Celebrating that you've been lucky enough to have one month as being this female's significant other is extremely sweet and good for you.
But don't blow your whole special-day-wad in terms of all these things you want to set up -- the 'one year' is usually more important, so be sure to save some of your ideas for that!
I think for a one month, I would've just said a single rose with a tag that says "thank you for one wonderful month" or something equally thankful.
Never underestimate the power of a single rose - just make sure you know & get her favourite colour.
Oh, and personally, the random numbered landmark days are even more of a surprise (because she won't expect anything and can't get upset if you forget because how would she know?) -- like "happy 1 year and 59 days!" -- got that once, laughed really hard and felt totally radical.
speaking from the male perspective, doing stuff like 'happy third tuesday in august' takes a lot of stress off the bigger holidays. A lot of guys only ever do stuff for their girlfriend/wife/whoever when society reminds them to and as a result the expectations surrounding that one particular day can get a little big huge. Being consistent with gifts/dates/time spent talking makes mid-February a lot smaller a deal.
Dont just do stuff like this on "important" dates do it just cuz.
even if she says "it doesnt matter to me"
it does
even if she truly believes she does not want a lunaversarie/anniversary/valentines/otherevent gift
some part of her will feel like you dont care enough to do something
seriously guys, single flowers
so easy
super cheap
not a big deal for you or her
but it is tangible and says "hey guess what i love you, here is proof that i think of you when i am not standing right in front of you"
or yknow if you know something else she might love but is cheap / easy to obtain / you have the ability to obtain with little hardship
when we were just friends, my (now s/o) sent an art book of a game i loved to the company, had it signed by the company, and then brought it to me. he also, another time, he commissioned an AC'er to do 2 small paintings of my favourite video game characters for me.
IDEAS!
random and not stereotypical is also good, if you know what she likes well enough.
i could write a book on this crap. im moody, i know what i want, and for whatever reason all of the female friends i do have like to complain to me about men. shrug.
I used to bring my fiance flowers every month, and usually we'd go out for a nice dinner together. Nothing huge, but we definitely made it an event, albeit a fairly small one. For 6 months and for 1 year we stepped it up a bit.
As for the faux-'anniversary', I was informed this morning that it is my 6 month anniversary even though I have no idea what metric was used. Imma gonna roll with it because while it may be popular on this thread to slag on a fake anniversary that doesn't mean shit, the mere fact that SHE mentioned it means it's important to her and not a battle worth fighting.
Dammit, it's about time I went back down to San Diego.
With that said, a flower or something simple should honestly do the trick. Sounds to me that what you have planned so far should be enough. A hotel, some flowers, and spending time together is fine!
Basically, for a one month it should be "I'm rad, you're rad, and I think we should continue being rad together."
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Just don't bust out all the tricks, so when the 1-year comes around you'll have something left
The other day SO and I had our 3 year anniversary. Didn't get each other a thing. Acceptable excuses in the future for not doing anything (as long as it's discussed):
-We're poor as hell, I'll take you somewhere nice when I get my first paycheck.
-Slow dancing in the living room while singing each other a song.
-Anything handmade (well) or designed just for her, by you. We did this last year and it was a huge hit, and very special.
But I guess I might be a little over-excited since this is my first relationship, after all, but toning it down seems to be the consensus and you guys haven't steered me wrong, yet.
And I think I'll roll with the flower idea; maybe build on the first two flowers I gave her on our first romantic date. (Did I use the semicolon correctly there?)
I guess while we're on the subject of things to do for my SO, is taking her to Disneyland for her birthday, despite only being together for two months at that point, too much or just right?
If you live near by and won't need to stay overnight and it will be a day trip, it works.
Flowers is all I'd get her for your big "one month" anniversary. Its a nice, inexpensive present that shows that you care. Listen to everyone else though, tone it down; a month is not a big deal.
Disneyland for her birthday at 2 months is too much. Seriously, if you make a huge deal out of everything this early, you're going to burn yourself out.
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So you give her one flower for your one-month anniversary. You could personalize it by attaching a little note with your favorite memory so far, or maybe something you like about her, or something like that.
Two months come around, you do two flowers and two notes, etc., up until one year. You aren't going all out, but you are making it personal and cute. I would rather get one single blossom that is my favorite type of flower, than a dozen beautiful roses just because it's "what guys buy girls".
Now when you do your one-year anniversary, you can get her a dozen flowers and your anniversary doesn't have to be some over-the-top thing that just barely overshadows your wayyyy over-the-top every-one-month anniversaries.
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