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Romancing my lady on a budget
AlphaSnow
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H&A gave me helpful career advice, so I thought I'd see if it could help out with the love life too.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. Due to circumstances beyond our control we've had to live apart for the last few months. We try to see each other as often as possible, but with one thing and another, we haven't seen each other in over a month. This Friday, we'll be seeing each other again for a night and a day. We've formulated a rough plan of going out for a meal and a few drinks, catch a film, have another few drinks and then come back to my place for a few catchup round of sexings.
That sounds a bit boring to me. So I'd like to spring a few surprises on her to make the evening a bit more interesting. The trouble is I'm currently unemployed, so my usual approach to romance (throw money at it) isn't really viable here. I have a few ideas and would appreciate any additional suggestions.
1. Myself, I plan to look my best, wearing her favourite shirt of mine, her favourite aftershave, clean shaven and so on.
2. Give her a single rose when I meet her (considered a bunch of flowers, but since I'm meeting her straight off the train, I don't want to give her something unwieldy to carry around).
3. Spruce up my place a bit for her, the ideas I've had are fabric rose petals on the bed, scented candles (perhaps incense), massage (I've already picked up some oils I know she'd like) and a decent bottle of wine on ice with wine glasses on standby.
4. Have a few play lists set up. My music tastes are a bit blinkered as I tend to mostly listen to rock and metal. So beyond the standard Barry White, I'm at a loss of what music I should play, suggestions definitely appreciated here. I'm also toying with the idea of hooking the laptop up to the TV, and throwing together a custom visualization to go with the music for some additional ambiance.
5. Breakfast in bed the following morning, I'm not really sure how to handle this one. She doesn't like to eat until a couple of hours after waking up, but she loves her coffee first thing. I've thought about maybe making her something like a mochaccino? I don't drink coffee, so I'm not really sure what's available to me.
6. Give her a sentimental gift to take with her, I don't want to give her jewellery since she doesn't like to wear any. Perfume is a possibility, but I've given her that before. I thought maybe I could dust off my origami skills and fold some kind of arrangement for her, maybe with a photo of us as a centre piece.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. Due to circumstances beyond our control we've had to live apart for the last few months. We try to see each other as often as possible, but with one thing and another, we haven't seen each other in over a month. This Friday, we'll be seeing each other again for a night and a day. We've formulated a rough plan of going out for a meal and a few drinks, catch a film, have another few drinks and then come back to my place for a few catchup round of sexings.
That sounds a bit boring to me. So I'd like to spring a few surprises on her to make the evening a bit more interesting. The trouble is I'm currently unemployed, so my usual approach to romance (throw money at it) isn't really viable here. I have a few ideas and would appreciate any additional suggestions.
1. Myself, I plan to look my best, wearing her favourite shirt of mine, her favourite aftershave, clean shaven and so on.
2. Give her a single rose when I meet her (considered a bunch of flowers, but since I'm meeting her straight off the train, I don't want to give her something unwieldy to carry around).
3. Spruce up my place a bit for her, the ideas I've had are fabric rose petals on the bed, scented candles (perhaps incense), massage (I've already picked up some oils I know she'd like) and a decent bottle of wine on ice with wine glasses on standby.
4. Have a few play lists set up. My music tastes are a bit blinkered as I tend to mostly listen to rock and metal. So beyond the standard Barry White, I'm at a loss of what music I should play, suggestions definitely appreciated here. I'm also toying with the idea of hooking the laptop up to the TV, and throwing together a custom visualization to go with the music for some additional ambiance.
5. Breakfast in bed the following morning, I'm not really sure how to handle this one. She doesn't like to eat until a couple of hours after waking up, but she loves her coffee first thing. I've thought about maybe making her something like a mochaccino? I don't drink coffee, so I'm not really sure what's available to me.
6. Give her a sentimental gift to take with her, I don't want to give her jewellery since she doesn't like to wear any. Perfume is a possibility, but I've given her that before. I thought maybe I could dust off my origami skills and fold some kind of arrangement for her, maybe with a photo of us as a centre piece.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
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Music, well, what does she like? My guy and I usually listen to more rock and metal ourselves, but we have 'sleeping music' (mellow stuff) that includes a lot of Sarah McLachlan and David Usher, because we do both like their music as well
Coffee, well, does she really like stuff like mochaccino's? Or does she like her coffee simpler usually? I like my morning coffee strong but simple, though sometimes flavoured creamers can be rather nice (or now and then, some Bailey's).
The origami photoframe idea is quite possibly one of the sweetest ideas I've ever heard, so my vote is to definitely go for that if nothing else
Music wise...she tends to mostly listen to Rap and R&B. Having a quick peak into her music folder, she's got Akon, Eminem, Pink Floyd and 50 Cent. I know she likes some of my stuff as she'll happily listen to the Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Jimmy Eat World or Green Day. I also know she loves "I Had the Time of My Life" having indoctrinated herself with repeated viewings of Dirty Dancing from an early age.
When we were living together, I'd make her coffee before I left for work every morning on her request. That was just regular Nescafe (it had to be regular, she didn't like any other variety) with 2 sugars and milk. I know she likes Cappuccinos and Mochaccinos, as she always orders them when we're out. I'm just not certain if it'd be the sort of thing she'd like to drink first thing in the morning.
When the bf and I want to have a romantic night we pull out a bottle of sparkling wine, get some Lindt truffles and put on a movie and cuddle and relax. Sometimes we'll go crazy and light some candles even. That's about it, nothing too big.
Your ideas are gold, just remember, cliche does not equal bad. Cliche is cliche for a reason.
Your date plan sounds great. Personally I would go with the pick her up at the station (how long is the train ride anyways, that shit can be exhausting if its long) , home, backrubs, massage smooching etc, hot shower, get ready go for dinner (or if you dont suck at it, make a nice dinner at home for her) cuddle on the couch fire up some movies drink some wine then more bow chicka wow.
or, hilarious cool pink stains that result in showering together, which can make for even more fun
Uhm, nooooo. Surprise beard is not a good idea unless the lady in question has mentioned that she thinks you look sexy when you're all stubbly, or that she'd be interested in seeing what you look like with a beard.
OP, your own ideas seem lovely! I'd pick one or two simple, romantic things to do out of that list. You don't need to make a huge production unless she's the type of lady who lives for that sort of thing. Chances are, the small simple things will have great impact and make her all gooey, whereas huge gestures could make her wonder what the heck is up.