Ok, So I'm new to this whole internet dating thing, so would you guys go over my OKC profile and Plenty'O Fish profile as well and give me some pointers?
Ugh, this girl kept saying "literally." And I was thinking the whole time, you literally don't know how to use that word correctly.
Not as cute as her pictures, either. Damn.
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Munkus BeaverYou don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPAregular
edited May 2010
I'm lucky to get in a response a week.
It's anxiety inducing to go on OKC sometimes and fill out a response, and I've got a lot of work to do on top of that.
So yeah.
If someone doesn't respond it doesn't mean that they aren't interested.
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Looked very interesting at first but was actually only engaging to the completely hardcore who perform infinite combos with magfuckingneato?
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I'm starting to think that the casual nature of my gaming habit is crippling my love life. :P
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Munkus BeaverYou don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPAregular
edited May 2010
I often get comments about my state ranking in Super Smash Brothers Brawl.
If you're gonna do something, do it well
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A girl messaged me a couple of days ago and I didn't respond to her. She sent me another message today saying that she's "anxious to hear from me". While I appreciate the sentiment, it kind of weirds me out that you're messaging me again so quickly. I almost feel like I'm being too harsh on this girl I don't know. Haha.
So, bros and hos...a little help. A review of my profile would be very awesome. I realize it's a bit wordy and that may turn people off, but I didn't intend for it to be as long as it is and when I was done, I thought it was entertaining. Let me know what you think.
First off, RED ALERT re: that chick. If you decide to go forward, do so very carefully. Although it is entirely possible she's an online dating newbie and is just like "OMG I MESSAGED SOMEONE" so talk to her a little I guess?
Regarding your profile, ditch the first paragraph entirely. Secondly, ditch the second paragraph. You can make that entire explanation just a line in another paragraph, not another swamp of negativity. Ugh, no more Old Spice jokes.
Your whole intro feels out of sorts - it's an intro, not a list of stuff you should be going into later. Cut it down to the bare minimum, it's there to grab people's attention, not to tell your life story. There's a whole section based on your music movies and books, put that stuff there except for maybe a brief bit in your intro. Perhaps throw out the intro, start again by summarizing what is in your other sections?
Don't write lazy sections. Either make it interesting, funny, or cut the section. Nothing wrong with skipping a few if you just can't think of anything good to put there.
Seriously though, stop excusing yourself. It makes me think you're ashamed of your habits, and I'm just a dude reviewing your profile. Imagine how a girl is going to feel.
your smoking groomsman picture is your worst picture
don't make it your main one
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JeanHeartbroken papa bearGatineau, QuébecRegistered Userregular
edited May 2010
Ok so I had my first gay date yesterday.
I can sum it up in one word : BORING. Honestly I'd say it was the most boring date I ever had in my entire life.
I dont think either of us did anything wrong, we just dont click together IRL. I had more fun sitting by myself on a patio after the date, sippin on a beer and watchin people pass by. I'd say that's a pretty bad sign.
O well, no big deal.
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First off, RED ALERT re: that chick. If you decide to go forward, do so very carefully. Although it is entirely possible she's an online dating newbie and is just like "OMG I MESSAGED SOMEONE" so talk to her a little I guess?
Regarding your profile, ditch the first paragraph entirely. Secondly, ditch the second paragraph. You can make that entire explanation just a line in another paragraph, not another swamp of negativity. Ugh, no more Old Spice jokes.
Your whole intro feels out of sorts - it's an intro, not a list of stuff you should be going into later. Cut it down to the bare minimum, it's there to grab people's attention, not to tell your life story. There's a whole section based on your music movies and books, put that stuff there except for maybe a brief bit in your intro. Perhaps throw out the intro, start again by summarizing what is in your other sections?
Don't write lazy sections. Either make it interesting, funny, or cut the section. Nothing wrong with skipping a few if you just can't think of anything good to put there.
Seriously though, stop excusing yourself. It makes me think you're ashamed of your habits, and I'm just a dude reviewing your profile. Imagine how a girl is going to feel.
I'm not going forward with that girl at all. I never really intended to after the second message. On top of that, I was surfing around OKC last night and she sent me an IM. I ignored that am officially weirded out by her at this point. Too strong.
I get ditching the first paragraph. Done.
I get not doing the Old Spice thing. It's gone.
Fixing the intro isn't a bad idea.
Changed my profile picture.
I'm not sure where I'm "excusing myself", though. Besides maybe the paragraph about smoking, I think I talk myself up pretty well. Am I really being that self-deprecating?
Thanks for the help.
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First off, RED ALERT re: that chick. If you decide to go forward, do so very carefully. Although it is entirely possible she's an online dating newbie and is just like "OMG I MESSAGED SOMEONE" so talk to her a little I guess?
Regarding your profile, ditch the first paragraph entirely. Secondly, ditch the second paragraph. You can make that entire explanation just a line in another paragraph, not another swamp of negativity. Ugh, no more Old Spice jokes.
Your whole intro feels out of sorts - it's an intro, not a list of stuff you should be going into later. Cut it down to the bare minimum, it's there to grab people's attention, not to tell your life story. There's a whole section based on your music movies and books, put that stuff there except for maybe a brief bit in your intro. Perhaps throw out the intro, start again by summarizing what is in your other sections?
Don't write lazy sections. Either make it interesting, funny, or cut the section. Nothing wrong with skipping a few if you just can't think of anything good to put there.
Seriously though, stop excusing yourself. It makes me think you're ashamed of your habits, and I'm just a dude reviewing your profile. Imagine how a girl is going to feel.
I get ditching the first paragraph. Done.
I get not doing the Old Spice thing. It's gone.
Fixing the intro isn't a bad idea.
Changed my profile picture.
I'm not sure where I'm "excusing myself", though.
One example was your first paragraph, which you've already cut.
I probably need to figure out how to get an actual body shot again, considering how ginormous my nose looks when it's in the middle of the picture.
I've also been considering adding a short list of specific things I am interested in doing with potential dates.
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JeanHeartbroken papa bearGatineau, QuébecRegistered Userregular
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Just sent a short mail to the guy to say I'm not interested in going out with him but we could stay friends. Up to him.
Also the girliest guy ever sent me a wink. They're is more testosterone in the average girl than in this dude. I answered him just for the heck of it.
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well i've got a date of some kind to see iron man 2 on friday. imagine that! seems a nice dude. will let you all know if he's a crazy person.
i hope iron man 2 is as boss as i think it'll be, i'm seeing it at midnite on thursday anyway with a bunch of people. aha!
Be sure to stick your hand in the popcorn when he does all awkwardly.
when he does what all awkwardly??
You know, when you reach in for some popcorn, but he's reaching in at the same time, and your hands brush against each other, and you both pull back real fast and blush, and he says "oh sorry, go ahead" and you say "oh it's ok, you go", but then he hesitates, so you go in again, only he went in again too and your hands brush against each other again and you both laugh a little and them all of a sudden you're making out.
well i've got a date of some kind to see iron man 2 on friday. imagine that! seems a nice dude. will let you all know if he's a crazy person.
i hope iron man 2 is as boss as i think it'll be, i'm seeing it at midnite on thursday anyway with a bunch of people. aha!
Be sure to stick your hand in the popcorn when he does all awkwardly.
when he does what all awkwardly??
You know, when you reach in for some popcorn, but he's reaching in at the same time, and your hands brush against each other, and you both pull back real fast and blush, and he says "oh sorry, go ahead" and you say "oh it's ok, you go", but then he hesitates, so you go in again, only he went in again too and your hands brush against each other again and you both laugh a little and them all of a sudden you're making out.
..
on what planet does this kind of fuckery happen?!
Besides maybe the paragraph about smoking, I think I talk myself up pretty well. Am I really being that self-deprecating?
Thanks for the help.
Self-deprecating? I think you're talking yourself up a bit TOO much.
Saying "No" in the 'do you smoke' field while having that cigar picture, and saying you make over $1 million as a customer service jockey could raise a few red flags, as well.
well i've got a date of some kind to see iron man 2 on friday. imagine that! seems a nice dude. will let you all know if he's a crazy person.
i hope iron man 2 is as boss as i think it'll be, i'm seeing it at midnite on thursday anyway with a bunch of people. aha!
Be sure to stick your hand in the popcorn when he does all awkwardly.
when he does what all awkwardly??
You know, when you reach in for some popcorn, but he's reaching in at the same time, and your hands brush against each other, and you both pull back real fast and blush, and he says "oh sorry, go ahead" and you say "oh it's ok, you go", but then he hesitates, so you go in again, only he went in again too and your hands brush against each other again and you both laugh a little and them all of a sudden you're making out.
well i've got a date of some kind to see iron man 2 on friday. imagine that! seems a nice dude. will let you all know if he's a crazy person.
i hope iron man 2 is as boss as i think it'll be, i'm seeing it at midnite on thursday anyway with a bunch of people. aha!
Be sure to stick your hand in the popcorn when he does all awkwardly.
when he does what all awkwardly??
You know, when you reach in for some popcorn, but he's reaching in at the same time, and your hands brush against each other, and you both pull back real fast and blush, and he says "oh sorry, go ahead" and you say "oh it's ok, you go", but then he hesitates, so you go in again, only he went in again too and your hands brush against each other again and you both laugh a little and them all of a sudden you're making out.
Just a word of advice, when attempting to copy a text on a iphone, make sure it actually copies what you want, and doesn't paste something from 3 days ago
something that was not meant to be seen by the girl you like
seriously it blows
edit: totp, fuck. okcupid is pretty awesome, there are far more cool geeks and nerds than i thought
Besides maybe the paragraph about smoking, I think I talk myself up pretty well. Am I really being that self-deprecating?
Thanks for the help.
Self-deprecating? I think you're talking yourself up a bit TOO much.
Saying "No" in the 'do you smoke' field while having that cigar picture, and saying you make over $1 million as a customer service jockey could raise a few red flags, as well.
It's because I like the picture, not because I smoke on a regular basis, which has been explained.
And the second is obviously just a sense of humor thing. You either think it's funny or you don't. There are no "red flags" associated with such a thing.
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Perhaps someone can advise me on a somewhat more technical issue with OkCupid, before I bother completing my profile.
I live in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario. This happens to be basically right on the Canada/USA border, with only an international bridge separating me from Sault Ste. Marie, Michigan (forming "The Twin Soo's", for anyone that cares).
This charming arrangement is somewhat of a problem on Okcupid, as my "Local Matches" are producing a ton of people in the States, which is really not feasible in terms of any kind of relationship for me. Moreover I can't really tell if there really are only a scant few people in MY Sault Ste. Marie on OKC or if I'm just not seeing them.
Anyone know of a way to fix this? Like limiting matches to country or something? I've yet to find anything buried in the options. "Located near me" and "Within 25 miles" does not filter enough, it seems.
Just a word of advice, when attempting to copy a text on a iphone, make sure it actually copies what you want, and doesn't paste something from 3 days ago
something that was not meant to be seen by the girl you like
seriously it blows
edit: totp, fuck. okcupid is pretty awesome, there are far more cool geeks and nerds than i thought
man, my iPhone does the same thing. it's so bizarre and always happens at THE worst times.
Perhaps someone can advise me on a somewhat more technical issue with OkCupid, before I bother completing my profile.
I live in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario. This happens to be basically right on the Canada/USA border, with only an international bridge separating me from Sault Ste. Marie, Michigan (forming "The Twin Soo's", for anyone that cares).
This charming arrangement is somewhat of a problem on Okcupid, as my "Local Matches" are producing a ton of people in the States, which is really not feasible in terms of any kind of relationship for me. Moreover I can't really tell if there really are only a scant few people in MY Sault Ste. Marie on OKC or if I'm just not seeing them.
Anyone know of a way to fix this? Like limiting matches to country or something? I've yet to find anything buried in the options. "Located near me" and "Within 25 miles" does not filter enough, it seems.
The distance search is pretty awful as far as I can tell, I think your best bet is to go for a 10 mile search (there are a few people in SSM after all) and just ignore people north of you.
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Not as cute as her pictures, either. Damn.
It's anxiety inducing to go on OKC sometimes and fill out a response, and I've got a lot of work to do on top of that.
So yeah.
If someone doesn't respond it doesn't mean that they aren't interested.
She pulled a Marvel vs. Capcom 2 over me.
I was thinking more
If you're gonna do something, do it well
i hope iron man 2 is as boss as i think it'll be, i'm seeing it at midnite on thursday anyway with a bunch of people. aha!
Be sure to stick your hand in the popcorn when he does all awkwardly.
So, bros and hos...a little help. A review of my profile would be very awesome. I realize it's a bit wordy and that may turn people off, but I didn't intend for it to be as long as it is and when I was done, I thought it was entertaining. Let me know what you think.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Lover_Fighter27
Regarding your profile, ditch the first paragraph entirely. Secondly, ditch the second paragraph. You can make that entire explanation just a line in another paragraph, not another swamp of negativity. Ugh, no more Old Spice jokes.
Your whole intro feels out of sorts - it's an intro, not a list of stuff you should be going into later. Cut it down to the bare minimum, it's there to grab people's attention, not to tell your life story. There's a whole section based on your music movies and books, put that stuff there except for maybe a brief bit in your intro. Perhaps throw out the intro, start again by summarizing what is in your other sections?
Don't write lazy sections. Either make it interesting, funny, or cut the section. Nothing wrong with skipping a few if you just can't think of anything good to put there.
Seriously though, stop excusing yourself. It makes me think you're ashamed of your habits, and I'm just a dude reviewing your profile. Imagine how a girl is going to feel.
your smoking groomsman picture is your worst picture
don't make it your main one
I can sum it up in one word : BORING. Honestly I'd say it was the most boring date I ever had in my entire life.
I dont think either of us did anything wrong, we just dont click together IRL. I had more fun sitting by myself on a patio after the date, sippin on a beer and watchin people pass by. I'd say that's a pretty bad sign.
O well, no big deal.
I'm not going forward with that girl at all. I never really intended to after the second message. On top of that, I was surfing around OKC last night and she sent me an IM. I ignored that am officially weirded out by her at this point. Too strong.
I get ditching the first paragraph. Done.
I get not doing the Old Spice thing. It's gone.
Fixing the intro isn't a bad idea.
Changed my profile picture.
I'm not sure where I'm "excusing myself", though. Besides maybe the paragraph about smoking, I think I talk myself up pretty well. Am I really being that self-deprecating?
Thanks for the help.
One example was your first paragraph, which you've already cut.
By the way, since I have a string of like...4-5 guys who visited my site in the not too distant past, who are all of you on OKC?
Back home, time to start actually meeting ladies now that I am not leaving forever in a few weeks!
I probably need to figure out how to get an actual body shot again, considering how ginormous my nose looks when it's in the middle of the picture.
I've also been considering adding a short list of specific things I am interested in doing with potential dates.
Also the girliest guy ever sent me a wink. They're is more testosterone in the average girl than in this dude. I answered him just for the heck of it.
I don't know how to feel about this really.
when he does what all awkwardly??
You know, when you reach in for some popcorn, but he's reaching in at the same time, and your hands brush against each other, and you both pull back real fast and blush, and he says "oh sorry, go ahead" and you say "oh it's ok, you go", but then he hesitates, so you go in again, only he went in again too and your hands brush against each other again and you both laugh a little and them all of a sudden you're making out.
Gotta stop playing this game
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on what planet does this kind of fuckery happen?!
that or pepperspray and restraining orders, you can never tell which
Saying "No" in the 'do you smoke' field while having that cigar picture, and saying you make over $1 million as a customer service jockey could raise a few red flags, as well.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fS7v9rtm3Y
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. this is exactly how i feel.
something that was not meant to be seen by the girl you like
seriously it blows
edit: totp, fuck. okcupid is pretty awesome, there are far more cool geeks and nerds than i thought
It's because I like the picture, not because I smoke on a regular basis, which has been explained.
And the second is obviously just a sense of humor thing. You either think it's funny or you don't. There are no "red flags" associated with such a thing.
I live in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario. This happens to be basically right on the Canada/USA border, with only an international bridge separating me from Sault Ste. Marie, Michigan (forming "The Twin Soo's", for anyone that cares).
This charming arrangement is somewhat of a problem on Okcupid, as my "Local Matches" are producing a ton of people in the States, which is really not feasible in terms of any kind of relationship for me. Moreover I can't really tell if there really are only a scant few people in MY Sault Ste. Marie on OKC or if I'm just not seeing them.
Anyone know of a way to fix this? Like limiting matches to country or something? I've yet to find anything buried in the options. "Located near me" and "Within 25 miles" does not filter enough, it seems.
man, my iPhone does the same thing. it's so bizarre and always happens at THE worst times.
The distance search is pretty awful as far as I can tell, I think your best bet is to go for a 10 mile search (there are a few people in SSM after all) and just ignore people north of you.
Jobs calls it "iBlunder"